Very well put cia....oh the games people play.

 

UC, its time to move on. There I said it for her. Move back into your house, it is a great investment & will show future chics that you are stable and planning for the future (never mention to them that you got it with a former GF). If you are that lonely at the house get a dog. Go to the pound & find one that utterly melts you heart like she never could. I can pretty much garuntee that it will never loose its love for you.

 

Hey there bud seems like its over. But like I said before if so, it wasn't meant to be.

Dude if you can afford the mortgage DO NOT get rid of your house. Telling you man to man that would just be foolish! A house is one of the best investments you'll ever have. Your young, single, drive a F150 and have your own house! You know haw many guys would love to be in that situation?? Girl or not your lucky.

Like cia-agent I'v had more than my share up ups and downs with the wife and let me tell you if it weren't for the kids I'd be tappin a lot of sweeties right now! So better to split now then be trapped with kids.

Beleive me you'll get over her. Boulder has plenty of hotties, so you have oppertunities. Be confident in yourself that this is HER choice and you did all you could. Chin up bud, show your pride and walk tall.

 

I appreciate your comments. Thank you. I'm going to let this thread die here for a little while. You guys are all 100% right but you don't know me from adam. Whether I am wrong or right, I believe we're right for eachother. We spent 2-hours together over lunch and I'm optimistic (despite moving her into the new apartment.) There were some real problems with our relationship that I didn't notice and I'm confident the changes I want to make will make a difference. She's afraid that we dont have enough in common I just want to give it another shot and I think I can have that opportunity here soon. For the past 4-yrs, I had a a perfect relationship. I wore the pants, I called the shots, I ruled the roost. We did what I wanted, when I wanted. That wasn't right or fair and that's what I want to do better.

I assure you, if we do end up apart, I'll be fine. Hanging on a thread is a lot harder for me than falling to the ground. I'd probably want to start dating the week after we broke. In fact, through my last three girlfriends I've only been single for a month total. This time, however, I'd probably wait a few weeks out of respect for the 4-years and to make sure I dont mess up any good things being on the rebound.

Thanks again for all the support. You've done me a world of good through this whole thing.

 

I don't see the problem.. .






Don't change who you are! Rule that roost!

 

I still say you should get yourself a dog from the pound. Then you have someone to divert your extra attention to.

 

Just as long as you rule the roost and she cooks the roast your good to go

31C

 

Go get a bee-yatch from the bar. Same diff...

 

The ex won't get as pissed if she pops in & the dog is laying in the bed with him. I think things would really be over if she found the bee-yatch there.

 

Well I hope he'd change the locks when he gets home...

 

50/50 is some mixture that's good is fine, as long as you can live with it...

What's funny is, if she was getting everything her way; she'd be happer than a pig in hsti!


Who understands them?

Maybe we all need to dedicate a week to watching the Lifetime channel to see what's really going on.

 

You guys are a riot. Can we start a thread on this too? "This We Learned on Lifetime"

 

Great. .. A week of Lifetime TV and we'll all be crying about something & stop getting along with one another. E-mails will fly as clicks form behind the scenes. Groups hugs follow shortly there after. My money is on those TX boys and their get-togethers will be the first to meet around a campfire and beat drums while neked and get in touch with each others 'feelings'...

Lay the smack down on the rules... she needs to take 'em or leave 'em!

 

Just stay away from Raouls sheep...SOME thing are sacred ya know! And DZ, you're invited to our 'Texas" get together big boy..you know we like em big in Texas!

 

Well, I must say I am rather saddened by how it all turned out. Ive been watching this read very closely and waiting to see what you would do. However critical I or anyone else may sound please understand, alot of us have been there and done that and just dont want to see you make the same mistakes we did. So hopefully youll remember the advise given to you here down the road.

True love is a wonderful thing. Of that there can be no doubt. But dont make the mistake of thinking that its difficult or that it requires alot of work. Thats nonsense. More often than not a solid and healthy relationship doesnt have the problems your having now. And they almost never end well if they do. Plenty here have given their first hand experiences as proof.

You seem to be involved with someone who hasnt quite matured yet. Or she finally has and doesnt see what she wants in you anymore. You are both very young still, and have quite a bit of growing up to do between the two of you. If it is in fact truely meant to be she will wind up back in your life without you forcing it to happen. Being desperate or afraid of being alone will only help you make some poor decisions. Approach the situation calmly and day by day. Dont obsess over it.

For now let her "move on". Play the waiting game and see what happens. But just leave her alone for awhile. Dont hound her to do everything and anything. When shes ready youll know. Think of it as starting over. Be nice, charming, and thoughtful to her. Just dont pour it on so thick.

You are so unbelievably lucky you just have no idea. As someone else mentioned, your young, have a nice truck, AND OWN A HOME! Id kill for a home of my own right now. Believe me you are doing everything right. She'd would be a fool to leave you. But if that is indeed what happens so be it. You my friend have the upper hand. You could have any woman of your choosing if it comes down to it. Dont ever think otherwise. And as far as respecting the time you had together? That a very romantic sentiment, but meaningless considering how she has shown little respect for your feelings by stringing you along. Be strong , we're all here for you.

Sometimes we get so comfortable with someone that were afraid to let them go. Its all we know so it scares us to death. Whatever the reason you continue to fight uphill were right behind you.I personally wish you well and that you suffer as little heartache as possible. And your right I dont know you from adam. But speaking as someone who married thier highschool sweetheart. I like to think I know a little bit about true love.We dated for 5 years before we got married. At that point there should be no doubt as far as either of you are concerned. She owes you an answer. If for nothing else than so you can perhaps truely find somone who will love you as much elsewhere. Good luck and take care.

9 yrs together with the little lady and still going strong...

Later,

Luis S