Or stop at a stoplight!

I was there for work last year and I have to say it looked really rough to me.

Duke

 

What a bunch of poosies! Detroit isn't that bad. Sure there are many parts I wouldn't even venture into alone at night (or during the day for that matter), but every popular club, bar, or large venue is usually clean, well lit, plenty of people and generally very safe.

 

Relatively speaking.

Relative to the standard level of safe for Detroit.

You better get some shootings or something, we are gonna take that title I swear.

 

I believe she was planning on going to a club in pontiac... Which is where she went before... From what she told me its in a pretty ****ty area. A friend also had his stereo stolen there. I have never been, just going by what I have been told by several people.

 

Dude, those clubs up in Pontiac are a cake walk!!! I assume she's going to the Have-a-nice-day-cafe (or whatever they call it now), clutch cargo, blah blah blah... anywho if your worried about her in that area then seek help. It's not bad. Stereos get stolen everywhere, even Livonia!

 

It's has been a good bit of time since I lived in Livonia (grew up there), but at 19 we used to just go across the border to Windsor...I don't remember getting into clubs in Michigan as a minor...of course I don't remember trying either..

R/
Craig

 

I think thats where she was going, just going from the assumption after last time. Never been there so I couldnt tell you. Shes not going anyway... So thats that.

 

Yeah, not going to have a good time 'cuz your a headcase going bonkers over completely inaccurate assumptions!

 

She is the one who told me it is in a ****ty area, and she will regularly admit it. I'd still be pissed anyway.. I dont want a bunch of guys harassing my girlfriend. I know She'd be pissed if I went the strip club or the bar. So whats the diff?

 

1. Its not a crappy area. Its a lot of fun. Get in, have fun, get out.
2. Uh, she's a chick - she doesn't have to be in a club to get "harassed". And if she is in fact hot, then you best learn to accept dudes will hit on her like a roofer with a nail gun each and every day of her life.
3. There is no diff. Neither of you trust one another. You don't like her doing what she wants, she doesn't like you doing your thang. Sounds like an awesome relationship!!

 

Ohh My Gosh...... I stereo was stolen at from the local wal mart parking lot in this podunk town I call home last year, guess thats now considered a ****ty dangerous place! A friend of mines son was just beat to death in a park a week ago last sunday, we just buried him wednesday. I guess thats a now a bad area too.....

Psssh, I will still go both places day or night and wouldn;t worry about my wife or kids going either.

Bad things happen. Yes!
Life can and will change in the blinmk of an eye. Yes!
Is there anything you can do to stop it? No!
It can happen anywhere, anytime, any number of ways. You HAVE to accept that!
I understand you are just now realizing our own mortality, and that can be rough. You have to figure out a way to come to terms that you and the people around you can and will die at some point. The only thing to do is cherish every moment you have on earth and enjoy the time you have with the people around you.
You can not run thier lifes trying to protect them. Each person is given choices every single day, if you try to make those choices for others based on what "you feel", then you will push them away. No one wants to be around a dictator. Everyone has to make thier own choices. You do not have the right, to take that way from them!


Also if she has a double standard now, where she can go out and you cant.... RUN!!!! RUN LIKE A ****!!!!! GET THE F OUT OF DODGE WHILE THE GETTING IS GOOD!!!!! Screw that crap!!!! Your life will be filled with so much pain, suffering, heartache and she will always be letting you down.

If she wants to go out, encourage her to go out, encourage her to be careful to let her know you truely care. Then call your friends and you guys go out too, to a different club far far away. I'd bet a beer before the end of the night they would come join you guys anyway.

 

^^^ PLEASE SEE THE ABOVE

Read it over and over again until you get it right because thats some good advice right there! Like PSS said encourage her to go out because a relationship cannot be based on "what if" because then both of you will be some boring a$$ people and the second some other guy comes around and offers her a better deal you better believe shes gone man.


You should do the same because at the end of the day when all is said and done and she/you break(s) up. The people that should be around you are your friends, but they wont be there if you deserted them.

 

Thanks for the advice guys...

 

PSS-Mag has it right. I had a girlfriend for 6 years, I would worry a little when she went out with her friends and nothing ever happened. Then last December she left my house in the morning to go to work and I never saw her alive again. She was run over and killed in a crosswalk 3 blocks from my house. S*** happens, nothing you can do to prevent it.

 

Sorry to hear about that Cndcowboy... You guys have helped me to open my eyes towards this subject. I need to take some of my own advice...