Ok so this girl has been getting on the job training at my pharmacy for two weeks, today was her last day.
Durring the two weeks I've been totally flirting with her, and she's been flirting back. We talked so often on the job durring those two weeks that my boss had to repeatedly warn me to stop and get some work done.
Being her last day today, I bought her lunch, and walked her to her car afterwards and gave her a "goodbye" and "good luck with college" greeting card. I also included my cell number and email number inside it. Well it's now 11pm and no phone call from her, no email, nothing. I'm very dissapointed and think that if she doesn't contact me by Sunday night, I'm down the river. What's the general rule here, how many days can pass without her calling me until I know she's either not interested, or has a boyfriend already?
Some of my peeps say if she doesn't call in 3 days, I'm out.
I'm totally stressing over this to the point I already have a headache. I like this girl a ton, but Day/Night 1 has passed and no contact yet

 

Figure women out? You're kidding, right? Sorry...can't help. Men have been trying to figure women out since Adam & Eve (assuming you believe in that). Any man that says he's got them figured out is full of sh#t...or married for a really long time, and even then, it is only his wife that he's figured out.

My advice: Give it another couple of days. Call back once. If she doesn't respond, she isn't worth your time.

 

I forgot to add something. After walking her to her car, she asked me, "can I have a hug". So we totally hugged. I would think that's a sure sign that she'll stay in touch with me? I hope

 

Give it a couple of days. Do you have her number? Give it a couple of days, and if she doesn't call you, call her once and only once. If she doesn't call you after that, don't call again, or you will end up with a restraining order...

Or, she could feel comfortable around you because she thinks you're gay. Trust me, it happens...

 

Rose will be along shortly she can explain better than any man ever will.

 

^ ^ ^ I was typing as fast as my little fingers would go and my son kept interrupting me on messenger. . . Kids

Fox,
It's only been 1 day, give the girl a couple of days at least, it could even take a week or so. If she is shy, or not outgoing it could take a while to work up the courage to call. That first phone call can be pretty daunting for an introverted person. She may have been friendly and outgoing at work but picking up the phone to make contact outside the work environment is a whole other ball game. She's probably picked up the phone a dozen times and started dialing only to slam it back down and think about it some more. Trust me, done this myself when I was a wee lass. Do you have her number/e-mail? Maybe you should try contacting her instead of waiting.

You said "good-bye, good luck with college" does that mean she is going away to school? Or is she already in school where you are? If she's going away to college then she's probably pretty overwhelmed right now with getting things together for the transition/move. If she's not going anywhere then maybe she just wants a few days to think you over. Don't worry just yet, she may just be really busy and hasn't had time to devote to phone calls or e-mails. Not everyone has the time to check e-mail everyday, I know some folks who are lucky to get computer time once a week. And does she even have access to a computer at home? And maybe she hates talking on the phone. . .don't laugh, there are those of us who have an aversion to the telephone, me being one of them, I'm much more e-mail friendly.

There are to many differences between the minds of men and women to list them all here. Suffice it to say that you'll never understand us and we'll never understand you. You learn to live with it or you don't but don't kill yourself trying to figure us out because it probably won't ever happen!

That being said, good luck with your potential g/f. I hope she contacts you and things work out. But if it doesn't happen I'm sorry to say it was probably not meant to be.

 

For some reason, this whole thing makes me think of the Pat O'brien Voice Mail tapes. Whatever you do, don't do that...

 

"I wany to f&^% you suck you lets get some coke and some w&ores and party" yeah hes a real piece of work!!!!

 

Man, I know how you feel, in my own way. Many times I have given girls my number/emai/whatever and waited for them to call. The only advice I can give you is to go on your day and if she calls your in. If you got her number or email and she doesn't call you should contact her in a week or so, other then that just try and forget about it, unfortunatly and even though you want to be, the last thing you want to do is come of as desperate.

31C

 

Leave Pat alone, he's my hero. Anywho, like I've said before women are gulible nutjobs. Present company excluded of course. Anywho, your screwed the pooch on this one dude. At the car instead of the lame-o "can I have a hug" crap it shoulda been "I'm going to take you out to <whatever activity> Saturday night". BAM! Instant date, you showed your intention and it's all out there. Instead you sissy footed around it and left it in her court. Never leave a choice like that in their court my friend. Their nuts & completely unpredictable. Make the choice for them, sieze the moment.

Live and learn. Next time don't blow it.

/End dose of reality.

 

Oddly enough I have to agree with dzervit. I may not have put it so harsh. But yea next time, don't cop out, just take the lead.

Let me get this straight... You've been hitting on her for 2 weeks and you don't even know if she has a boyfriend???

1. WTF Mate??? WTH have you been talking about???
2. What in the HE** have you been talking about???

From now on...
Rule #1: Don't talk about yourself, answer any questions a women might ask but what ever you do... Don't barf info about you, your truck, or anything else of yours on them. It comes across as self centered, not conversation.

Rule #2: Ask them lots of questions. (IE. About HER Mom & Dad, HER Brothers and/or Sisters, HER Granparents, HER Pets, most importantly HER Boyfriend status! Then anything else about her that you can think of or might want to know, or could be purtent information for you.
If they don't want to answer a question that you ask them then just say "That's fine, I totally understand." Then leave it at that and go on to another question.

Rule #3: If your not asking them a question about them or answering a question that they have asked you, but you want to say something to them... Then make it a compliment or tell a joke.

Rule #4: NEVER EVER Flirt, hug, or especially express written intrest such as a card to a woman until you know thier current relationship status. (IE. BF, Married, Etc.)

Read this thread (Listen to this BS drama that happened to me last night...) I think you'll understand...

 

Dude. Be patient. When I read your post I thought you were like 18 or something but I see that you are not. Give it some time man.

 

Yea gotta say you didn't learn much in 2 weeks.

Oh and when you said "So we totally hugged" I had a flash back to Legally Blonde.

Give it some time but please drop the totally. I feel like someone should be flicking their hair back with an L on their forehead

 

Sounds to me like you are on the wrong ladder... Read up, hope that's not it, but I think you just fell prey to "ladder theory"

http://www.intellectualwhores.com/masterladder.html

 

Looks like I have some reading to do now.

"Back to the Beginning: Yes Virginia, They All Want to Bang You."
"IF A MAN FINDS YOU ATTRACTIVE YOU CANNOT BE FRIENDS"

That's funny.