she says she can change?
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Trust me-U WILL NOT REGRET YOUR DECISION TO LEAVE!!!
when I broke up w/ my ex 4 years ago I will admit it hurt for a bit.Then I started to realize all the things I was missing in my life i.e DOING WHAT I WANTED WHEN I WANTED AND NOT HAVING TO LISTEN TO HER BITCH ABOUT IT AND CONSTANTLY COMPLAIN ABOUT EVERY DAMN THING THAT DID NOT GO HER WAY! litte by little I started to feel better about myself and the more and more I did what I wanted to do I WAS HAPPY
All me and my ex did was fight. A REAL relationship is NOT bulit on that!! I got re-aquainted w/ MY freinds{they all just about alienated me b/c they could not stand my ex}
unfortunatly I was STILL living at home at the time and my bitch of an ex had finances soo screwed up it took me almost 2 years after we broke up to get out on my own!
{I was only 24 when we started dating}
My ONLY regrets w/ my ex is that I yes I said I let our so called "relationship" go on for almost 5 years
But I was young and stupid too I have learned from my past mistakes and have a GREAT woman now
As for my ex she married a real submissive wuss of a dude that she can push around anytime that she pleases! My Cousin saw her a few months after we broke up and said she was w/ a scrawny *** man and she was as big as a damn house
when I broke up w/ my ex 4 years ago I will admit it hurt for a bit.Then I started to realize all the things I was missing in my life i.e DOING WHAT I WANTED WHEN I WANTED AND NOT HAVING TO LISTEN TO HER BITCH ABOUT IT AND CONSTANTLY COMPLAIN ABOUT EVERY DAMN THING THAT DID NOT GO HER WAY! litte by little I started to feel better about myself and the more and more I did what I wanted to do I WAS HAPPYAll me and my ex did was fight. A REAL relationship is NOT bulit on that!! I got re-aquainted w/ MY freinds{they all just about alienated me b/c they could not stand my ex}
unfortunatly I was STILL living at home at the time and my bitch of an ex had finances soo screwed up it took me almost 2 years after we broke up to get out on my own!
{I was only 24 when we started dating}My ONLY regrets w/ my ex is that I yes I said I let our so called "relationship" go on for almost 5 years
But I was young and stupid too
I have learned from my past mistakes and have a GREAT woman nowAs for my ex she married
a real submissive wuss of a dude that she can push around anytime that she pleases! My Cousin saw her a few months after we broke up and said she was w/ a scrawny *** man and she was as big as a damn house
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Hey, if it is not your kid, good riddance to bad trash.
But IF it is your child, you can't ignore the elephant in the room forever.
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Its done and over.
I packed and got out after I dropped her of at work, I am going to have my cell number changed.
Goog thing I have a truck, its loaded down and at moms house, she was kind enough to let me drive her spare car to work, she offered me the jeep but i passed.
I feel bad and good at the same time. I feel free but ****y because of how I left, oh well.
Time to move on.
I packed and got out after I dropped her of at work, I am going to have my cell number changed.
Goog thing I have a truck, its loaded down and at moms house, she was kind enough to let me drive her spare car to work, she offered me the jeep but i passed.
I feel bad and good at the same time. I feel free but ****y because of how I left, oh well.
Time to move on.
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i honestly who no idea who is the father, I kinda of want a kid, but I also don't right now.
IF, and only IF she does turn out to be mine then I will fight to the end over her, but I doubt it would be hard to get her.
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IF, and only IF she does turn out to be mine then I will fight to the end over her, but I doubt it would be hard to get her.
How are you going to fight to the end for her? You couldn't even tell the gf to her face you were leaving.
It probably is best that you left because you weren't ready to wear big boy pants and do the things that were necessary to find out if the kid was yours.
Glad you "feel" so much better about yourself, while your possable daughter is sentenced to life with the crazies, because she can't run home to mommy. Don't bother with the paternity test because you aren't man enough to be a dad, all it will do is F-up the kid more.
Let this be a life lesson for you. I think Raoul nailed it.
Good luck!
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Short version at the end.
well, this likely is not the best place to ask, but I need to ask.
I just need to get this off my chest, and make a choice.
My current g/f and I have dated three times before this, one for two years, then about 6 months twice.
After that she ran away and got married, now she has child, the baby may or may not be mine, looks like me and nothing like him, however there was no father on the B-Cert.
We have been living with each other since mid march, and things just kept getting worse and worse.
When I first moved in I worked my normal 40H a week job, came home and cleaned house, completely and cooked.
I let it slide for a while, until i got tired of it, we got into a large (word) fight and she started helping, but I think she still has a serious attitude problem.
Always smarting off to me and putting me down, causing a second fight.
Now she has changed a little and stopped smarting off so much and stopped putting me down so much.
She still has a problem with listing to what I say, even though at first I was responsible for getting her up, and making her ready for work. She now does get her self up for work.
only thing is, we only have one truck, mine. so I have to get up at 4AM and take her to work, then go to my job that starts at 8AM, she has to has her parents come get her from work, because I am still at work, yet will not stay home with out me.
Last night the the final straw among many was had.
I was ready to leave, and so was she. We had just finished helping my dad at his kart track, and while I was doing a few final things for my dad she walked off.
I got in my truck and was ready to go, yet she ignored me, and smarted off so I left her there.
I really should not have left her, but I really wanted to go and she was smarting off to me.
She did find her way home with a friend who happens to live in the next door apt who was there.
so, long story short.
I was going to leave last night and she started balling.
I can understand why, I love her and she loves me.
But I don't think thats enough to make it work, I didn't leave because I do not want to hurt her, but I am not happy.
She not ugly or fat, I am sure people would find her physically attractive, I just do not any more.
Her personality (to me) is lacking, its like I have to raise her
It seems like all we do is fight and argue. we never have a problem at home but when we go out its like she changes into a huge bitty! like she has something to prove to everyone, and that she is in charge of me and the relationship.
What do I do?
I want to leave her, but I also want it to work out.
I am not happy, but I want to be.
I don't want to hurt her, but I don't want to live like this.
She keeps telling me she can change, but I don;t know if she will or can, she is happy one second and snapping at me the next!
Sorry,
Thanks.
Sorry for putting this here, I just need to talk to some one about it.
well, this likely is not the best place to ask, but I need to ask.
I just need to get this off my chest, and make a choice.
My current g/f and I have dated three times before this, one for two years, then about 6 months twice.
After that she ran away and got married, now she has child, the baby may or may not be mine, looks like me and nothing like him, however there was no father on the B-Cert.
We have been living with each other since mid march, and things just kept getting worse and worse.
When I first moved in I worked my normal 40H a week job, came home and cleaned house, completely and cooked.
I let it slide for a while, until i got tired of it, we got into a large (word) fight and she started helping, but I think she still has a serious attitude problem.
Always smarting off to me and putting me down, causing a second fight.
Now she has changed a little and stopped smarting off so much and stopped putting me down so much.
She still has a problem with listing to what I say, even though at first I was responsible for getting her up, and making her ready for work. She now does get her self up for work.
only thing is, we only have one truck, mine. so I have to get up at 4AM and take her to work, then go to my job that starts at 8AM, she has to has her parents come get her from work, because I am still at work, yet will not stay home with out me.
Last night the the final straw among many was had.
I was ready to leave, and so was she. We had just finished helping my dad at his kart track, and while I was doing a few final things for my dad she walked off.
I got in my truck and was ready to go, yet she ignored me, and smarted off so I left her there.
I really should not have left her, but I really wanted to go and she was smarting off to me.
She did find her way home with a friend who happens to live in the next door apt who was there.
so, long story short.
I was going to leave last night and she started balling.
I can understand why, I love her and she loves me.
But I don't think thats enough to make it work, I didn't leave because I do not want to hurt her, but I am not happy.
She not ugly or fat, I am sure people would find her physically attractive, I just do not any more.
Her personality (to me) is lacking, its like I have to raise her
It seems like all we do is fight and argue. we never have a problem at home but when we go out its like she changes into a huge bitty! like she has something to prove to everyone, and that she is in charge of me and the relationship.
What do I do?
I want to leave her, but I also want it to work out.
I am not happy, but I want to be.
I don't want to hurt her, but I don't want to live like this.
She keeps telling me she can change, but I don;t know if she will or can, she is happy one second and snapping at me the next!
Sorry,
Thanks.
Sorry for putting this here, I just need to talk to some one about it.
Sorry forgot there is a child which may be yours. Have a paternity test done, otherwise let it be. Doesn't mean you can't be in that kids life if you choose, but this chick, hum- poison!
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There is a lesson in this. Some one once said to me: "When you realize it is over, it had been over for some time already, you just hadn't realized it yet."
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I think this might be my best option, but he (her ex) is paying or supposed to be paying.
Thanks for the reply, she wants to talk about it and try to work it out.
My family does not like her, or her family, and on top of that her mom has shot at me.
I some times wonder what compelled me to go back to her again.
Thanks for the reply, she wants to talk about it and try to work it out.
My family does not like her, or her family, and on top of that her mom has shot at me.
I some times wonder what compelled me to go back to her again.
Never mind, I see you took off this morning, good
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In your own words, the child looks like you and nothing like him.
Seems a little odd that the psycho would not put her husband down as the baby's biological father on the birth certificate, don't ya think?
Whether you want a kid or not, seems to me like at least a 50% chance you already have one.
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So I sat down and done the math, here are the dates you all can do it and see what you think.
She was born 6/30/09
Takes 9 months to get that far.
There is a town holiday called "apple days" in October, the first weekend of that month.
I dated two girls before OCT even came around, one for three weeks and one for a week, there was about 3-4 weeks between them.
I was single the month before, and of "apple days" (OCT).
So the month before OCT, ( Sep) I was single,
I was single two months after I broke up with her, dated girl #1 for three weeks, and girl #2 for week.
Terry l. and Jenni B.
So if I was single the month before apple days, September, and was dating a girl at that time how can my just now Ex-g/f's baby be mine?
She lied to me and said she was preggo 3 months before she was married, but the dates do not add up at all.
That would have made it 12 months and not 9 months, because I know for a fact I was not with anyone during "apple days" and the month before "apple days".
The months do not add up for the child to be mine.
If she thought it was mine,
1) why did she not call me until she (baby) was already 9 months old?
2) why did she not try to get C.S from me?
3) why did she not have my name on the B.C at the time of birth?
She was born 6/30/09
Takes 9 months to get that far.
There is a town holiday called "apple days" in October, the first weekend of that month.
I dated two girls before OCT even came around, one for three weeks and one for a week, there was about 3-4 weeks between them.
I was single the month before, and of "apple days" (OCT).
So the month before OCT, ( Sep) I was single,
I was single two months after I broke up with her, dated girl #1 for three weeks, and girl #2 for week.
Terry l. and Jenni B.
So if I was single the month before apple days, September, and was dating a girl at that time how can my just now Ex-g/f's baby be mine?
She lied to me and said she was preggo 3 months before she was married, but the dates do not add up at all.
That would have made it 12 months and not 9 months, because I know for a fact I was not with anyone during "apple days" and the month before "apple days".
The months do not add up for the child to be mine.
If she thought it was mine,
1) why did she not call me until she (baby) was already 9 months old?
2) why did she not try to get C.S from me?
3) why did she not have my name on the B.C at the time of birth?
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