oh man relationship problems suck. I got dumped about 2 months ago actually it was just supposed to be a break. Ok all was good we still talked she called me a lot anytime we were together we still made out and stuff but pretty soon she started yelling at me for crossing the friendship line, I was like wtf you let me do it you never said no. She started dating a new guy shortly after I felt really hurt and still do I regret every bad thing I ever said to her now. She quit hanging out with her friends for a long time when we started dating and all of a sudden like 4 months ago when she turned 21 she started going out with people from work and somehow it turned me into the bad guy for making her sit in my room and do nothing, which I didn't do I actually told her to go out every chance she got. It is all really frustrating that was my first relationship and it lasted 4 years I was almost positive we were gonna get married and now we can't even talk to each other. I would still take her back in a heartbeat eventhough anyone close to me would probably kick my *** for doing so.

 

Ahh, to be young and in love. I think that there should be a national mandate that you have to be over 30 to get married. I understand that this may be the furthest thing from either of your minds, but you can bet that these girls have been planning their wedding day since they were 4. Believe it, I have two daughters and am subject to endless Barbie weddings. Anyway, all the stuff about these girls friends telling them what they should do and the girls themselves not knowing what they want is completely TRUE. The only advice I have is that you are only young once, and you should enjoy it. How many of us have thought "If only I knew then what I know now..."? I'm not telling you to get out of a relationship at the first sign of trouble, but you know in a roudabout way what you want. If it isn't headed in that general direction, don't waste your time.

Just my 2 cents

 

There are always more fish in the sea. If you are honestly not happy (and we aren't talking the "well, MOST of the time things are great, but...") then get out of the relationship. Go single - and go single for a while. Get your head clear of her and work on yourself. Get your job and schooling situated, have fun eating wings and playing halo and modding your truck. Things will come around in the g / f department. It always does

Just my .02

 

i agree with taking a break doesnt work.if your not happy then you can just leave her. dont feel guilty about it either.

 

i agree with taking a break doesnt work.if your not happy then you can just leave her. dont feel guilty about it either. wrobo is 100% right..get your school done and your career going. get some cash in the bank and dont sweat the girlfriend deal. a good woman will come along and appreciate you and what youve accomplished. just tell chicks that u meet thay your not looking for anything serious...then they know up front and of they keep coming around so be it.have some fun. ive been where u are.

 

well shes the one who asked for the break, i really dont want to, i know it would be hard for me to explain it but i do really like her, for those who know me, you saw how i was when we first started dating...i know she is still like that but she just needs friends because she is so up tight lately and when she started having friends again we were doing great but she just wants time to catch up with her friends and for some reason she thinks she needs to be single while she does.....

 

and i have to admit i went out with her last night, and she is probably coming over tomorrow.

 

alright but ill tell ya.. never put off your career/dreams etc... for a woman who cant make up her mind. you gotta put yourself first. i hate to tell ya but.. if she asked for the break she is probably already seeing another guy or it at least intersted in someone else.

 

i would never let her put off my career or dreams

 

The fact that she thinks she needs to be single to catch up with her friends, raises a red flag with me. thats just me though

 

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this ****in sucks

 

what happened now?

 

absolutely nothing, been sitting around at home with absolutely nothing to do except drink a little absolute.....

 

just makes me feel like **** because im sitting at home with nothing to do but she is out with her friend and both of thier ex boyfriends...she just called me when she got home (this is very late for her she would never stay out with me this late) so i asked her if she still intends to get back with me and she was giving me this bs about if things work out that way.........