Things aren't looking good. Currently she says she'll be home tonight but I think I've just been making things worse today. She's in the mode where she acts like she has no soul and I can go to hell. Not an ounce of emotion. Well, she won't be home until late tonight so I'll probably login later after I get home. Got to go work on my car for a bit now. Thanks for the support.

 

Urban...whats the deal. Dont let us hang like this man. Better update us tonight.

 

You want an update? 15 minutes ago, my girlfriend of 4-yrs who wanted to get married told me she no longer wants to get married. She is looking for a place of her own. She says she is not happy here and prefers to be in another town. Although it's only a 15 minute drive away, and she's there 6 days a week, she's not close enough to the city she loves. I bought us a house just 6 months ago and now I have an empty shell to be miserable in.

 

Wow, Cowboy, that sux.

Having been a military wife for the last 22 years I can tell you that where a person lives and/or wants to live can become a huge problem with relationships. I have seen many a marriage end in divorce because the husband gets stationed in BFE or just a different state than where his wife wants to be. The wife gets depressed, angry and resentful. It usually ends badly. I'm really sorry for your troubles but look at it this way; if she couldn't handle being 15 minutes away from the city she loves what would have happened if you'd have to change jobs or something and move even farther away. Hope things start looking better for you soon.

 

Man that sucks! It's better to find out now then later. I don't don't know what to say?? I hope for the best for you. Sorry to hear that bud!

 

I would never have moved out of the city if I knew this were the consequence. Yea, I wanted a house badly but not at this cost. I dunno, I always thought there were bigger things in life that the material stuff.

 

I gotta agree with you there. To me its not where you live but the life you live there.

Good luck buddy. We're here when you need us.

 

Good luck with it UC...

That is rough...maybe she is just working thru some stuff and will straighten up and come home.

A buddy of mine just up and walked out and moved out of state with his kid. He realized a few weeks later it was a mistake and came back.

 

Wow, I totally feel for ya man. that really sux. I'm sure nothing anybody can say right now will help heal your pain, but just know we are all here for you, whenever..day or night...Hope things work out. My parents always told me "things always work out". I hated to hear it, but they always do.

W-M-R...you spelled "BFE" wrong...

Its "MINOT NORTH DAKOTA"

 

I sure hope so. She was going to look for an apartment today. That's a 9-mo commitment minimum. I begged her to stay at her brothers apartment for 7-days before acting just incase. I dont know if she will or not. She wont talk to me today, maybe I'll get some info tomorrow. I pray she's just confused.

Thanks for your comments guys. I dont really have anyone to talk to. I dont want to tell people near me util I have better direction on where things are going. I dont want anyone to look down on her.

 

Hey bud sorry to hear about your situation. There are other things in life than relationships. Get busy on your hobbies to keep your mind off her. If she leaves you find piece knowing it wasn't ment to be. Bolder is a nice college town, plenty more fish in that pond.

I exercise to relieve life’s stresses, you should try getting to the gym and getting in a good hard workout. You'll fell better guaranteed!

Perhaps you could drive up to Cheyenne one of these Saturdays and we can have a cold one at Hooters and watch a game.

Hang in there!

 

Urban hang in there buddy, Iknow it sounds stupid but I always believed things happen for a reason. Its like I tell my daughter...."God made you cute so I don't kill ya!"

 

She apparently doesn't care what you think or how you feel from what I understand. Ask yourself this...Now would you want to live the rest of your natural life, until the day you die with someone like that? After you answer that, think of the so many other girls out there that would treat you a whole lot better. If you don't like the cards you've been dealt...FOLD and wait until the next hand. It's no different than playing cards dude.

 

While that is true, she has her own feelings to consider as well. The main problem I have is that she never communicates until it's too late. Last time we had a dilema was 2-yrs ago. We were living with my Mom while I saved for a house. One day, she's like, I can't take it anymore, I'm getting an apartment. She left that day. I had to choose. At that time I caved in and went to the apartment. She was reluctant to move into the house this year but she did. At least she tried right? I just wish she would have brought her concerns to me before we got to the point we are now. If I knew there was a growing problem, we could have solved it together. Now it seems to late.

That's what I get for having the foolish notion that love can conquer all.

UC

 

There is a ton of cliches that I could type for you....

But nothing can be said that would make it seem right or fair.
I know.. because I've been there before.

I also understand not being able to talk to any of your friends because I've been there too. This is a good place to vent about it because somebody is on here 24 hours a day 7 days a week.

Hang in there!