I say give it a bit of time, obviously you respect her feelings/views on things in general. If you feel strongly about her and want to get everything out in the open now that way you don't waste you're time or hers, go for it. I'm not saying have the ol' heart to heart, bring it up in a neutral location, as light hearted as possible. At least she'll know where you're coming from, and you'll be able to tell if she's one that will or will not compromise. Like most everybody on here, good traits get better, bad traits lead to the big "D", ulcers or both.
Best of luck to you.
Rhonda

 

I can guarantee she will not change her views or beliefs on anything. No matter if you don't agree with them, think they're silly or what have you. If you think you can change her, think about who you're going up against. GOD. I guarantee he is the #1 guy in her life. She is not gonna deviate from her life long of worship, b/c a guy she's been dating for a tiny fraction of her life thinks differently. No hit against you, just the facts.

So, you have two choices

1) Join her. Adopt her believes as yours. But thats only gonna happen if you believe. Don't put some front on, and act like it with hopes of her changing down the road.

2) Call it quits. Accept the fact that her lifestyle is not the lifestyle you want to live. (B/c she's gonna live it no matter what.) It's so early in the relationship that I guarantee you'll both have forgotten about each other in a month. That's the great thing about dating.

I've meet countless chicks that had something I liked about them. Looks, personality, view on life, etc... But didn't get serious with them, b/c I knew that the stuff that I didn't like would sooner or later cause problems down the road. At 24 you still have plenty of time to meet a cool chick with all the things that you like about your current one, but one that will also share the same outlook on life as you do.

 

SScully, you dont even know what you're talking about. I never claimed to be Catholic, even though I know many fine people who are.

 

Don't know what I am talking about ?
Guess all of them were lying about it then, huh ??

I never claimed you were Catholic ( go reread the post-it does not say that ), just pointing out the hole in your logic.

 

As most baptist Id say why waste your time dating just to date. She seems like to me she has her head screwed on straight. There arent too many women around that age that havent screwed the entire football and cheerleading squad anymore. Sounds like to me you are the one jacked up. I hear the same crap from guys i work with that "believe in God" blah blah blah. If you beleive it, then dont be a jackwagon and make excuses of why you dont want to go to church, dont want to wait until you are married to have sex, waste your life boozing/jail, tickets and not to mention all the stupid drama to boot.
My advice to you is to RUN away just so you dont corrupt this girl into something she will regret for the rest of her life.
I feel i can say this because i am baptist, not that it matters as long as you are a bible believer its all the same....That said ive been where you were about 5 yrs ago and the girl i ended up marrying got my head on straight and ive been blessed ever since. Most men will tell you put out or get out. I figure you probably made up your mind already, just wanting some ammo for the bailout. Sorry for your misfortune of finding a good christian girl.

Sorry for the rant man, i just hear this crap all the time. I work construction and these dudes are always complaining about these crazy chicks and this one is just tooo good for me...Not sure what that even means. Good luck anyway man. I tell other christians to pray about it , you may be surprised what may happen.

 

Seems to me this is a case of wanting what you can't have! It's only been a month and you are already this wound up about her.

Maybe you should offer to go to church with her a few times to try to better understand her views. Maybe if you did she might be willing to go a few more places with you.

Either way you two don't sound very compatible from what you have said. It's easy to comprimise on most things but world views (religion and politics) rarely change.

 

The only hole in my argument is caused by the hole where your brain is supposed to be.

 

My brain is working fine, as shown by my reading skills ( not blatantly making false statements about your posts ), and the ability to apply fact to counter an opinion.

Nice try at avoiding the facts for a 2nd time by insulting me.
Very Christian thing to do.......

 

Put it in her pooper.

 

So all people who go to bars have low self confidence? Just because you had low self confidence doesn't mean that everyone who go to those places do.

And not all people who go to bars necessarily drink either.

 

I thought about this one, and just went for the low hanging fruit.

 

Yeah, this one jumped out at me first

 

Respect her views, continue to have a good time with her and don't apply undue or premature pressure on yourself. Remember, you're not married to her - so there's no obligation. Enjoy each other's time and go on being you. If it works out, you'll have a very respectable mate. If not, you'll have a good friend. Either way, you win. - Og

 

My sentiments too. Slow down and let the relationship develop and do it her way for a while. Set your ego aside.
I met my Baptist girl thirty eight years ago and she made me a better man. 36th anniversary on 3/22.

 

Congrats on 36 years! Im 27 and looking for the exact thing you found. Too bad I thought like most guys until I was about 25 or so...I'd probably be much further along.