Sounds like someone is making an excuse and putting something off that they really shouldn't be putting off.
***EDITED TO ADD****: My prediction? 6 months from now you are saying "I will call her in a few days, once I get the number. I dont want to rush things... then you'll finally call her and she'll say "oh I wish you'd called me 6 months ago, we could've totally gone out, but now I've been dating some other guy you know, and we are in love. Sorry you are too late.

Stuff your excuses in a sack, and call her. if its not for this dance who cares, just don't keep justifying to yourself why you think you'll make an *** of yourself and make yourself seem creepy, just get off your *** and do it!

 

AMEN do it brother!!!!

 

you can read the book i told ya on 10 hours. get to work!

 

Who could resist such a charming fellow??

 

Honestly, id just tell her your only interested in getting some tail. How can you go wrong? If she says no thanks...big deal, you havnt talked to her in years. If she says hell yeah....then its game on biotch

Then again im drunk right now...

 

Nothing wrong with a girl knowing you have other options. Girls want things in demand. At the same time dont make it sound as if your playing the other or running game, just let girl A know girl B exist

And if a girl is saying things like come sit on my couch she probably just needs you to close the deal. If you want to know if you can advance to the first kiss let the conversation trail off. Look into her eyes for 3 seconds, if she turns away or starts to talk then the times not right. If she gives you a full 3 seconds of eye contact, start closing the deal.

 

just go for it, if she leaves you still got the other one, you got nothing to lose.

 

You need to call that girl after getting your mom to find the number and ask her to do something or just flat out ask her to the dance.

So did you Mom have a picture from her Mom showing you what the girl looked like AND said she was single?

I mean what else do you need?

No I'm getting impatient. They've done everything for you but dial the number, tie you down and put the phone to your ear.

Duke

 

Shes a girl she is more capable of human feelings that a football staduim full of grown men. Also always find out a girls parental background. A cheeting father will make her distant and unwanting to trust men. With these girls play the game and never discuss feelings unless they are drunk, always let them initate that portion of the conversation. They usually do not like to open up. A girl who loves her daddy bla bla bla usually falls for the same ol lines and likes to be shown attention and affection.

 

I like dukes thought process here, but I dont agree with asking her to the dance flat out. You havent even spoken to this girl in years and before she commits to a night as your date infront of many people she will want to feel you out and make sure you are both compatable. Women and creatures of comfort and she will not be comftorable going out to a dance with a guy she pretty much just met ( even if she did know u back in the day as lil kids). Then again you are running out of time. Get the coffee date lined up, and dont ask her out right away, it screams deseration that this dance is days away and you still havent lined up a date. Im starting to think we should look at the bigger picture here and drop lining this girl up for the dance. Find some chick you have been working on as a date for this dance and work on lining this one up for prom or whatever comes up next. but as duke said for the love of god do something

 

Maybe someone has to work! I have had something going on allday, school then work,then my other work. I have a ball date lined out (different girl) and I'm going to work on getting the first girl as a girlfriend. Next friday is my birthday so tomarrow I am going to ask off for the 15th and 16th and call he sometime either this weekend or begining of the week and take her out to dinner and talk then possibly pop the question later that night. The only thing is that night would be too young after dinner. Or would a short date(dinner and talk for a little bit) be good for a first date?

 

dinner and talking is good, stay at the table, and order a desert after a while if she wants some. But dont hang around too long that the wait staff gets pissed off.
-Patrick

 

I think its ok for a first "date" to be something relatively brief. Some people try to go all out on the first date to impress the girl and it ends up backfiring in that that begins to be what she expects on every date. Just have a good little conversation and set it up for a good second date, give her something to look forward to. By the way, if it comes to be next week and you still havent called, I'm gonna beat your ***. It's not because I'm trying to be sounding like a jerk, I dont want you to keep finding excuses to put it off and never do it and a year from now be stuck in the "I wonder what would have happened..." mindset.

 

Just how biga boy are ya?

I'm going to dont worry. I have to try and get off next week first. If I can't get off then there is no sense in asking.

 

Taking dating advice from this guy is like taking spelling lessons from Mountneer.