Hey guys, let me start off my saying I don't post much on here about advise on relationships but here goes..

It all started on saturday my girl goes up to a BBQ at one of her co-workers house.. I didn't go and she had a great time.. Afterward she says she's going to an after party somewhere right near the BBQ.. This is where is gets tricky.. She doesn't call or text me the whole night... Next day she calls me like nothing is wrong... I asked her " Why didn't you return my text" and what did you do after the BBQ" Her answer was " I don't have to tell you!." WTF does this come from... So I keep asking her what the hell went on and she wouldn't tell me, it turned into a fight..

Now today I meet her at the mall hang out for a while and she gets a call from her mother and gets pissed off.. So later this afternoon we meet with some friends and just hand out for just alittle bit, then when we leave she says she needs to go someone and that she's not going to work... She calls me around 7:15pm and asks me what I'm doing and I said " nothing just watching TV". She said she was going to go home and relax and get some sleep... Some time passes I text her.. She doesn't respond. I call her she doesn't pick up the phone.. I did this for about 2 mins and still nothing..


So I decided I wanted to go by her house to see if she was there so we could talk and she wasn't home.. So I call again and still no answer on her phone... Time passes and I get a text messege from her that says WHAT?. I asked what she was doing and her reply was I don't want to talk, that's why I didn't answer the phone... WTF.... So she says the she doesn't want to talk and we text back and forth for a little bit, and then she just stops the texts...

We've been together for about 2 years and we have a 10 month old daughter together..

What should I make of this. I think she is cheating on me.. Everytime I ask her about that day of the BBQ she gets really defensive. And today everything was good until she got that phone call. Next thing she is hell bent and takes off of work and I don't hear anything from her..

What do you guys think... Should I be concerned


James

 

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You answered your own question. Best of luck.

 

It's the beginning of the end! Sorry that you had a kid with that ****

 

She's cheating on you...end of story. Now you need to get your case together to get custody of your child so you don't have to fork out child support.

Been there done that...minus a baby fortunately.

 

I was about to say just walk away UNTIL you stated you had a kid together. She apparently is fighting with the other person which is probably causing her mood swings. Also she called you to see what you were doing so she could make her own plans. Did she have Post Pardon Depression when she gave birth, its very common in a lot of woman. Keep in mind that the baby is the most important thing between you and your girl. Good Luck.

 

Sorry to say it, but I agree with the others. That sucks man. What's the living arrangements like? It doesn't sound like you live together. She is obviously trying to distance herself and probably feels guilty about what she did at the party, or is preparing to move on even if she hasn't cheated yet.

Because there is a child involved, you need to cover your azz IMO.

Now you need to get your case together to get custody of your child so you don't have to fork out child support.


Bingo. Call up your boys and go out to the bar, get it off of your mind. If she has or has not been stepping out now, you can expect that she will in the very near future. Does she have any guy "friends" (married or single) from work that she seems very close with. That's who she's probably got her eye on. I hope it works out for you.

 

To me RESPECT is one of the most important things in a relationship and it doesn't sound like she respects you so its time to let her go.

 

HA HA, now it gets better.. She texts me this morning and says why am I giving her all this drama... LOL


James

 

Even when they are not cheating...thats just women. No one can ever figure it out.

 

i bet there's a lil' more to it than your posting up anyway if it were I'd give her the boot and keep the kid and then file for child support against her

 

yeah, been there and got the kid outta it too. get urself in a position to take control.

she's probably banging him, sorry to say, we all know that stabbing feeling ur getting right now.
just be collected

 

Hate to hear this brotha. I agree with the rest, cheating, with all the signs to go with. I would stay calm and not do anything rash. Let her continue to be the bad person so that way when it is time for cosdity of the child it will be in your favor. Dont let her spin her lieing cheating web on you and get you in a bad spot. I defiently say get out as soon as you cant.

As another posted, whats the living arrangment and where does the kid stay? Are you the major provider in the relationship? Play your cards well man and good luck.

 

How many times did you actually call her? Maybe she just wanted some space, but you kept calling? Maybe she felt annoyed by all the calls and texts?

Just trying to keep optimistic about it all.

 

I'd say call her on it. If she's not guilty then why all the fuss and avoiding you.

You need to try and approach it with the coolest head possible givin the uncertain situation but ask her at the same time why she seems to be avoiding you. Tell her you can't help but think something is going on that she's not confessing. Having a child together means you will never be completely free of this woman and at the same time if she's not willing to talk to you or act like an adult unfortunatly there's not too much you can do. Don't get in to a pi$$ing match because it won't get you anywhere. At some point emotions will need to be put aside as you will both have to learn to be civil and move on if your not meant to be together.

Good luck man!