Me and my wife have been married since last June. We fight all the time , and i mean ALL the time , from daylight to dark. I wont to take a break but i dont wanna leave my son...... Every time i say somethin bout breakin up she says she will change and she will quit fightin with me...... But shes said this several times and she never changes. Im about to pull my hair out , i dont know what to do. She doesnt have a job , she goes to college. I pay all the bills around here. So im keepin the house...... Please give me some advice.

Thanks

 

ive never been though a divorce before but ive seen my sister whos goin through one right now and its dirty. If you do decided to do the nasty D word make sure ur kid understands whats goin on so he wont be confused and ask were mommy is

 

maybe time for a second honeymoon?

 

My son is only 4 months old......... aint gonna be nomore honeymoons , with her anyways......if i get a "D" , im not gettin married again

 

alright i see ur point

 

I dont kno what to do........ she gripes about me gettin on here , she says " there aint that much to look and talk about on the ford truck site " ....aint that a crock?

 

How old is your son? That has a lot to do with it. Given you haven't been married too long, I will assume really young.

Divorce is nasty and very expensive. There is no easy answer here. If you didn't have a child involved then I would say walk away and don't turn back. You have nothing to lose at that point.

Reality is that unless she doesn't want the child or you can prove that she is so horrible (big time drug user or similar) that she will likely retain custody. Since she isn't working, you will probably pay both alimony and child support. You may be able to dodge the alimony due to the relatively short marriage.

As far as the house...don't count your chickens there...since it is the family residence you may be paying for it and she will live there on you.

Not sure how it goes in TN but in Chicago a divorce will usually last the better part of 2-3 years and you will want to have at least 50-75k to burn through in attorney fees and such.

I would try going to counseling and seeing if you can fix things. Maybe she has some mental issue???

Either way...good luck. You will need it!!!

 

Yea were both 19......... she aint got any mental issues , shes just a "B" if you get my flow..... We got married because she got pregnant , and i wish i woulda never done it.......

 

The reality is you're going to be dealing with her for the next 18 years or more no matter how you cut it.

Certainly it is tough being 19 and dealing with this. Sounds like she is high maintenance and you want your freedom. It also sounds like you're a bit bitter about paying for everything. Marriage is all about compromise. You will never have a marriage that is always happy and cheery. If you do then it is a facade and will crumble.

Instead of keeping score, you both need to talk things out...with or without a counselor and lay down some ground rules. It will likely result in a compromise that neither are happy with but hopefully you can live with it.

 

Getting divorced is messy. Getting divorced with a child involved is disasterous.

One of the first things I would do in your situation is to just get away for a while and get a clear head. Then I would REALLY study what your options are in this situation, and which would be the best choice. I would certainly look into couples counseling to try to get to the bottom of what the problem between youu and your wife are. I think it may have something to do with your ages and the responsibility of the child that she may be resenting at this time, especially if her female friends are single, childless, and out doing things she can't because of child.

I would also look into what happens in your state with regard to divorce, alimony, child custody, and child support payments. This would probably require talking to a divorce attorney, but talking to others who have been through a divorce in your area would get you plenty of information on this subject. As far as a divorce, it should only be done after trying counseling. And if you do get a divorce, make sure you have a good support group around you during the divorce.

I wish you well in whatever you do from this point forward in this situation. Whatever you do, do not stay together just because of the child, and stay in a terrible marriage. Believe me, a child would rather be FROM a broken home than in one.

 

Slap her across the **** and tell her to get her **** together. Problem solved.

 

holy crap! mega ownage!

 

Just reading this gives me a headache -- sounds to me as if you're screwed no matter which way you go......

 

Lmao amen brother.


Bigun: I am sorry bro. I wish I could give you some awesome advice and make it all seem better but I cant . Getting a divorce messes kids up though. I know that, seen it too many times before.

 

Your both 19. Both of you need to grow up alot to keep it together. Sorry.. that is the truth. You could start by giving in. It will anger you to no end. But give in and say yes dear for a few months. That will settle the situation down hopefully, then calmer heads can prevail. You need serious sit down talk time with a counselor. Sounds like there is a lot of insecurity on her part. Sooth that insecurity if you can find out what it is. I wish you the best. It is a hard road.