I'm confused, and a woman did it me, or I did it to my self, this will make no sense to me and it could amuse you.

I'm at this greek restaurant with my girl friend, the waitress was extreamly hot, *****, legs, looks that grew wood.

I really tried hard not to lock my slef into her looks, I concentrated on the meal and conversation with my date who I have been seeing for a year.

The waitress wrote her phone number on the back of the bill......

Were not sure where are relationship is going, girl friend has been married twice, now devorcied and has three kids, I have never been married and have no kids.

Sex is good, canpaniship is good, I'm learning to adjust to being around kids, ( I do not live thier )The two boy's, 10 and 12 are playing foot ball, they think my truck is cool, the daughter at 14 scares me, only because I have no fricking clue how to talk to her.

The kids have thier dad, mom keeps the kids and her house hold going, it's a chatic life and I won over the dog who used to puke in my runners...

Now this waitress made me insecure, I still have the singel life style engraved in me, and I have not fooled around on the side...

I talked with my girl freind ( sim looks to genifer aniston, courtny *** ), her and I know were close to marraige, I'm 37, not sure if I want kids, but if I go for a long term relationship, I would like spawn some of my own off spring....

I like to play home handy man and help her out with the fixin's that need to be done, I do care abought her, my girl friend cares abought me, we talk openly abought are feelings and hesitaions....

So what pushed you and your wife/husban ( only if your female ) into marriage? Like how do you know your partner is the right person for you?

That bill is siting on my dash bord in the truck, I'm suposed to let my girl friend know if I'm calling the wiatress or not....and ya know who wanted to go to the greek restuaurant? Not me...

 

So your GF knows about the phone number? First of all, I don't know if you are ever really sure if the person you are with is right for you. Only time will tell. But I do believe there is a soulmate out there for everyone. It's just whether or not FATE allows you to stumble upon them. By the way, you didn't mention LOVE. You only said you CARE about eachother. Do you LOVE her?

 

If your current girlfriend is good to you, then I see no reason to ruin it over something that may or may not pan out. Although tempting, if I were you, I'd stay right where your at.

 

If its working out now then leave well enough alone.

I can't believe current g/f didn't go off on you over waitress girl. Would both of them work at the same time........no no probably not...better just keep your current g/f.

 

The old me would never stay around, good sex, them I was out the door...looking for tuesday's girl on monday...I allways stipulated I only wanted sex....and took every percaution known to man ( accpet snip snip ),.
Evolving is painful, But Im learning....I just can't think or use two heads at the same time....If I can figure this out, I'm marriage bound....

 

snip"Were not sure where are relationship is going, girl friend has been married twice, now devorcied and has three kids, I have never been married and have no kids." snip


Dude are you nuts???, Get on the phone right now and call her (the waitress). A woman divorced twice and has baggage to boot. She did not even put up a fight with the waitress over that, dude don't make come down there and have a thumb war with you. Remember a stiff Di&k has no conscience.
But on the other hand i guess if you are willing to settle down with a ready made family then thats cool also, BUT be sure thats what you want and need don't do it because you feel sorry for her situation. !!!Love and trust is key!!!!

I could tell you what i'd do but you may have already guessed it...

 

Well, there's only one piece of advice that I can give you, CV....and it's something that my father told me two years ago, when I did something very stupid that almost cost me my marriage.

My father told me "Matt, a lot of people think love is just a feeling, just an emotion; and yeah, it is both of those things. But above anything else, love is a decision. Love is what is going to keep your marriage together when there is literally NOTHING else to keep it going during the tough times; what you need to figure out is whether or not you are ready to love your wife."

Thankfully, I figured out what he meant; and I am happily married. I'm not blind; I know there are other good looking women out there, I'm not brain dead. But I can tell you from experience that NO ONE has the combination of looks, personality, and most importantly, love and caring for me that she has; and what you need to figure out (if I may make an observation - please don't take offense at this) is whether or not a) your girlfriend has that combination for you and b) if so, if you are ready to love her through thick and thin. If the answer is yes for both of those, then fantastic. If the answer is no for either of them...well, you need to figure out why, and what to do about it. I don't know that I agree with some of what Buckdropper says (but then again, that's what makes this a great country - different people, different opinions ) but I completely agree with his statement that love and trust is key, and that you need to make sure that you are with your gf because she loves you, you love her, and not because of any situation that either of you are in.

 

How did I know my husband was right for me? Well, I didn't know but we've been married for 25 years now so something must have been right with the world when we met.

If you love your g/f (you never mentioned the L word, do you love her??) then by all means DO NOT mess around with the waitress, it would most likely be a casual fling (you were with a woman and she writes her number on the back of your bill?! Smacks of someone who's a little desperate!) and you'd ruin what you have with the g/f.

 

How did I know?



ummm... I think she told me.





From the words of my grand father, "God rest his soul"

Love them all!

 

Pretty cool grandfather.

 

thanks and well put...I'm not going to hurt my girl friend by breaking up with her just to take a chance with some one else...we have agreed that in the event one of us sleeps around, are relationship is over, we do trust each othier....took me awhile to sort that out...I never told her abought the phone number on the bill, and I'm not going to call it....

 

What the hell Cyclone, do you love her or not!

I am on the phone with my gf right now, and I mentioned how much I agree with Kung's post. I also told her (she is also reading this thread because I linked her) if I was cyclone I would call the #, because if you have to ask yourself whether or not you should call it, you're not truly committed, therefore not in love. This is just my opinion cyclone, but if you were in love with her you guys would never have had the conversation about ending your relationship if one of you cheated, it just sounds like you guys made it a point that it was a possibility between the two of you. Doesn't exactly spell out love, and after a year you would know if you were in love, call her.

Edit:
I am completely contradicting what I said, but I think you should stay. If you guys have such great feelings for one another, that waitress is definitely not worth even THOSE feelings (even if it's not love), that waitress would leave her number for another man just as easy as she did for you. It's just a test of your character from someone up above, cyclone, don't take the red pill.

 

So you found the waitress hot and she obviously liked you, this never happened before? First, what kind of woman hits on you when you are with another woman? Is that the type of person you want to be with? Second, you either have a good relationship now, or you don't. If you don't, you should get out whether or not there is someone else. If you get together with the waitress, will you dump her when the next hottie hits on you? Don't let your ***** take you places your heart doesn't want to go. We all look, we just control it.

Oh yeah, marry a good cook, sooner or later sex will wear off, but you'll always be hungry.

 

Even if you left your girl to have great sex with the hot waitress, even that would become run of the mill.

There will always be temptations. My girl and I have been together for ten years now. There have been temptations but I do love her and we've worked hard to make it work for these years. It deffinitely hasn't been easy. I'm not giving up something that we've worked on for a chance at hot sex for a while. Sex ain't what it used to be anyhow (hernia surgery four years ago didn't help the sex drive). I'm not in my twenties anymore, and with a clear head I have found that there are many others things I'm interested in.

I'm not a big fan of the pre-fab family. If your not sure about the current girl, I would think that you have some things to consider. I think we're better off going with girls without children. I guess maybe that's just a narrow opinion of mine.

Whatever you do, good luck. We need all the luck we can get!

 

Maybe she was hitting on you AND your girlfriend with that Phone#, consider the possibilities...