They always saw the crazy ones are best in bed ;-)

Seriously dude, if the kid is not yours then I'd get out. The best way for a guy to get over someone is to hit the bars up and find you another woman.

Been there and done that (without the kid), although I had one crazy ex rope me back in by telling me she was pregnant with my kid. After no baby bump, i gave her a bump and got out of harms way!

 

This gal sounds EXCATLY like my ex! except for her ma shootin at you and that she has a kid. Find out if the child is yours or not -do what you gotta do for it -the kid -then GET AWAY FROM THAT BITCH!!!!! I even went to JAIL when I was w/ my ex{long story short-she attacked me-I had to restrain her to prevent myself from getting hit! and I GO TO JAIL B/C I AM A MAN!! SHE GOT NOTHING not even a slap on the wrist!} It will hurt at first it did for me b/c I THOUGHT that I really LOVED her! But In time wounds and your heart WILL heal! I found my Fiancee later that year almost 5 years ago and we will be MARRIED in OCT!!!

Good luck with whatever you decide to do-best advise somone gave me" IT TAKES TWO TO MAKE IT WORK AND TWO MAKE IT LAST"-my DAD

If she REALLY loves you she will do ANYTHING to make it work if she doesnt- a REAL woman doesnt act like she does!!

 

 

Yeah give it a week he'll be on here cryin about how she left or slutted around on em again. You can't change a ***** into a housewife.

 

Here are a few things to try. Be excessively honest with her. Tell her how you really feel. It's not your job to protect her from the truth. Tell it to her straight, and let the chips fall where they fall. She may make the biggest contribution to this decision.

Tell her you want to reverse the rolls. Now it is her turn to get you up for work, and to clean the house while you talk smart.

Go on over to her side. Do your best to destroy the relationship while she is the only one who can save it. Explain that if she can't save it, then both of you will be working to destroy it, speeding up the process.

Lastly, explain that no one in their right mind would continue in a relation with her acting the way she has, but your in love with her, which is driving you crazy.

You have nothing to lose here. What is the worst thing that can happen? Maybe she can't deal with the truth, leaves you, and you end up with a smart responsible conservative organized wife who is repulsed with sex because it makes such a mess, and thinks you need to grow up and drive something more economical.

 

lol ^

Well, its going ok so far. We talked about it because I wanted to give her one last time to prove to me she cares.

So far she has cleaned every mess I have made, got her self up and ready for work and had my clothes laid out.

I have had dinner every night so far waiting on me, and the house has been absolutely clean.

She has banked $230 and swore not to spend it, and even gave me $150 to pay the $120 electric bill and filled my truck up.

So, last night I got a netflix trial and we watched a movie (the crow COA) and I have several shows marked to watch later.

I got to watch Spartacus blood and sand first show, it was great.

She even enjoyed it, and spent some time playing with me on my 360 co-op.

So far so good I guess.

Thanks all.

 

damn

i was hoping to get on here and read "well we talked, and i booted her in the ***!!"

 

You just talked to her last night. All that happened in less than 24 hours?

 

I guess he spent a week with her last night?

 

This has been going on since Sunday, I just am a little behind with you all. We talked about it monday night, and again tusday night.

She had dinner ready both nights, and cleaned the house. She also got paid monday, and showed me the deposit slip.

 

What ever "magic" words you used on her won't stick. It seems she is willing to try but there are old habits inside her head.

Both of you need to go and get some professional help now if you want this thing to last.

 

OP - IMO, she's straightened up temporarily because she does not have any better options at the moment.

My guess is she'll soon tire of the effort. And eventually she'll find another guy that will put up with her BS, and you will be picking up the peices.

If not for the prospect you were a father to her child, I would have said move on.

 

Its much easier to walk early... than to wait and run when its too late!

 

I have heard this, and its true, but I want to see if she really will change.

This is also likely, but maybe she really does love me and wants to change, if not I might as well enjoy what I have while I have it and move on later if/when it comes to that.

 

Kudos to you for trying. Hope it works out.