Ok, your right, logical thinking there.

Here's how it went down,

Me and my buddy at a bar by ourselves, thought let's get some more people partying with us. So I text, "IN WARRENSBURG AT FITTERS(BAR) WHAT U DOING?"

I sent that to everyone in my phone that I thought may be able or willing to come hang out. ( about 8 people)

I got down to the wifes friends name and added her to the list cause when the wife and I go out in warrensburg she meets us there a lot cause it's between the two towns we live in.

That's about it. She replied back something like yea she wanted to go to a country bar that's there and she was gonna call up her friend's and head that way. She said she about came over to warrensburg anyway that night.

Ended up that she only found one friend to come along and my buddy and I decided we wanted to go to the strip club so when they got there we asked them if they wanted to go there.

There ya go.

Actually, I kinda felt bad for bringing them along cause we hardly talked to them at all once we got there. Most of the night I was talking to one of the strippers there that used to date my other friend. I haven't see her for about 5 years.

 

AHA, see. At one time things did cross your mind. Does your wife know that you thought her friend was "smokin'"? Let's see, alcohol, naked women and your wife's best friend that you think is hot that you sent a text to her to hang out with. I'm not saying that the thought crossed your mind, but like Biff said, things can happen. And it has nothing to do with your wife or any other woman being insecure. It was just poor judgement if you ask me.

 

So it's wrong to see a new girlfirends friend as hot because maybe one day you may marry the girl?

I know let me say it for ya. "No but it's wrong to take her to a strip club 8 years later after you've married the girlfriend."

Just cause when we first met and "the thought crossed my mind" doesn't mean that now we can't be casual friends and get together, drunk, at a stripclub or anywhere else, and have a good time without thinking about jumping each others bones.

Here is how I think.

Wifes out with a friend, she ends up at a strip club, or where ever, with one of my good friends that I trust..........., no problem.

If I would ever be worried that she would do something that I'd regret or be mad about, I figure she's not gonna do it with my friend around cause he'd tell me about it for sure..

I don't care if my friend's Brad Pitt if I trust him.

 

Whoa whoa whoa... It was just you, your buddy, your wifes friend, and her friend?

If so, case closed, you basically took her friend on a double date to the strip club That would **** off just about any women. I can see if they went along with a big group of your friends, but 2 and 2 would throw up a couple red flags

 

OH Jeezzsh. I guess I just trust my friends a lot more that other people trust their friends.

 

YUP, I trust NO ONE!!!!!

 

OK she's madder than I thought. now it's not that I went with her friend she talked to her about that and supposedly that's all good it's that her friend told her I got a lap dance.

i would have told her I did but she didn't ask details. She usually doesn't

ridiculous

 

im glad im not you right now

 

Dude you must be out of your mind taking anybody that knows your wife to be to a strip club, what the hell where you thinking???. If your lucky you will get by with your genitalia still attached!!! NUMBER 1 rule NEVer never never take any chicks out with you anywhere that know your maybe future wife. EVER!!!! You must be a real youngin and after years of experience (married 33 years) let me tell ya this do ever do it again just get the guiys together rent a limo and have a great time. never touch the tuna while your in the club, never squeeze the charmin just enjoy the good time. There is plenty of woman there why f it up with your girls best friend....



damm kids....

LT is saying something listenup....

 

I learned all that the hard way at age 21

 

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You're not even remotely in a position that resembles innocence with your wife right now. Time to beg for forgiveness, give her more attention than you ever have before, do things that she wants to do (for at least a month or two) in the hopes that she will give you another chance. Your other option is to "cut bait".

You posted here looking for advice, and looks like you got plenty.

 

Agreed, sometimes you gotta put your tail between your legs, admit defeat, and just like Biff said, beg for forgiveness. It would hurt to cook and clean for a few weeks either

 

Women talk.

Stories of your night at the strip club with two other women are probably sweeping through your wife's social network like wildfire. She might be answering questions about this little event for years, including from people she barely knows. Pretty embaressing for her.

Would it be nice if we lived in a world where no one judged a man for (innocently?) inviting women who are not his wife to a bar, then strip club, then letting them watch him get a lap dance? Maybe, but we don't live in such a world.

BTW, expect to be talking to the hottie's husband. Perhaps he will give you a chance to explain your world view before he decides to take your head off. I know if someone busted out the "I took your wife to a strip club for my buddy's kind-of-bacehlor party" line to me, I'd be very skeptical... lol.

Bottom line: This was a major foul up. Could you have done worse things? Sure, but you are going to have to pay a BIG price for this little escapade.

 

ya, i agree your wife will be listening to this for a while from all her friends, so every time you think your in the clear some dumbass women is gonna bring it up and screw you over once again.

you never know, the hotties husband might be ok with it. if i had a good friend and we were really close w/ each other and the wifes/gfs i dont think id have a problem with them hanging out because i would trust them. now strip club i think might be crossing the line, but the fact that they were just hanging out i wouldn't find a huge deal.

now as for your wife, i just gotta laugh cuz you aint getting any any time soon

 

I've been married 16 years, together 22, and I really can't offer any advice besides showering her with gifts and flowers at this point. You screwed up. And by the sound of it, you're going to be paying for it for quite awhile. Why? Because it's not just between you and your wife. At this point, everyone in your "circle" knows what happened. Good luck man, I feel for ya.

You must of had plenty of liquid courage to get a lap dance in front of your wife's best friend. Hell your wife might as well of been sitting right there too!

Here's what I've been told. Strip clubs aren't off limits. But lap dances while at the strip club are. That came from The Boss herself. So I take it as gospel.