tell her to pack her things up, and then if she wants to change, then after she changes you can talk through some things and see if its worth another attempt at a relationship.

 

Counseling if you want to have any chance of making it work. Regardless of what you do with her I would want to know if the child was mine. Get a paternity test!

 

At least be a man about this- don't just pack up and leave. Talk with her and let her know exactly what you expect from the relationship and what's going to happen if things are going in a different direction. I'd also suggest about you and her moving back in with each ones parents. Then you can start dating her but you won't be living with her. A little distance and room may be just what both of you need and time to think about if this is what both of you want in life. Both of you may be great people separately but together, it may not work. Best of luck with it. Relationships can really screw with the brains.

 

Get the heck out of dodge

 

This.

If you find out the child is not yours, it will be much much easier to sleep at night if/when you walk.

If the child IS yours, you have a lot of responsibility to do what is right for the child.

Sounds like a real bad situation, compounded by her immaturity.

Good luck.

 

Like everyone else has said, find out who the father is.
If the kid's yours, even if he's not but you want the best for the kid, take her to court with proof of her being an unfit mother and then get the hell outta Dodge with the kid.

 

I'm no relationship expert but you need to get outta that one quick. Sounds like she may be a little bipolar too...get a DNA test like others have said...remove yourself and the child (if it's yours) from the situation. Clearly you're unhappy and she's a nut

 

Holy crap!

 

The hell with Dr. Phil, this is Maury Povich material! You could even make some $$ on this one...

 

It's your life and your choice.

Thoughts and prayers sent.

 

Christ!

Let's look at YOUR WORDS . . . .

* dated three times before this, [on again, off again, on again, off again]

* she ran away and got married, now she has child, the baby may or may not be mine

* we have been living with each other since mid march, and things just kept getting worse and worse.

* I worked 40H, cleaned house, and cooked.

* we fight

* she still has a serious attitude problem.

* Always smarting off to me and putting me down

* I was responsible for getting her up, and making her ready for work.

* I am not happy.

* its like I have to raise her

* I want to leave her

* I am not happy, but I want to be.

* I don't want to live like this.

* her mom has shot at me.


I'm going to quote Dr. Gregory House here . . . "You're an idiot."

 

In Kentucky you can't even get legally married unless an in-law has shot at you.

 

You're thinking of Tennessee.

In Kentucky you can't get married if the bride or groom isn't a family member on some level.

 

Put her *** on the curb?

 

"The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result" - Albert Einstein

You have been with this 'person' twice before and have broken up; she has been married and divorced; she has a child with an unknown parent, could or could not be you; she treats you like manure; and you want to try and make this work? Please see the above quote.

I would pack her stuff up and get her out AS QUICKLY AS POSSIBLE. I would also make sure that you never see her again, and avoid her at all costs. She is trouble now, and will be trouble if you get married. Haven't the last 4 months been enough to know what to expect in the future?

As for the child and DNA testing, your call. I would not simply to keep a distance from this person, and let her ex believe he is the father and continue supporting the child, if he is supporting the child financially. NO use opening a can of worms that doesn't need to be opened.

From personal experience, a woman will say she can change, but what is ingrained in them can not be changed no matter how hard you try. Like I have said before and will say again, "you can paint a skunk white and call it something else, but under that paint is still a skunk".