Short version at the end.

well, this likely is not the best place to ask, but I need to ask.
I just need to get this off my chest, and make a choice.

My current g/f and I have dated three times before this, one for two years, then about 6 months twice.

After that she ran away and got married, now she has child, the baby may or may not be mine, looks like me and nothing like him, however there was no father on the B-Cert.

We have been living with each other since mid march, and things just kept getting worse and worse.

When I first moved in I worked my normal 40H a week job, came home and cleaned house, completely and cooked.

I let it slide for a while, until i got tired of it, we got into a large (word) fight and she started helping, but I think she still has a serious attitude problem.

Always smarting off to me and putting me down, causing a second fight.

Now she has changed a little and stopped smarting off so much and stopped putting me down so much.

She still has a problem with listing to what I say, even though at first I was responsible for getting her up, and making her ready for work. She now does get her self up for work.

only thing is, we only have one truck, mine. so I have to get up at 4AM and take her to work, then go to my job that starts at 8AM, she has to has her parents come get her from work, because I am still at work, yet will not stay home with out me.

Last night the the final straw among many was had.

I was ready to leave, and so was she. We had just finished helping my dad at his kart track, and while I was doing a few final things for my dad she walked off.

I got in my truck and was ready to go, yet she ignored me, and smarted off so I left her there.
I really should not have left her, but I really wanted to go and she was smarting off to me.

She did find her way home with a friend who happens to live in the next door apt who was there.

so, long story short.

I was going to leave last night and she started balling.
I can understand why, I love her and she loves me.
But I don't think thats enough to make it work, I didn't leave because I do not want to hurt her, but I am not happy.

She not ugly or fat, I am sure people would find her physically attractive, I just do not any more.

Her personality (to me) is lacking, its like I have to raise her

It seems like all we do is fight and argue. we never have a problem at home but when we go out its like she changes into a huge bitty! like she has something to prove to everyone, and that she is in charge of me and the relationship.

What do I do?

I want to leave her, but I also want it to work out.
I am not happy, but I want to be.

I don't want to hurt her, but I don't want to live like this.

She keeps telling me she can change, but I don;t know if she will or can, she is happy one second and snapping at me the next!

Sorry,
Thanks.

Sorry for putting this here, I just need to talk to some one about it.

 

 

ha ha, on a lighter note.

my new weathertech liners front and rear are really nice! and work really good!.


I also had the truck in the mud for the first time this Friday!

 

Get a DNA test on you and the child, you know the little one. If it's yours, pay the support and consider yourself lucky to have gotten off so cheaply.

 

Get your ***** out of the jar on top of the refrigerator and tell her when she is ready to grow up and do a 50/50 you can talk.

Or go to a counsilor.

Or suck it up.

Not sure if you really wanted any replies but those are your choices.

 

Typically with these threads, you can throw out the first five to eight responses.
Then someone will offer real advice.
Then two posts will differ in opinion, by page 3 you will lose track of the 'X2's and 'what he saids'.

You end up no better off than the guy who asked if he should change his oil every 3k or 5k.

 

You? WOOT!

This guy has all the answers...

























Seriously, you already know what you need to do... Good luck having the guts to do it.

A couple of will help with the decision.

 

I think this might be my best option, but he (her ex) is paying or supposed to be paying.


Thanks for the reply, she wants to talk about it and try to work it out.

My family does not like her, or her family, and on top of that her mom has shot at me.

I some times wonder what compelled me to go back to her again.

 

you guys really are right, I really do need to find it in my self to just get it over with and not drag it out, but its hard to do.

call me a wuss but, I really do love her, its just not going to work.

She is who she is, and I am me. No one can change that.

 

just kidding




anyway, get a DNA test and find out if the kid is yours


and as others have stated, start with some counseling (IF you care about her enough to put in the energy to make a relationship work)

 

Dude that isn't love! It's either pitty or you are in heat.

Get real shot by her mom! The fruit doesn't fall far from the tree.

Sounds like she is BONKERS, get as far away as fast as you can. You are just a tool for her!

 

Maybe you can get half the money from him if it's yours, he might be grateful.


Dump her quick, you don't want to be any kin to a woman that caint shoot straight.

 

Thanks guys, I think my best bet is to take her to work tomorrow morning and just come home and pack my things, I should have two hours. Plenty of time.

 

Get as far away from her as you can and stay away. If your not happy your life will suck forever and just because it gets good for a little wile its going to go back in the dumps looking at your track record with her.

 

Run and don't look back this time.