The ATM
Senior Member
Joined: Jul 2002
Posts: 485
Likes: 0
From: Central Florida
NaviGirl you are making this tougher than it needs to be. I'll let you in on the secret.
Men are motivated by 3 basic factors/needs.
1) WHAT'S IN IT FOR ME? This addresses the basics of food,clothing,shelter etc. and the need for personal goal acheivement.
HOW IT WORKS: My wife wanted a different house that would cost a lot of money (the reasons and details behind which I don't recall), I bought it because there was room for a big TV and had a huge garage.
2) SILENCE IS GOLDEN. This is why whining/nagging (to a degree) is such an effective tool to get what you want. I firmly believe that most acheivements of modern man came from an attempt to achieve peace and quiet.
HOW IT WORKS: While trying on shoes in a department store my wife comments that, "These shoes are the only ones I really like because they look good and don't hurt my feet." I insisted she buy a pair in every color they had. Price of 5 pairs of shoes=$300, Not having to listen to her complain about her feet hurting=Priceless.
3) THE QUEST FOR (well, you know...) Men like sex, and anytime you can weave that into what you want you can get good results.
HOW IT WORKS: Show your husband a 9 page VISA bill while wearing a little number from Fredrick's of Hollywood that's so transparent you can read an appliance warranty through it-I bet it gets paid no questions asked.
If you can meet 2 or 3 of the above in your request you will be assured of getting what you want.
Instead of: "Let's take a vacation."
Use this: "Let's go to the Islands, you can gamble in the casino (1), while I go shopping (2), later we can go for a walk on the beach before having a nice dinner in our suite (sounds like a good shot a 3).
That statement is true. It is rarely productive to go to war with a member of the species that invented the concept.
Men are motivated by 3 basic factors/needs.
1) WHAT'S IN IT FOR ME? This addresses the basics of food,clothing,shelter etc. and the need for personal goal acheivement.
HOW IT WORKS: My wife wanted a different house that would cost a lot of money (the reasons and details behind which I don't recall), I bought it because there was room for a big TV and had a huge garage.
2) SILENCE IS GOLDEN. This is why whining/nagging (to a degree) is such an effective tool to get what you want. I firmly believe that most acheivements of modern man came from an attempt to achieve peace and quiet.
HOW IT WORKS: While trying on shoes in a department store my wife comments that, "These shoes are the only ones I really like because they look good and don't hurt my feet." I insisted she buy a pair in every color they had. Price of 5 pairs of shoes=$300, Not having to listen to her complain about her feet hurting=Priceless.
3) THE QUEST FOR (well, you know...) Men like sex, and anytime you can weave that into what you want you can get good results.
HOW IT WORKS: Show your husband a 9 page VISA bill while wearing a little number from Fredrick's of Hollywood that's so transparent you can read an appliance warranty through it-I bet it gets paid no questions asked.
If you can meet 2 or 3 of the above in your request you will be assured of getting what you want.
Instead of: "Let's take a vacation."
Use this: "Let's go to the Islands, you can gamble in the casino (1), while I go shopping (2), later we can go for a walk on the beach before having a nice dinner in our suite (sounds like a good shot a 3).
6. Use "would you" or "will you" instead of "you'd better" or "do as I say and no one will get hurt."
