Ever have one of those days where you just seem to have the natural ability to **** everyone off? Everything you do seems to get everyones panties in a wad.

Well I'm having one!

I got a lot drunk and maybe a little out of line last night.

No, I didn't go home with anyone or anything close to that!

I'd vent but with my luck right now....... it wouldn't help.

If anyone has any ideas on how to make up to wife for getting drunk with out her and for spending to much money while doing it.... Please share. I'm on cold meds and still not thinking to clearly.

Thanks in advance...

 

Well personally, we all need to get a drunk on once in awhile. And I know you don't do that often. Unless you offended her in some way, I don't see anything wrong with it.

 

Yea that's the first time in 11 years.

She is offended because I went out to console my cousin who is having a rough time in his marriage. I wasn't going to drink due to being on the meds. She was fine with that, but... I wasn't strong enough. I got completely plastered. I haven't been that drunk since I was 18. I'm talking frat house drunk. Probably accelerated due to the meds. So since I told her that I wasn't going to drink, that he was going to get hammered, then it turned out I got hammered instead, she feels like I lied to her.

That and the money that I "can't" explain....

 

Well again, whether you got plastered or not, no biggee. It's hard to go out where everyone around you is drinking and having a good time and not want one or two or more yourself. And as far as consoling your cousin, that was a good thing. You said yourself, you haven't gotten like that in 11 years, so I feel she should and will forgive you for that.

Now..........

As far as where all that money went........did she know you were going to be spending your money in that type of establishment? I think my assumption is correct.

 

1. Keep a low profile for a few days.

2. Remember Mothers day, you really have to go over the top for this one.

3. Try to remember all of the honeydoos she asked for and get them done.

4. And when the time is right, get down on your knees and beg for mercy!!!



Been there, done that, and survived.

Oh yea, did I mention "beg for mercy"?

 

Umm well no...

She also didn't realize (becasue we just dont behave this way, we are not party animals) that as I get drunk I am a rounder. AKA I buy rounds, even for strangers. To make matters worse there was a bachlor party and a bachlorette party.

Yea she is gone for the day with the kids, we've had parts for the boat in the living room for a couple of weeks. Due to rain and weather I can't install them. She has been wanting them out and I'll quote her (I want my living room back) for a while. So that's what I'm doing now, as well as any house work that I can do the same way she does. There is some that I'm not allowed to do because I dont do it right. LOL

Begging will most likely begin tonight. I hope she is calmed down enough that I can beg anyway.....

 

I think the best way to settle this is to go get her a very small, and very simple flower arrangement...literally 1-3 of her favorite flowers, a little babie's breath, and a card. Write something short, and sweet, letting her know that you are deeply sorry for letting her down because she is the world to you and that is the last thing you would ever want to do. Hand it to her, and as soon as she is done reading the card, before she talks/hugs you... very calmly say (while looking into her eyes) "Baby, I know that I told you I wouldn't drink, and I did. I let you down. and I am sincerely sorry for letting you down because I love with you and I hate it when I hurt you." Or something close to that. Short, simple, sweet, sincere.

she will probably tear up, give you a hug, and then fantastic make-up sex will ensue.

enjoy.

 

PSS-Mag

There is no maybe, you list the two things you did that your wife has a grievance with, you are already making excuses by saying you are not thinking clearly.

While others may not think you did anything wrong or that it's no big deal, they are not your wife and it is your wife that is upset. Since she is the one you have to live with, your actions have an effect on her, and it is her that you will have to answer to / reach an understanding with.

Can you blame her for seeing it that way? And yeah, I can understand her consternation with regard to boat parts in the living room.

The best way to deal with it is to apologize, but for that to have any meaning, you have to be sincere in your apology. So, you have to look at what transpired, what you said vs what you did (which was essentially a broken promise) and then decide if you are sorry for that. If you are, you need to let her know that and ask for her forgiveness. (That would be "ask", not beg).

Don't let this grow into something bigger/worse than it is. Pride/stubbornness is only going to make things worse and then you'll just have more to apologize for.

And by the way, in your apology, don't be bantering around the excuses you used in this posting to try to take away from what you did . . .

in other words, don't mention the following:

don't use the word "maybe" - or the

"I'm on cold meds and still not thinking to clearly." Don't use any form of the I'm not thinking clearly because of - excuse . . . all this does is show that you don't want to accept responsibility, which negates the reason for apologizing.

Just cop to it. Say that you F'd up and you are sincerely sorry. Keep it simple and honest.

By the way, the buying flowers or some small gift can backfire as it can be seen as a bribe. If your wife has an IQ of more than 25, I recommend not doing that.

K-

 

She is on her way home, then she's going to drop the kids off and go out of town for a little bit. (I hope this isn't revenge) But I'll let you all know how it goes as soon as I can.

Thanks guys, it is greatly appreciated.

Yes I do see why she is upset, no I can't blame her. If it was reveresed I'd be upset too. I didn't even realize that I was making excuses and trying to pass the buck so to speak. I will remember to watch that.

Thanks guys

 

Can you say.................whipped


At least you havnt told her about the $50 lap dances.














JK........Hope you guys get things squared away tonight or else mothers day will be interesting. The situation could have been so much worse if you ask me. Trust me.

 

Two ways to go about this

1) Be a gangsta! Tell her you are your own man, and that by god if once in 11 years you want to get slap happy drunk and **** on the patrons of an establishment, you're damn well going to. It may roughen things around the edges a bit, but she'll either come around or leave

2) This way, slightly more effective most times, is to buy about 6 dozen roses of various colors (red is played out) from the local mexican flower stand (they are cheaper) and give them all to her with a heart felt apology and explain how you two were just talkin out his problems (this is the point where you blame him and he made you do it) and just kept drinking until you didn't realize that you were smashed.

Of course, you'll be booted from the slapahoe tribe if you go with number two, but for most it works better

 

As far as I know, no one on these forums is a licensed psycholigist. Most of us are just giving you real life opinions. You know, been there done that. Bottom line is they are just opinions, which is what you asked for. You shouldn't listen to any of us really, just listen to your heart. Because that is all that matters in life.

 

just say "i sowwie" give the sad eyes and just say it wont happen again












right



...zap!

 

How could I forget the puppy dog eyes?

Or better yet, do the eyes the cat on shrek uses. You know, the one antonio banderas voiced over on. That's a winner every time

 

Since you asked.

Perhaps your wife is looking at the situation in more abstract terms than you got drunk and blew the paycheck. I know my wife tends to interpret things I do or say in ways I didn't intend to project and we work them out by talking about what she's really reacting to.

I haven't drank for years so I don't have that problem to deal with, but she tends to be somewhat insecure, and I know I tend to be insensitive sometimes without realizing it.

If it were me (and this is me since I don't know what kind of dynamics are going on in your marriage) I take her out to dinner or even make it for her and then spend the evening talking it out and more importantly do less talking and more listening. It could be she's stressed about something else and this just put her over the top.