Not sure what to think
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From: Cypress
your a cop aren't you? 
i agree she is doing something she isn't supposed to be doing, dont put up w/ her ****, if she gives you the run around, just start treating her how she is treating you (w/ the exception of cheating, i never approve of that) and see what she says. try and do anything you can do to keep your kid, thats the most important thing.
i agree she is doing something she isn't supposed to be doing, dont put up w/ her ****, if she gives you the run around, just start treating her how she is treating you (w/ the exception of cheating, i never approve of that) and see what she says. try and do anything you can do to keep your kid, thats the most important thing.
Lots of details missing in the story...
Did you ever propose to her? What did she say?
Whether you did nor not, sounds like she is not interested in ever marrying you at this point.
She's got a young child and is unmarried. Sounds lke she has decided the baby's father will never be her husband. So she's started the search for someone that can meet her needs and the needs of the baby.
Either step up and make a family out of the situation, or let her go. But you will always be the baby's father, so do right by your kid.
If the baby's momma has decided she and her child will be better off if she finds a husband, she's not going to sit around and report in to you, or ask your permission.
As for your 10 month old daughter, you better think long about what is best for her, and whether or not you are cut out to be a single dad.
I know it's a tough situation you find yourself in. Good luck dealing with it.
Did you ever propose to her? What did she say?
Whether you did nor not, sounds like she is not interested in ever marrying you at this point.
She's got a young child and is unmarried. Sounds lke she has decided the baby's father will never be her husband. So she's started the search for someone that can meet her needs and the needs of the baby.
Either step up and make a family out of the situation, or let her go. But you will always be the baby's father, so do right by your kid.
If the baby's momma has decided she and her child will be better off if she finds a husband, she's not going to sit around and report in to you, or ask your permission.
As for your 10 month old daughter, you better think long about what is best for her, and whether or not you are cut out to be a single dad.
I know it's a tough situation you find yourself in. Good luck dealing with it.
Why would you want to marry someone who has cheated on you? F that. Do right by your kid and when the time is right and she ask why you left mom show her this thread! Don't stick around to be treated like crap and walked all over.
If you go back to her don't expect anyone to sympathize with you when you make your next thread like this. It will happen....MARK MY WORDS!!!!
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From: Indiana
Yeah, it was a rough time LOL.
I'm very sadden by this post Dave....she's cheating on him.
Why would you want to marry someone who has cheated on you? F that. Do right by your kid and when the time is right and she ask why you left mom show her this thread! Don't stick around to be treated like crap and walked all over.
If you go back to her don't expect anyone to sympathize with you when you make your next thread like this. It will happen....MARK MY WORDS!!!!
I'm very sadden by this post Dave....she's cheating on him.
Why would you want to marry someone who has cheated on you? F that. Do right by your kid and when the time is right and she ask why you left mom show her this thread! Don't stick around to be treated like crap and walked all over.
If you go back to her don't expect anyone to sympathize with you when you make your next thread like this. It will happen....MARK MY WORDS!!!!
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From: Cypress
You don't know if she is cheating or not. Maybe she's fell out of love with him and can't stand to be around him but doesn't want to break it off because of the kid? Maybe she's just like me and hates being smothered. I realize after 2 years you should be able to ask where she is going, but at the same time you gotta TRUST her. It sounds to me like you don't TRUST her. Trust IMO is the key to any relationship and you've obviously lost that. So either you need to talk to her and regain trust or just break it off and do what you can do to see your daughter.
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From: Vancouver
Had my x-wife do the same thing. note the x part.
Don't head into a marrage with her as she will in the future do the same thing again.
Just a comment on how I see it.
you are young, go out and date..
Don't head into a marrage with her as she will in the future do the same thing again.
Just a comment on how I see it.
you are young, go out and date..
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From: mass.
99.9% chance she is at least interested in an other guy if not already sleeping with him. we have all been here with the same end result. break it off with her tell her you just want her to be happy even if its not with you etc..etc..if you tell her that shes more likely to be civil to you when it comes to the child.
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You can't trust girls now days. My ex left me for a guy without even telling me! I had to find out from her friend. She's cheating for sure. This story has all of the signs that point to cheating.
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Do you have a birthday coming up? Maybe she's planning a big surprise of some sort for you and is getting everything arranged for it.
Have you straight up asked her point blank if she is cheating or not? If you love this girl the best thing you can do right now is sit her down look her directly in the eyes and ask her if shes cheating. Tell her it's a yes or no question. If she answers with "Why do you think that?" Tell her again it's a yes or no question. After a 2 year relationship you should be able to tell if she's being honest with you.
Sounds to me like you're just driving yourself nuts.
Have you straight up asked her point blank if she is cheating or not? If you love this girl the best thing you can do right now is sit her down look her directly in the eyes and ask her if shes cheating. Tell her it's a yes or no question. If she answers with "Why do you think that?" Tell her again it's a yes or no question. After a 2 year relationship you should be able to tell if she's being honest with you.
Sounds to me like you're just driving yourself nuts.
