Me and my buddy, getting married in a month, went sat night while our girls went to the same guy's fiancé's bachelorette party.

Didn't plan it, just happened. Told the girls about it the next morning. They stayed in a hotel and weren't home till then.

We knew that we wouldn't be going at his real bachelor party because of the plans made so we thought "what the hell lets' go tonight".

His fiancé never said she was ticked about strip clubs. In fact I heard her say that she would care if he went on his bach party.

But here's the kicker. We were are a local bar in a nearby town and I texted a few people to see if they wanted to come party with us. Well kinda as a joke I sent it also to my wifes best friend. She ends up replying that she wanted to party and she brought a friend of hers.

Long story short, we ended up at the strip club with my wifes best friend and some other chick.

Supposedly that's the part that really ticks off our lady's.

Hell I figured having my wifes best friend there to keep an eye on us would be a good thing!!

 

Mine personaly doesn't mind, she has even gone with me and my buddies before. I personaly think its a self confidence thing, if they are insecure then they dont want you going because they are scared you might see something you like better.

 

I only hit a strip club twice in my life, and personally find them a waste of time and money. More so if I had my own woman. Only went when I was 18, now 24 and have no desire to go back to one.

Just my IMO. And girls vary so much its hard to say why some dont care, and why others get mad.

 

My fiance has gone with me a few times and doesn't care at all if I go with buddies or whoever without her.

Maybe she's more offended that you took a friend of hers?

 

Maybe your wife doesnt trust her best friend and that's why she was pissed. I think you were asking for trouble, lol. Honestly, they don't do anything for me so I don't go. I find it to be a waste of money but to each's own.

 

One word sums this topic! "Insecurity"......Women are very insecure creatures...

 

and calling them "creatures" is usually not the best ideas either.

 

She even said that "it's not so much that you went, but you took two girls with you." And I said YEA YOUR BEST FRIEND. How can that make it worse.

Wouldn't she understand that I would be on my best behavior since I know that her friend is right there?

I don't think so. Her friend is married too. I think she trusts her. If I'm gonna mess around it sure as hell would be with one of her frineds. That would be about as dumb as it gets.

 

i think it varies from woman to woman.... personally when i find "the one" shed have to be open to it (and maybe joining me for the fun of it), yes while the strippers may be insanely hot i personally wouldnt want to know em, therefore there would be nothing for my woman to worry about....

and id be the same way, if she wanted to go to some male strip club i wouldnt care, id consider it an open book test just to tag along and see how it goes.... while i know these guys are packin and could beat my a**, i realize theyre probably a socialpathic train wreck on the inside

so it varies

 

I think she should more upset about this.

 

Your not listening.... she doesn't like the fact that you decided to invite women to go along. Period. Its not about the strip club itself its the "dating" and NO she does not understand your angle on it. She as much told you so. She doesn't think you showed good judgment no matter what woman you invited...

 

Does this mean that you won't be able to go to the Hooters car wash this Thursday?

 

It just goes to show how differently some men and women think.

Hell I remember on the way home I told my buddy, "it shouldn't be too bad, I think having her friend there will help"

It never once crossed our minds that that would make it worse.

And it's not like we planned on taking them, we never said, "hey lets find some chicks to take to the strip club with us", it just kinda happened.

 

Un-related.

Either this week or next.

 

While I'm still young (21) and have a bit to learn, one thing I learned early on in my romantic career was that "It just kinda happened" is a terrible excuse That phrase alone has always made the conversation worse

Maybe she's just jealous that you were spending time with her bestfriend... at a strip club... drunk (I'm guessing)... Or maybe it's because you invited her instead of her and the other girls? I've never really understood a woman's logic during an argument, and I probably never will. Best thing to do is just have a beer, and move on Then hope that she doesn't repeatedly bring it up for the next year