Well I have been with my girl now for 8yrs+. We have had our big ups and great big downs. All in all I want to make an honest women out of her! Im not the one for these kind of talks to anyone but I know my boys here on this forum could help me out a bit. For those who are married or engaged what are some of the ways ya'll proposed to your ladies? Im trying to think of something but I keep second guessing myself as it may not be good enough or just flat out corny and at 30yrs old I cant wait to much longer. Need to get the ball rolling....

 

I can't say the way I asked my girl to marry me was original, but she loved it.

I placed the engagement ring in a pair of slippers she desperately wanted for Christmas. Naturally when she opened it and went to put them on she had to remove the box... that is when I got down on one knee and did the rest!

I thought it was cool! She thought it was the greatest idea ever! In the end she'll be happy with however you propose!

I wish you the best of luck and hope she says yes!

Cheers bud

Nemi

 

My son took his now wife up on a 4wd ride to check the view and take pictures. Asked her to get something out of the jeep and when she turned around he was on his knee with the ring. He wants to sell the jeep now, about 3 years later, but she doesn't want him to sell it.

My son in law did it at a Ducks hockey game on the big screen.

Both are still married and very happy.

Congratulations. Let us know when you do it.

 

I feel you have to know your girl, and I'm sure you do after 8 years, and choose your strategy off of that.

I'd personally never put a woman (or myself) on the spot like on a big screen in front of thousands of people, and I wouldn't trust whatever answer I got to be her true feelings in a high-pressure situation like that. But some women love that sort of thing, while others would feel violated that something so personal was made so public.

Popping the question must have surely come up in some form over the years, hasn't it? My parents essentially decided mutually that they were going to get married and it was simply a matter of time before my dad asked and how. I hope for this sort of situation, because it takes a TON of the stress off.

Do you feel it would be a surprise to her, or more that she's expecting it in some fashion? I feel that how much she may be anticipating it is a big factor in what sort of way you ask. 8 years is a LONG time to be together (even if off and on) and not have marriage be an issue, so thumbsup on that!

 

Its going to be tuff. I dont think she would like the spotlight thing though. We are going threw a bit of a funk all the sudden! Either way its what I want to do just unsure how to do it yet? Wanted to just do it at the house but it seemed "cheap" but she might like that? Boy this is a tuff one to figure out lol.

 

In the end, she's going to say yes (or no) no matter how you do it, you know? A fancy dinner or elaborate set-up is only going to be spoiling her and make for a nice story. In the end, she'll feel the way she feels no matter what and it's the physical asking of the question that is important, the specifics are just extra.

 

Sorry dude, you just don't know women, trust me. All it takes is one of her friends to be proposed to in a super fancy way and then he (the OP) is in the dog house. Women eat, drink, and sleep this stuff and it should be special for her. It usually doesn't make a hill of beans to guys, gals are just wired different. Knowing your gal well is the key, but yes a crappy proposal probably won't change her mind. Just gotta make her feel special.

But we will chalk up you not knowing to being young and picked on by MGD!

 

Well contrary to what you believe about me, and you can choose to believe me or not, I do indeed know how they think. It is quite important to them, but it won't change their answer. I've done personally, and been a part of, enough prom and homecoming proposals to know that some love the giant, flashy things, and others (the good ones) don't need it. You wouldn't believe what these girls expect now from a homecoming offer, even (especially) if you aren't dating them.

I even had some ***** go behind my back and ask my own girlfriend to senior prom in front of literally half the school with several members of faculty involved in setting it up. Now, before I am accused of waiting too long to ask my own girl, it was about 2 weeks before anyone even thought about asking someone to prom. She, under pressure, said yes and I had to do an unbelievable amount of damage control to fix it. Because of the extreme lengths that this kid went to, and because she loved it that much, I had to attempt to better it. And I probably didn't but I attacked in another way, that was much to her satisfaction. (I'll share the whole story if you like, cause I gotta give the kid credit, he really outdid himself and it was better and more extensive than anything I'd have ever come up with. It was a homecoming request of the century as far as I'm concerned.)

I'm trying to tell him not to over think the entire situation and put too much emphasis on the wrong thing(s). After 8 long years, she needs to be taken care of right, but above all, she needs to be asked, period. I don't want to get into all of his personal details on why he hasn't asked until yet, because I've been a part of two relationship that have been F'd up in ways beyond the wildest imagination for someone my age. BUT, if I was with someone for that long, I'd just want to be asked in one way or another.

As an interesting side note, I do appreciate all the little things, and they're very important to me, much more than the typical guy, and am highly detail oriented, so I understand why they think the way they do and why they place emphasis on certain things such as this. Men and women aren't wired all that differently, but what the other ends of the wires are connected to, i.e. what is seen, are a little different. But women still do some STUUUUUUUPID sh**!!! Stuff that I can't explain.

But enough about that, this is all about our boy in central PA.

 

So the day I was going to propose I had everything all set. During the previous work week I had made the obligatory call to her father to ask for her hand and received his blessing. Saturday morning arrived and the plan rolled into action.

Unfortunately, that morning Bride-To-Be's sister called and started moaning and whining about when I was going to propose and how we had been dating long enough that I should have popped the question by now. We had been living together and she had made two different moves (Albuquerque to Kansas City & Kansas City to Minneapolis) for job transfers I had gotten since we started dating, so it was a sore subject to begin with.

Needless to say, this put Bride-To-Be in a foul mood, and by the time she got off the phone with her sister she was pretty much PO'd at me. Well, one thing led to another and she started tearing into me about the whole deal, so in the heat of the moment I stormed back to my closet, pulled out the engagement ring and went back to her and basically said, "HERE!!!"

Long story short, I would never advise anyone propose in such a fashion, but that's the way I did it......

 

As corny as it sounds I took my wife for a walk on the beach. After walking for a little bit I found a spot that was somewhat quiet with a good view. Dropped to a knee and asked her to be my wife. That was in 2000 and we're still together. I sort of agree that doing it too public could get you a false answer but you do want to make is special to her. Regardless of how you ask, if she wants you, she'll say yes. If she sais no because of how you ask she's not worth it.

 

About a month ago, I attended my son's wedding. It took place on the beach at the Garza Blanco Hotel at Puerto Vallarta, Mexico. If you can afford taking her to an exotic place like that, it would be memorable.

 

sorry, i had to

 

My girlfriend did the wedding photography for a family friend and they told her how he proposed. We live in South Carolina and they went to go shooting one day and he ran out of shotgun shells and asked her to grab another box and when she opened it, it was around a shell. So if yall like shooting or some outdoor thing you could do something like that.

 

She wont care how you ask. Shes been waiting around for 8 years. just get it over with.

 

Well she and I both enjoy country music. There is a festival coming up sometime in may I thought about Doing it there but talked myself out of it because shes not a spotlight kinda girl. We also enjoy riding. I bought her a honda rincon and I got my crf450. I know some pretty spectacular views where we ride. I need to do this soon and make an honest women put of this girl because she has put up with me in ways you guys wouldnt believe!! And I truly mean that lol. You know I asked my good friend when he was getting married " I say, you sure you want to marry this broad"?? We all know how the girl is and he said yeah I sure do. I supported his decision like a brother would. Well this month he filed for divorce. He came to me and said. Dave, why in the hell didnt you talk me out of that **** LMAO!. So I figured I would ask him what he thinks about me asking liz to be mine. His exact words were "what are you waiting for I wont talk you out of this because shes a good girl and keeps your *** in line" I think he was being honest haha. Boy my palms havent stopped sweating for days now. Got some mpre prep time to figure out the perfect way. Shes not a material girl or anything like that so im sure ring size wont matter to her....