MTM Ford, you are now my hero

 

 

Hey I might not be the smartest but I'm a quick learner

To be honest with you Mig, I have jealousy and trust issues and have gone through exactly what you're going through. The best thing to do is back up a little and give both yourselves some space. If she is texting another guy let it go, unless something seems out of place with the situation then you have the right to have some concern. I know it can be hard to "just let it go", believe me. But women don't want to be with a guy that only wants her to talk to him and a few of her friends.

If you listen to everyone elses advice on here though you should be fine and be able to make an educated decision. It sounds like we're a lot a like in this department and believe me just letting some things slide can be hard but also worth it.

 

Hahaha agreed! If you suspect something then say f$&@ it and move on and find a new one. I'd say that cuz I'm only 18

 

Honestly man, I would say you should take a few steps back. I have been played like a fiddle many times, and its right when you show a weakness that they break you in half man. In the given situation, your weakness is caring as much as you do. Its natural to have those feelings, but relationships have to be stupid and be all about the cat and mouse kinda chase. Keep in mind, that this could be absolutely nothing, BUT please don't be naive and assume thats what it IS. CHU never know what goes on in a female mind, and I gave up trying to understand years ago. My advice to you is to back off, act like you dont care. May sound bad, but act as if you were "over" her and the whole ordeal and if its mean to happen then it will. Like my buddy MTM over here, I am perfectly content with my truck and my friends. I am single, not because I have cheated, been a jerk(use your own choice of words), lied, or what have you.. but because I learned quickly that I dont need that kind of drama and "emotional pain" at this point in my life. I used to think I needed to be in a relationship, and I became mr. outgoing and tried my luck that way. All I got out of that was very short shallow "relationships" with a lot of girls, and it never really got me anywhere. So, I eventually gave up on the whole deal, and here I am. I am working full time, going to school, in the best shape of my life, and have more money than I have ever had. Its all about me I guess you could say(of course I have my family in mind).


I assume your a young guy, live it up man. Forget getting married or having serious relationships.. everyone thinks marriage is soo amazing and everyone lives happily ever after. No, that does not happen.. Marriage is just two people(hopefully of opposite sex) that can co-exist without killing each other.

 

Good lord, you are 21? Go out and live life man!! When I was younger I was all wrapped up in trying to find someone to date/marry/etc...drove myself insane and went thru a lot of pain. Met a chick when I turned 30 thought, this is it. Nope, she cheated on me with an abusive as hell psycho who was an MP..he had all this training in martial arts, threatened me a few times. I said, hey pal you can have her! Ya'll were meant for each other! She thrived on drama and I was over it. I took like 2 years off from dating, got my head right, met a girl online. We talked online for a month before we met in person..hit it off and got married last December. She has no jealous bones in her body, I travel a ton for work, she never accuses me of being bad, because I never would be, and I never even think she may cheat on me. This chick you speak off will be a distant and vague memory for you in three years..trust me. And listen to Dirt Bike Dave..smart man..

 

Well don't act like kids. If you like her and she likes you, why the hell are you going to go out and meet other women? Just to "show her" something? Sheesh. Kick back with some buds, down a few beers and call it a night. Have an adult conversation with her about the CHU person. Tell her you didn't mean to snoop, etc.

 

Regardless of what you decide to do I'd wait until after the Pinback concert!

 

getting in an arms race with a woman is a very bad idea.

she can give away more "stuff" then you can ever get.

 

Communication is the most import aspect in order to have a good relationship. A good communicator doesn't mean she talks and you listen or vise versa but both have to talk to each other and listen to each other.

I recommend you tell her straight up what has been bothering you and ask her to be honest in her response.

Then start with a set of simple rules, like,.....tell her, you wouldn't appreciate if I text my friends every second while we are together, neither do I appreciate that, so please don't do it.

If you're always afraid to talk to her and or you can't or don't know how to communicate with each other, I'd say at least say goodbye, move on, learn from this relationship to help you with the next.

If I were in your situation I would tell myself "run Forest RUN!!!" Happiness, IS being single!

I'd also agree with MT but I may add, a man only needs three things in his life; that is A truck, Food and sex. I know I can do all that......in my truck.......by myself!

 

FWB/NSA is where its at.

 

Get the hell rid of her. Dude, shady stuff is more trouble than it's worth. If it's 1% shady, that's too much. I have learned this the hard way, many times over, and I kept screwing myself thinking I could fix it or things weren't really what they seemed. Screw that, get her out of your life.

 

ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

 

I know it sucks, but seriously, just save yourself the time/trouble/heartache and tell her when she gets her ship together and doesn't want to be shady, give you a call. She's obviously not ready for a relationship. You're screwing yourself by not kicking her to the curb.

 

I suggest you just ask her to marry you. What's the worst that could happen? She says yes?