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Originally Posted by 04 F-150
Ok, well I have finally succumb to the relentless pressure of relying upon the great and omnipotent kobi
to help myself make a decision.
Dear Kobi,
There is a girl who arrived in my life just a few months ago. The two of us instantly clicked and had felt like we had known each other forever. We would spend everyday together going to the beach and just hanging out. I felt very strongly about this girl and have never met anyone like her. Not only is she physically gorgeous, but our personalities mirror one another. The only thing between "us" was her POS boyfriend. About two weeks ago, her horrible excuse for a boyfriend decided to break up with her. So a week after that I decided it was time to take our relationship to the next level and ask her out on a date. She then preceded to tell me that she loved me so much but only thought of me as a friend. She even went as far to say I was everything she was looking for in a guy, and she herself couldn't believe she was rejecting me. She said that she "thought" she liked someone else. Obviously it was like taking a punch in the face but I continued on with life.
Now flash forward a week from that moment. The two of us continue to talk and hang out and she is even making advances towards me. She called me to sit with her on the beach at 2 am and of course I was there instantly. She apologized for rejecting me before and says the person she thought she liked was different.
Here is where the question comes: I really like this girl and want to spend every minute I can with her. I plan to ask her out again to a really nice upscale restaraunt. KOBI () , Do you have any tips that can help me sweep her off her feet? Or what to do after dinner?
(I expect to receive a lot of "nail her and move on comments"
but I'm not looking for that, I just want honest opinions, so please help, I'm kind of a hopeless romantic)
to help myself make a decision.Dear Kobi,
There is a girl who arrived in my life just a few months ago. The two of us instantly clicked and had felt like we had known each other forever. We would spend everyday together going to the beach and just hanging out. I felt very strongly about this girl and have never met anyone like her. Not only is she physically gorgeous, but our personalities mirror one another. The only thing between "us" was her POS boyfriend. About two weeks ago, her horrible excuse for a boyfriend decided to break up with her. So a week after that I decided it was time to take our relationship to the next level and ask her out on a date. She then preceded to tell me that she loved me so much but only thought of me as a friend. She even went as far to say I was everything she was looking for in a guy, and she herself couldn't believe she was rejecting me. She said that she "thought" she liked someone else. Obviously it was like taking a punch in the face but I continued on with life.
Now flash forward a week from that moment. The two of us continue to talk and hang out and she is even making advances towards me. She called me to sit with her on the beach at 2 am and of course I was there instantly. She apologized for rejecting me before and says the person she thought she liked was different.
Here is where the question comes: I really like this girl and want to spend every minute I can with her. I plan to ask her out again to a really nice upscale restaraunt. KOBI (
) , Do you have any tips that can help me sweep her off her feet? Or what to do after dinner?(I expect to receive a lot of "nail her and move on comments"
but I'm not looking for that, I just want honest opinions, so please help, I'm kind of a hopeless romantic)
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From: Burleson/Athens/Brownsboro, TX
Originally Posted by lovetrucks
Sigh....a man who is actually a hopeless romantic.
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Originally Posted by CrAz3D
Only a couple weeks after being away from "pos boyfriend", she on the rebound? Tha5t'd be my biggest worry
They were really falling out for about a month, they didn't talk for weeks sometimes. "Emotionally and physically Detatched" is the term I think she used.
But thanks for the concern man
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From: Lost some where in the middle of the Ozark Mountains!
Originally Posted by lovetrucks
Sigh....a man who is actually a hopeless romantic.
But she says he's just a friend, yea she says he's just a friend, ohh baby you....
Yea yea, you women always say thats what you want, but that guy rarely if ever gets the girl. He is imediatly on the friends ladder, and ussually climbs up that pretty fast but he can not jump to the other ladder. Women want the jerk, he's the bad boy, but they think that they are that special woman that can tame him. Women like the challenge. I learned the hard way...... took me years to figure it out.
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Originally Posted by PSS-Mag
But she says he's just a friend, yea she says he's just a friend, ohh baby you....
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Originally Posted by PSS-Mag
....... Women want the jerk, he's the bad boy, but they think that they are that special woman that can tame him. Women like the challenge. I learned the hard way...... took me years to figure it out.
Man I love being a bad boy!!!
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Originally Posted by PSS-Mag
Women want the jerk, he's the bad boy, but they think that they are that special woman that can tame him. Women like the challenge. I learned the hard way...... took me years to figure it out.
sad but true.
it's amazing of the "i think we should just be friends" that i get for being nice, but some of the *******s in my class will treat some girls like total **** and get away with it and end up getting rewarded by the end of the day.
one ******* in particular always makes fun of this one chick, says stupid **** all the time, steals money from her ,but she still acts like its okay latches onto him.
she deserves so much better.
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From: Lost some where in the middle of the Ozark Mountains!
Originally Posted by Budha05STX
I learned this early on in life.
Man I love being a bad boy!!!
Man I love being a bad boy!!!
I wished I would have learned earlier......
All through highschool I was amazed and confused at why, how, it just didnt make sense to me. All the hot, gorgeous, or sweet girls were with jerks and put up with a buttload of BS from them. Things I would never think of doing. Especially the sweet ones, it really upset me. I would be sweet as pie to htem and they'd blow me off, then the ones I wasnt teh slightest bit interested in and tried to lose would be glued to me like fly on fly paper. One day I decided screw this I'm going to be a jerk to everyone!!! IT FREAKIN WORKED!!!!!! DOH... still dont fully understand it but hey, what ever floats thier boat.
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Originally Posted by JBMX928
sad but true.
it's amazing of the "i think we should just be friends" that i get for being nice, but some of the *******s in my class will treat some girls like total **** and get away with it and end up getting rewarded by the end of the day.
one ******* in particular always makes fun of this one chick, says stupid **** all the time, steals money from her ,but she still acts like its okay latches onto him.
she deserves so much better.
it's amazing of the "i think we should just be friends" that i get for being nice, but some of the *******s in my class will treat some girls like total **** and get away with it and end up getting rewarded by the end of the day.
one ******* in particular always makes fun of this one chick, says stupid **** all the time, steals money from her ,but she still acts like its okay latches onto him.
she deserves so much better.
Exactly how I feel! Good to know someone else sees the same s***!
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Originally Posted by 04 F-150
Exactly how I feel! Good to know someone else sees the same s***!
yeah but man theres so many out there.
they all cant be jerk lovers.
i found one in my town that i thought would be different.
we are real good friends n i talked to her alot when he one guy friend she almost went out with started being a **** to her, thought she would ditch him then, month or two later she still talks to me about how stupid he is, i tell her that hes not worth it n she understands, but doesnt just leave him.
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From: Lost some where in the middle of the Ozark Mountains!
Originally Posted by JBMX928
yeah but man theres so many out there.
they all cant be jerk lovers.
i found one in my town that i thought would be different.
we are real good friends n i talked to her alot when he one guy friend she almost went out with started being a **** to her, thought she would ditch him then, month or two later she still talks to me about how stupid he is, i tell her that hes not worth it n she understands, but doesnt just leave him.
they all cant be jerk lovers.
i found one in my town that i thought would be different.
we are real good friends n i talked to her alot when he one guy friend she almost went out with started being a **** to her, thought she would ditch him then, month or two later she still talks to me about how stupid he is, i tell her that hes not worth it n she understands, but doesnt just leave him.
Dont be the shoulder she cries on, that gets you no where except blue ball city fast, so be the one she cries about.
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From: Somewhere in the EU
Originally Posted by CrAz3D
more relationship questions, well, sorta
Dear kobi,
I have a tentative date for ice cream with a chick I've only spoken to in passing, have been talking with her online recently.
Now, would it be good to end the date with the ice cream or ought I continue it with walking around a park or something (I can walk around campus in the nicer areas or at a park in town that has a cool pond, the latter being my preference as of now)?
Also, ought I to pick her up? Would that be weird seeing as how we've never really spoken other than online?
And just to clarify, as I hear she isn't "relationship material" and I'm not looking for one, so that (in my mind) makes my goals and expectations for this 'relationship' point towards what some would call "friends with benefits" (or in more layman's terms, "******* buddy").
k, thnx, luv ya!
Dear kobi,
I have a tentative date for ice cream with a chick I've only spoken to in passing, have been talking with her online recently.
Now, would it be good to end the date with the ice cream or ought I continue it with walking around a park or something (I can walk around campus in the nicer areas or at a park in town that has a cool pond, the latter being my preference as of now)?
Also, ought I to pick her up? Would that be weird seeing as how we've never really spoken other than online?
And just to clarify, as I hear she isn't "relationship material" and I'm not looking for one, so that (in my mind) makes my goals and expectations for this 'relationship' point towards what some would call "friends with benefits" (or in more layman's terms, "******* buddy").
k, thnx, luv ya!
So . . . I'm just going to guess.
I'll say - neither, no, yes . . . in that order.