it went better.... sorta. found out why I did not hear from her since tuesday... aparently her and her brother got into a domestic and had to spend the night in jail... ya fun. I'm kinda taking a step back and observing right now.... I'm also playing the manipulative therapist

 

Jail huh?? I would like to retract my previous "take it slow, it will work out" statement and now apply RUN, RUN, RUN

 

x2! all your money will go to bailing her out of jail! and you know you weren't special enough to be her 1 phone call!

 

She was in jail? That's a good one.

Hard to top that. Here goes......

 

 

Totally depends on the woman, her situation, and personality. Does she need "somebody", or does she want "you". Are you going to be a member of the family, or just a paycheck with a *****. Take things slow. If she's rushing you, find out why. Kids shouldn't be a deal killer in themselves, unless you just don't like kids or only want to raise your own.

 

Much easier to date a single mom than multiple moms. Believe me, I've done both.

 

I didn't read all the posts but here is my experience. I am a single father of two small children (8 and 4). Wife of 10 years up and left to another state to sow her wild oats I guess.

I am dating a girl who has three kids 20, 17 and 15. I am 34 and she is 39. I think one of the things that I find attractive about her is I KNOW she has a passion for kids. She has a good job, owns her house, own bills and own responsibilities. I own my house, have a good job, and own bills myself. We get to spend quality time together BUT that is only after each of us have taken care of our own responsibilities with our kids and such. Sometimes it sucks but we each know that our children have to be the #1 priority in our lives.

I would be a little worried about being involved with a young mother, one that hasn't had time to establish herself. I'm not saying she may be looking for a sugar daddy but it may turn into that just out of necessity for her. I think as long as you can remember that her child will ALWAYS come first you will be ok.

 

she isn't looking at me to be a sugar daddy. obviously it would be easier for her to have a "sombody" but I let it be know from the get go that I'm not in the position to be that guy.. so she is liking me for me. which is good but shes not in a position in life to date a guy like me, shes going to have to grow up pretty fast if she wants that to happen and I think she finally realized it.

 

I really don't understand how people (men and women both) can just "*****" around. I can't do that. I need to feel some sort of emotional connection with the person. So for the poster that said the men that are purely interested in a relationship "are the real men", I totally agree.

I'm starting to think that this thread has nothing to do with dating a single mother. Sounds more of just a relationship issue. I'd be a little concerned about the jail time for a domestic situation.

 

Eh, there is nothing wrong with a little whoring around (both men and women). From 18 to 22, yep man ***** I was. But that was college. So many women wanting casual, no strings attached sex. Can't pass that up.

Graduated college, got a good job, place of my own - whoring around, not so much. Started looking for something more (sounding ghey here) "meaningful". Dated a girl for 3 1/2 years. Thought she was the one. Nope. Played the field a while, met my wife and bang, married (happily).

I don't know how old Styx is but there is nothing wrong with "playing the field" a little. Just a little.

 

When I met my wife 24 years ago she told me I was the 2nd man she had ever been with.

When she says you are the best man I have been with...in the back of my mind I always think...you only knew 2 so what kinda references do you have?


When I was young and single I loved to mingle...

 

Exactly!

 

I didn't read all the posts but my buddy dated a woman with kids.

One thing you have to think about is do you want kids of your own? If the answer is yes, is she willing to have more kids? You don't want to spend the rest of your life wishing that you had passed your own genes instead of taking care of someone else's.

 

yes! thats a major issue for me, i want myself a little boy to pass along the family name, we could always use more lugnut kids around here :P

but the same time, girls my age or under 25 are stuck in party mode... you have a fine line to work with.