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I do believe in asking for permission, but if it's right... I'd do it anyways 
What about taking a nice ride on the bikes and packing a nice picnic lunch. It's probably cold now though, but something like that in nice weather might be nice since she probably won't expect it.
Then get desert
In all seriousness though, the longer you wait, the more nervous you are going to get. And I hate to say it, but any woman that is worth a man's time should at some point want to be married to him. If you wait to long, she might think you aren't going to ever propose. Just something to think about.
What about taking a nice ride on the bikes and packing a nice picnic lunch. It's probably cold now though, but something like that in nice weather might be nice since she probably won't expect it.
Then get desert
In all seriousness though, the longer you wait, the more nervous you are going to get. And I hate to say it, but any woman that is worth a man's time should at some point want to be married to him. If you wait to long, she might think you aren't going to ever propose. Just something to think about.
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Well she and I both enjoy country music. There is a festival coming up sometime in may I thought about Doing it there but talked myself out of it because shes not a spotlight kinda girl. We also enjoy riding. I bought her a honda rincon and I got my crf450. I know some pretty spectacular views where we ride. I need to do this soon and make an honest women put of this girl because she has put up with me in ways you guys wouldnt believe!! And I truly mean that lol. You know I asked my good friend when he was getting married " I say, you sure you want to marry this broad"?? We all know how the girl is and he said yeah I sure do. I supported his decision like a brother would. Well this month he filed for divorce. He came to me and said. Dave, why in the hell didnt you talk me out of that **** LMAO!. So I figured I would ask him what he thinks about me asking liz to be mine. His exact words were "what are you waiting for I wont talk you out of this because shes a good girl and keeps your *** in line" I think he was being honest haha. Boy my palms havent stopped sweating for days now. Got some mpre prep time to figure out the perfect way. Shes not a material girl or anything like that so im sure ring size wont matter to her....
I can't say I know a whole lot of girls that like country music, love being outside, love riding, keep people in line in constructive ways without being psycho, etc. So I think you have a good one on the line 
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Well contrary to what you believe about me, and you can choose to believe me or not, I do indeed know how they think. It is quite important to them, but it won't change their answer. I've done personally, and been a part of, enough prom and homecoming proposals to know that some love the giant, flashy things, and others (the good ones) don't need it. You wouldn't believe what these girls expect now from a homecoming offer, even (especially) if you aren't dating them.
I even had some ***** go behind my back and ask my own girlfriend to senior prom in front of literally half the school with several members of faculty involved in setting it up. Now, before I am accused of waiting too long to ask my own girl, it was about 2 weeks before anyone even thought about asking someone to prom. She, under pressure, said yes and I had to do an unbelievable amount of damage control to fix it. Because of the extreme lengths that this kid went to, and because she loved it that much, I had to attempt to better it. And I probably didn't but I attacked in another way, that was much to her satisfaction. (I'll share the whole story if you like, cause I gotta give the kid credit, he really outdid himself and it was better and more extensive than anything I'd have ever come up with. It was a homecoming request of the century as far as I'm concerned.)
I'm trying to tell him not to over think the entire situation and put too much emphasis on the wrong thing(s). After 8 long years, she needs to be taken care of right, but above all, she needs to be asked, period. I don't want to get into all of his personal details on why he hasn't asked until yet, because I've been a part of two relationship that have been F'd up in ways beyond the wildest imagination for someone my age. BUT, if I was with someone for that long, I'd just want to be asked in one way or another.
As an interesting side note, I do appreciate all the little things, and they're very important to me, much more than the typical guy, and am highly detail oriented, so I understand why they think the way they do and why they place emphasis on certain things such as this. Men and women aren't wired all that differently, but what the other ends of the wires are connected to, i.e. what is seen, are a little different. But women still do some STUUUUUUUPID sh**!!! Stuff that I can't explain.
But enough about that, this is all about our boy in central PA.
I even had some ***** go behind my back and ask my own girlfriend to senior prom in front of literally half the school with several members of faculty involved in setting it up. Now, before I am accused of waiting too long to ask my own girl, it was about 2 weeks before anyone even thought about asking someone to prom. She, under pressure, said yes and I had to do an unbelievable amount of damage control to fix it. Because of the extreme lengths that this kid went to, and because she loved it that much, I had to attempt to better it. And I probably didn't but I attacked in another way, that was much to her satisfaction. (I'll share the whole story if you like, cause I gotta give the kid credit, he really outdid himself and it was better and more extensive than anything I'd have ever come up with. It was a homecoming request of the century as far as I'm concerned.)
I'm trying to tell him not to over think the entire situation and put too much emphasis on the wrong thing(s). After 8 long years, she needs to be taken care of right, but above all, she needs to be asked, period. I don't want to get into all of his personal details on why he hasn't asked until yet, because I've been a part of two relationship that have been F'd up in ways beyond the wildest imagination for someone my age. BUT, if I was with someone for that long, I'd just want to be asked in one way or another.
As an interesting side note, I do appreciate all the little things, and they're very important to me, much more than the typical guy, and am highly detail oriented, so I understand why they think the way they do and why they place emphasis on certain things such as this. Men and women aren't wired all that differently, but what the other ends of the wires are connected to, i.e. what is seen, are a little different. But women still do some STUUUUUUUPID sh**!!! Stuff that I can't explain.
But enough about that, this is all about our boy in central PA.
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I was actually more mad at her for saying yes.
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If I had been there and my girl wasn't non-stop pleading with me not to, you bet your *** I would have. He's a pathetic little sh*t that's been obsessed with her for a long time. I'm not a huge guy, but much bigger than he is. I haven't been that hot about anything else that I can remember. That was a year ago and it still pisses me off.
I was actually more mad at her for saying yes.
I was actually more mad at her for saying yes.
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If I had been there and my girl wasn't non-stop pleading with me not to, you bet your *** I would have. He's a pathetic little that's been obsessed with her for a long time. I'm not a huge guy, but much bigger than he is. I haven't been that hot about anything else that I can remember. That was a year ago and it still pisses me off.
I was actually more mad at her for saying yes.
I was actually more mad at her for saying yes.
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She ain't. I broke up with her *** before I went off to school. She's still hotter'n hell though
jethat, I can't harbor hatred like that and I'd feel bad doing it to him, especially now. It's like whacking a dog for pissing in the house 8 hours after he done it, if it ain't done immediately, he don't know why he's getting hit.
jethat, I can't harbor hatred like that and I'd feel bad doing it to him, especially now. It's like whacking a dog for pissing in the house 8 hours after he done it, if it ain't done immediately, he don't know why he's getting hit.
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She ain't. I broke up with her *** before I went off to school. She's still hotter'n hell though
jethat, I can't harbor hatred like that and I'd feel bad doing it to him, especially now. It's like whacking a dog for pissing in the house 8 hours after he done it, if it ain't done immediately, he don't know why he's getting hit.
jethat, I can't harbor hatred like that and I'd feel bad doing it to him, especially now. It's like whacking a dog for pissing in the house 8 hours after he done it, if it ain't done immediately, he don't know why he's getting hit.
Just funning with you boy.
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She ain't. I broke up with her *** before I went off to school. She's still hotter'n hell though
jethat, I can't harbor hatred like that and I'd feel bad doing it to him, especially now. It's like whacking a dog for pissing in the house 8 hours after he done it, if it ain't done immediately, he don't know why he's getting hit.
jethat, I can't harbor hatred like that and I'd feel bad doing it to him, especially now. It's like whacking a dog for pissing in the house 8 hours after he done it, if it ain't done immediately, he don't know why he's getting hit.
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True, and if he wasn't a huge dork, I probably would have. Kids like that already have enough issues without me adding to them, even if I'd like to.
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He sounds like a guy who has some *****. Ask a girl who has a boyfriend? Either he thought he had a chance and she did from what your saying actually say yes.. He aint the one with issues. He thought he could get away with taking your girl away.. Almost, from what your saying did.. Where I come from from the second he did that he is the enemy.. Even if it turns out you dont like the girl. At some point you run into the guy and if its me the subject comes up.. Not totally necessary to beat the guy to death or even lay a finger on him. But you could make him regret his lack of respect.. Less he intimidates you. In witch case his lack of respect was justified. That is the way the world turns..
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She ain't. I broke up with her *** before I went off to school. She's still hotter'n hell though
jethat, I can't harbor hatred like that and I'd feel bad doing it to him, especially now. It's like whacking a dog for pissing in the house 8 hours after he done it, if it ain't done immediately, he don't know why he's getting hit.
jethat, I can't harbor hatred like that and I'd feel bad doing it to him, especially now. It's like whacking a dog for pissing in the house 8 hours after he done it, if it ain't done immediately, he don't know why he's getting hit.
My now girl got so fed up with her playing head games she found out where she lived and procceded from there. See I had co-signed for my ex to get a 2008 Focus and I wanted it back because it was in my name. well one day a couple cops showed up at my door ready to take me to jail for vandilizam <--- I spell that right? Anyhow I asked them what they were talking about and they showed me pics of this what looked like focus covered in eggs and I dont mean 1 or 2 im talking a few dozen. I said I had nothing to do with it. The told me the ex called the cops and told them it was me. Anyhow I got out of it and went to look at the car. Boy was it tore up! There were dents all over, busted mirrors and cracked windshield. It was 2yrs later my now girlfriend and hope to be wife told me she did it LOL. I was F-in shocked!!!!! Tell me that isnt sticking by your man!
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To the OP, you said you and her like to go riding. How about hiding the ring in her helmet or boots or glove when you go out for a nice weekend ride?
The plus is, she will always have a fond heart about riding and, you will be able to go riding
whenever you want for years to come!
The plus is, she will always have a fond heart about riding and, you will be able to go riding
whenever you want for years to come!
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He sounds like a guy who has some *****. Ask a girl who has a boyfriend? Either he thought he had a chance and she did from what your saying actually say yes.. He aint the one with issues. He thought he could get away with taking your girl away.. Almost, from what your saying did.. Where I come from from the second he did that he is the enemy.. Even if it turns out you dont like the girl. At some point you run into the guy and if its me the subject comes up.. Not totally necessary to beat the guy to death or even lay a finger on him. But you could make him regret his lack of respect.. Less he intimidates you. In witch case his lack of respect was justified. That is the way the world turns..
Redneck, for you, I would provide pics, but not for everyone publicly
from a physical standpoint, I really outdid myself with her for sure! Well, that car ain't worth much after that is it? What kind of weak evidence do they have that they're gonna charge you off of her word, then leave as soon as you say you didn't do it? They expect you to be like "yes officer, I absolutely did that to her car"?You've been with this current girl for 8 years, but helped your ex by a car that's only 6 years old? Hmmmm . . .
She did support you though! That's for sure.Vandalism by the way