Am I in the wrong??
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From: Charlottesville,va
I could never imagine not letting my brother stay with me, or anyone in my family for that matter. Even my cousins. But then again I am really close to everyone. And your wife should not be pulling you away from your family unless you already had problems with your family. Just my thought.
I would let family stay for visit or if I knew awhile in advance to plan out a stay it might of been fine. But everytime somebody asks you for a favor are you able to do it???
Just because he doesnt wanna drive 30min to a place where his other bedroom is at shouldnt be my problem.
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The original post stated 'a few weeks'. Roughly translated, 'a few weeks' means let me get my foot in the door and we'll see how long we can ride this until something breaks down.
The OP handled this pretty well. The only fault on his part and where he could improve in the future, is his wife getting upset about this. She should not been made aware that the dad wasn't returning calls or the ridiculous text sent by the brother. He should deal with his side of the family and take the heat. Likewise, she handles issues with her side, with husbands consult and she always has his back.
Any other formula puts a seven month marriage, or a 32 yr marriage, at risk.
Protect and Defend.
The OP handled this pretty well. The only fault on his part and where he could improve in the future, is his wife getting upset about this. She should not been made aware that the dad wasn't returning calls or the ridiculous text sent by the brother. He should deal with his side of the family and take the heat. Likewise, she handles issues with her side, with husbands consult and she always has his back.
Any other formula puts a seven month marriage, or a 32 yr marriage, at risk.
Protect and Defend.
It should have been discussed with his wife about letting him stay. When asked by his Dad to let the brother move in his reply should have been let me think about it. When he called Dad back he should have said I decided no. That way they don't blame your wife.
Personally, I would have to let him in and give him a set time to get out. However long that may be, 2wks, or whatever. Family comes first. Except inlaws.
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My wife never pulled me away from my family, my brother said that I guess to get his licks in because I see my parents and younger brother and sister(im the middle) every other weekend, me and my wife.
I would let family stay for visit or if I knew awhile in advance to plan out a stay it might of been fine. But everytime somebody asks you for a favor are you able to do it???
Just because he doesnt wanna drive 30min to a place where his other bedroom is at shouldnt be my problem.
I would let family stay for visit or if I knew awhile in advance to plan out a stay it might of been fine. But everytime somebody asks you for a favor are you able to do it???
Just because he doesnt wanna drive 30min to a place where his other bedroom is at shouldnt be my problem.
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Based on the information and situation......if it was one of my immediate family members, I would allow him/her to stay for a short while. But that's me....I put my legs through pants each day and not a skirt.
