Well then, I've got some bad news for you there, bubba . . .

Didn't go to Hawaii . . . had no plans to . . .never wanted to go there (which is odd considering how much I love golf) . . .

Was thinking of going somewhere else earlier, but it's 10,000 miles in the opposite direction.

Have some coffee! It works for me!

 

Yea I knew you were wanting to jump across the pond for christmas.

That's just odd, that dosen't happen to me very often. Like I said, I will openly admit that I forget things often. But when I do remember something, typically it actually happened.

 

Uh . . . I forgot . . . what are we talking about?

*falls off couch, starts laughing, realize I'm drunk because this thread made me start drinking (did ya catch the mocking humour?), gets up, reaches for heroin needle (yeah, I've been driven to taking up drugs too), goes to kitchen, slams self over head with frying pan, stops laughing*

Boy oh boy, did we hi-jack this thread or what?

I'm outta here.

 

I so wish that I was chillin with Kobi right now. This would be hilarious to see.

 

That would be a pretty hard spot to be in. There was a married KP at our chow hall in Germany that did that to me. She slapped her hand on the table (drawing attention) and slid her number to me- right in front of my boys. Everybody was like "Damn Hersh?! You hitting that?" I said no, not yet. They said with them big ol tiddies? Are you ghey?" I said, "He!!, no- she married- and I don't roll like that..." They replied, 'Sheeeiiyyyt- Ni**a, you didn't take any vows, did you?' I sai no, they said- Then YOU aren't committing adultery- she is. That's between her, God and her husband.

Peer pressure is a *********er.
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So, if it was difficult to shrug that off in front of some guys- you KNOW it had to be hard to play it off in front of your lady, who you are out with, whom you've just enjoyed a meal with, whom you have been tapping... I can tell you right now, a black woman would have turned that place out... Let a waitress give me her number, in front of my wife. THe first thing my wife would say is: "Um, excuse me- b!tch" and it would be downhill from there...

Man, you've got bhalls to even still have that number. That, plus you have a good woman who is either:

A.) Disappointed that you didn't make her feel special/important by rejecting the offer.

B.) Disappointed that you still have the number- visible to her

C.) Wants you so bad that she's willing to allow you to ***** on her, just to be with a man.

D.) Doesn't think she's good enough, and has low self-esteem, even though she may be fire-cracker hot.

Now, if that wasn't my lady- or she was a girl that had ben playing around with me- then I'd have kept the number- just to show I can get someone other than her- someone hotter that her. That usually inspires a woman to quit the BS and go on about her business. Or, quit the BS, and ante-up the draws...
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I fell into a trap one time: Mom even told me not to hook up with a girl that had kids- but she was so fine (Not to mention limber ~ she could put both feet behind her head- no lie~ that even though I could still hear Mom's words) I still fell in. I was in love- upon my PCS, I dropped my girl of 5 years a few months later on my way to Fort Gordon, GA. I was committed to her; but she was over 1,800 miles away, and I was very single.

After 45 days of being a good boy, I went to the club and met this superstar hottie. I'd never met a girl and scored the same night- but I did that night. Touchdown, and ran in the 2-point conversion. After that, it was like a button got flipped and I was tagging buty as if I was on Mutual of Omaha's Wild-Kingdom. I eventually realized there were fish out there with no kids, that were also good in the sack.

Consequently, I ended up dismissing (Over the course of 2 years) the girl with the baby. She was a good woman, but I realized I was with her, for the sex, her company, and because I didn't want to let her go- so another man would do-do on her, not really for me... I also knew that even though I met her when her baby was 5-months old, and I was willing to marry her (for a time) that the day would come when I'd tell him to do something, and he'd responf (You ain't my Daddy.) and I'd respond as any man would- and beat the crap out of him. I did love her, but I didn't treat her right. My conscious was kicking my butt, and when we broke up; she cried so much- even I got misty... I'd never hurt anyone like that before; and it wasn't intentional, it was just a choice...

So, I bailed, but- I still think about her, often. When you fall in love, you may distance yourself from that person, but- you never, ever, forget them.
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If it feels good to you, do it. Yes- it will be tough, and yes-inevitably- you may hear "You are not my father" as the kids move into the teenage rebelious years. If you can handle all of that- go for it man. Good women are hard to find- and, at least this woman's baggage is on the table... You can see it.

With many- they don't open the bag until you've been married 2 years, it's Thanksgiving, and the family is all around... Not that I know; it's just what a REAL GOOD friend of mine told me.

 

You just need to make the decision of weather or not when you're both 60ish you'll be able to look each other straight in the eye on a daily basis.

I know my parents fell for each other, but it was a lot out of convenience IMO since both had kids. I mean, I'm glad they did, since I wouldn't be here now otherwise, but after I left home things went downhill fast. About the only real common ground they have is they both like fishing and camping.

Anyway, you either love her or you don't. You need to search yourself for the answer. Either way I would probably ditch the phone number so you can think with a clear head.

 

So haven't heard from Cyclone in awhile. What's going on?

 

cyclone was away for the weekend....rented a cabin and drank some beer, broke in new strings on the guitar.
Convenience is a scary place to be, If I want to furthier my relaitionship with my GF, I have to wake up and accept that this is who I'm going to be with, or I just gotta get out.
I'm not getting married, ever, and I asked my GF were her long term goals and relaitionship needs are heading...I doubt I can meet her needs in the long term..
Short term GF meet's my needs...I have to figure out what my long term needs are.
This would be a great soliloquy into "How to break up with your girl Friend", I'm close.

 

Hey Cyclone. Sounds like you had a pretty good weekend. Good luck with everything and whatever you decide, I'm sure it will be for the best.

 

Married twice and kids? That would have been the stop sign for me, from the beginning. Drama free is the life for me.


If you don't have serious intentions, it's wrong to string her along when she has her kid's to think of. Get out of the way, man. The sooner you are out, the sooner she can get over it, and get on with her life.

 

I agree, that is pretty selfish. There is more to think about and alot more people involved than just you and her. Her kids need stability ASAP and you do not have any intentions of providing it to them.

 

is this a true story?

...zap!

 

yes it's true....My GF looks after her kids, She has been devorcided
for four tears. her ex plays an active role in the kids life and pays child support.
I don't have to play the fathier role and I'm not responsable for supporting the house hold.
My relationship is with my GF and I don't ignore her kids, but I havent established parental relationship.
Prior to eating out, I was content to take it slow, It's not all bad...but proving difficult to merge two seperate lives togethier.
This relationship has been one year, and I'm attracted to her, I'm happy being arround her, she's independant, solves her own day to day problems, great cook.
I have not cheated on her, temptations have been thier, but I have not went thier...and I'm not going to..
In my perfect world, I would support her and the Kids and tell the ex to shove his support payments, I'm just not ready to take on a wife and three kids..
So, I'm in over my head, and have to swin a lot quicker than I'm acustom to.

 

The point is not child support or how well off financially the kids lifes are at all. Money means very little in life, I've been broke and happy and I've been fairly well off and happy. Yes I'd rather be well off, but I'm not any happier with money than with out.
You expressed that you are not the father figure, which is fine it's only been a year. But you expressed there as wel las earlier that you have no intentions on being one. From what you have said this far then this relationship is all about you. Maybe you are contibuting to the relationship in some ways that you havent mentioned here. But these are some major areas to your GF and her kids wether she tells you it is or not. It is! But you are not contributing in those areas and have expressed that you have no intentions of doing so.

So far from this thread it sounds to me like it is a great situation for you.

 

Watch out, CV, or you'll end up like this guy:



Can't tie his shoes or pull up his pants, and he's carrying a purse with a dog in it while following 3 steps behind his Master.