That is what I am wondering myself

 

zing.


another +1 for Raoul

 

I don't think it's your Dad's place to ask if a brother can move in with another brother and his wife. Brothers should be having that conversation with each other. It's your decision. You did what's right for you and your wife, that's what matters. If they can't respect that, well as Oxlander said, saved you some Christmas shopping. Move on people, nothing more to see here!

 

who says zing? go crawl back under your rock

 

agreed

 

sounds like your Dad stills thinks he controls your life like when you were 12.

Same with your older brother.

You've stood up to them, made your own decision and they dont like that.

Guess what? This isn't going to change. They will be doing this to you for the rest of your life.

 

I didnt say my dad asked to stay, he asked me for my brother to move in for a "little while".

My brother doesnt get in trouble, he does well in college hes a paramedic trying to become a flight nurse. This was just one crazy broad that said shed go crazy if she ended there friendship, he eventually did and i believe she went crazy.


Now I would do anything for my family, but just asking to stay for a few days isnt the end of it because ive seen it before and it always ends up being longer than said....that being said He has lived with my grandma for awhile, his school is about 1 1/2-2 hours from her house. So its not like he doesnt have any place to go and my parents live 30min from her. Maybe if they had asked me in advance instead of the day of and calling and saying hey we need to know if your brother can come stay for a few days. I have a life too, my parents in no way pay anything of mine. I pay everything from my rent to my truck payment insurance, everything. Me and my wife are tight, but we are just starting out, only been married 7 months. Ive been there for him plenty of times before, at a calls noticed quite a few times ive been on the other side of town or at home and hes called because his car broke down or he needed a ride somewhere and ive done it. Ive never asked him for anything in return because I pretty much never see him except maybe once or twice around the holidays because hes always off doing something else. So its not like I havent helped him before and thats how hes actting now.

 

I agree 100%. It should have been your brother to call you and ask you and your wife. Not the Dad.

Same here with me. Most of my family has told me while I was growing up, (I was in my teens) that I would not mount to nothing. Now, that I'm married for almost 12 years and have 2 adorable boys witch are 9yrs and 2yrs, they seem to call me for help everyday. My brother has been married twice. He disowns his blood child because his new wife thinks he is not part of HER life. My sister has been married 4, yes 4 times, and she thinks she knows how life is suppose to be. Go figure. I'm the middle child here. My brother once called me one weekend and asked me if I would come to his house (which is about 60 miles away) to help him do some welding on the shop he was building. Sure, I went and helped. About 2 years later, I called him to see if he would come to my house and help me with something in my shop. Now this pissed me off on what he said. He told me that I lived too FAR away for him to come and help. And now, with my sister. She has the biggest mouth in the world. She thinks she knows everything. If she meet any of you guys, she would tell you that she new more about your job than you do.

So, to tell you, no, You was not in the wrong.
Damn, I vented alot there. I needed that.

 

Ahh - I thought he was asking if he (the dad) could stay with you.

If he was asking for your brother to be the new house guest, then I think you made the right call by not allowing him to move in. In fact, I think your old man really crossed a line by getting involved in a decision that was previously discussed and made between you and your brother. He had no dog in this fight and should have kept his nose out of it.

 

yea dude your not wrong..if i were in your shoes i wouldnt let him move in or even stay a few nights either..if "dad" cares so much he should take him in or send him some money er something

 

no. not wrong. he could go stay with ur parents.

 

Maybe I'm missing something, but I don't see a problem with him staying for a few days. I would be pretty upset if I didn't have a place to stay, and my brother turned me away b/c his wife said no.

 

What took you so long to reply?
Give the OP your address and he'll send his brother right over.

 

 

Well said and agreed.