What do you consider "cheating"?
#20
For me personally, I agree with this. Here's why I asked. I got thrown in the doghouse for C....but it's not because I was looking for some strange.
Was in Phoenix on a 4 day business trip for our National Sales Meeting. Met a field rep that I never knew (I do inside sales, she does outside). Anyway, I got drunk because it was pretty much open bar after all the BS meetings from 6pm-2am. First night, we sat and talked and I could tell she was into me. She flirted pretty heavy and I was flattered so I flirted back. However, I was doing it because I had never worked with her and another rep that I compete with on the inside had a thing for her. More or less to be a and to start breaking into the NJ territory (this other rep I compete with had worked with her exclusively and pretty much has a monopoly on the North East area).
Anyway, we exchanged #s and traded a few texts and calls back and forth throughout the 4 day meeting (nothing racey, just banter). Sunday I was at the airport and felt pretty guilty about using her attraction to me for my advantage just to get under this other guy's skin. So I deleted everything out of my phone and ceased communication.
A month passes by and no contact is made between us, then it happens.
I left my cell phone at home accidentally and she texted me to work on an account with her. The text started with "Hey Stranger"... Wife found it and asked who that was. I played it off as a field rep I met in Phoenix. Next day @ 9:00 @ night, I get another text from her "can you call me in 5 minutes?" Of course my wife is standing next to me when it comes through. I replied and said no, I'm going to bed, did you email me the details on that account? Then I get a text saying "Going to bed, you were such a night owl in Phoenix". That's when the SHTF. So, I had to come clean and tell her everything. I have since been forgiven but that's why I asked the question. While I did flirt back, it was only to penetrate that territory and stick it to this other rep who is just one arrogant pr*ck. So even though these were my intentions, it was still considered cheating by the Mrs.
I came clean to the other girl also, she knew everything (Married for 6 years, 2 kids, etc...). I didn't hold anything back. Apparently though, she didn't really care.
Was in Phoenix on a 4 day business trip for our National Sales Meeting. Met a field rep that I never knew (I do inside sales, she does outside). Anyway, I got drunk because it was pretty much open bar after all the BS meetings from 6pm-2am. First night, we sat and talked and I could tell she was into me. She flirted pretty heavy and I was flattered so I flirted back. However, I was doing it because I had never worked with her and another rep that I compete with on the inside had a thing for her. More or less to be a and to start breaking into the NJ territory (this other rep I compete with had worked with her exclusively and pretty much has a monopoly on the North East area).
Anyway, we exchanged #s and traded a few texts and calls back and forth throughout the 4 day meeting (nothing racey, just banter). Sunday I was at the airport and felt pretty guilty about using her attraction to me for my advantage just to get under this other guy's skin. So I deleted everything out of my phone and ceased communication.
A month passes by and no contact is made between us, then it happens.
I left my cell phone at home accidentally and she texted me to work on an account with her. The text started with "Hey Stranger"... Wife found it and asked who that was. I played it off as a field rep I met in Phoenix. Next day @ 9:00 @ night, I get another text from her "can you call me in 5 minutes?" Of course my wife is standing next to me when it comes through. I replied and said no, I'm going to bed, did you email me the details on that account? Then I get a text saying "Going to bed, you were such a night owl in Phoenix". That's when the SHTF. So, I had to come clean and tell her everything. I have since been forgiven but that's why I asked the question. While I did flirt back, it was only to penetrate that territory and stick it to this other rep who is just one arrogant pr*ck. So even though these were my intentions, it was still considered cheating by the Mrs.
I came clean to the other girl also, she knew everything (Married for 6 years, 2 kids, etc...). I didn't hold anything back. Apparently though, she didn't really care.
Last edited by Bluejay; 04-09-2009 at 05:39 PM. Reason: language
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I say A, B and D are cheating. Flirting is kinda borderline, but as long as the other person doesnt act on it, Im ok with it.
D is kinda borderline to be considered cheating, but its still not cool and if I ever caught any girlfriend of mine doing that, Id be pretty upset about it.
My ex girlfriend and I worked at the same place and kinda worked in the same area and we had an agreement that we both could talk to whoever we wanted, but it couldnt go any farther than that.
D is kinda borderline to be considered cheating, but its still not cool and if I ever caught any girlfriend of mine doing that, Id be pretty upset about it.
My ex girlfriend and I worked at the same place and kinda worked in the same area and we had an agreement that we both could talk to whoever we wanted, but it couldnt go any farther than that.
#26
Was in Phoenix on a 4 day business trip for our National Sales Meeting. Met a field rep that I never knew (I do inside sales, she does outside). Anyway, I got drunk because it was pretty much open bar after all the BS meetings from 6pm-2am. First night, we sat and talked and I could tell she was into me. She flirted pretty heavy and I was flattered so I flirted back. However, I was doing it because I had never worked with her and another rep that I compete with on the inside had a thing for her. More or less to be a and to start breaking into the NJ territory (this other rep I compete with had worked with her exclusively and pretty much has a monopoly on the North East area).
Anyway, we exchanged #s and traded a few texts and calls back and forth throughout the 4 day meeting (nothing racey, just banter). Sunday I was at the airport and felt pretty guilty about using her attraction to me for my advantage just to get under this other guy's skin. So I deleted everything out of my phone and ceased communication.
A month passes by and no contact is made between us, then it happens.
I left my cell phone at home accidentally and she texted me to work on an account with her. The text started with "Hey Stranger"... Wife found it and asked who that was. I played it off as a field rep I met in Phoenix. Next day @ 9:00 @ night, I get another text from her "can you call me in 5 minutes?" Of course my wife is standing next to me when it comes through. I replied and said no, I'm going to bed, did you email me the details on that account? Then I get a text saying "Going to bed, you were such a night owl in Phoenix". That's when the SHTF. So, I had to come clean and tell her everything. I have since been forgiven but that's why I asked the question. While I did flirt back, it was only to penetrate that territory and stick it to this other rep who is just one arrogant pr*ck. So even though these were my intentions, it was still considered cheating by the Mrs.
I came clean to the other girl also, she knew everything (Married for 6 years, 2 kids, etc...). I didn't hold anything back. Apparently though, she didn't really care.
Anyway, we exchanged #s and traded a few texts and calls back and forth throughout the 4 day meeting (nothing racey, just banter). Sunday I was at the airport and felt pretty guilty about using her attraction to me for my advantage just to get under this other guy's skin. So I deleted everything out of my phone and ceased communication.
A month passes by and no contact is made between us, then it happens.
I left my cell phone at home accidentally and she texted me to work on an account with her. The text started with "Hey Stranger"... Wife found it and asked who that was. I played it off as a field rep I met in Phoenix. Next day @ 9:00 @ night, I get another text from her "can you call me in 5 minutes?" Of course my wife is standing next to me when it comes through. I replied and said no, I'm going to bed, did you email me the details on that account? Then I get a text saying "Going to bed, you were such a night owl in Phoenix". That's when the SHTF. So, I had to come clean and tell her everything. I have since been forgiven but that's why I asked the question. While I did flirt back, it was only to penetrate that territory and stick it to this other rep who is just one arrogant pr*ck. So even though these were my intentions, it was still considered cheating by the Mrs.
I came clean to the other girl also, she knew everything (Married for 6 years, 2 kids, etc...). I didn't hold anything back. Apparently though, she didn't really care.
You kinda had it coming for leading that other woman on. Just be thankful that your wife forgave you.
#29
Honestly, this something that should be worked out between the people involved. Some people are more tolerant than others of everything from flirting to having sex with other people, as long as it's understood up-front. We all have our lines we don't want crossed, but that line isn't scratched in stone and universal for all.
For me, i dont care about flirting or texting as long as it isnt sexual. Any physical contact i consider cheating.