My problem is I lost the key.

 

There is someone that will have a set of bolt cutters, unfortunatly there is alot of pick artist too. Watch out for teh pick artist.
The right one will walk up and bust it out with total disregard to anything around them.
I pick artist will try to careess and finess.

 

Patman03SprCrw, what are you saying? I'm not sure if just putting my dang dang away is the answer...lol
Ok, so I was supposed to meet with Lindsey today to "talk" (the quotation marks are NOT intended to imply pervertedness, even though I like that language), but she didn't show up, so I texted her and she says "Oh, I changed my plans". Well, nice to let me know after I waited all day like an idiot! Sorry to rant, people, just a bit touchy about it still yet.
See, when I met Lindsey, I did know, and I have been with more than my share of women, pretty much a skirt-pokin` man-ho here, and all of a sudden I meet her, and we took it slow, like 6 months before we even kissed each other, but it developed beautifully, until I don't know what the heck happened. As dinty so graciously pointed out (j/k), her Baby Daddy is kind of in the picture. He works out of town, and is home one weekend a month, and that's not anytime soon, so I'm kind of perplexed at that theory. He hasn't left her alone one day since they broke up, and she usually ignores his calls or texts (except when they are talking about their daughter), Ok, now I'm just trying to talk myself into denial. This sucks. Will keep posted, and THANK YOU for reading and being friends.

 

Well, update, she just texted me and said that she has a lot going on right now and that she sees no future for us dating.

 

Best of luck! I'd think that up-front honesty would be your best bet with Lindsey. If she doesn't like the honesty or it doesn't work out, then I'm sure you wouldn't want to be with someone that didn't want the truth anyhow. Give her a day or two to cool down and think and then have the honesty talk. She's probably just not ready to say what she wants or she doesn't 100% know what she wants yet. She could be afraid of commiting to you and then having you turn into what her ex was. Her biggest concern and appropriately so, is her child. It'll work out. If not, it'll be fine in the end. Life goes on, the sun will rise again tomorrow.

Duke

 

F150 Duke, that was an awesome post! Not as awesome as Buckdropper's, but it was as great a post as I have seen, and yet so simple...You're like Yoda...You made me somehow feel a little better about getting PWNED!!!!

 

No problem man, glad I can help in some way. We all have our own trying times and it's nice to sometimes find a little help from someone other then the people we interact with daily. After all, it's sometimes those who we interact with on a daily basis that factor into the trial.

I'd honestly not contact/text/write a letter/shine a flashlight into the sky for Lindsey for at least two days. [This lets her think and also gives her a chance to miss you. People want what is not with them or available to them in the moment, it's human nature. If you're not contacting her, it gives her the want to contact you or gets her thinking about when you might contact her again.]

Maybe Friday, call her (not text) as it's more personal and ask if you can both sit down and discuss what is going on in both of your lives. Say "I want to be part of the solution and not the problem." Offer to have this conversation over coffee if you guys drink coffee or maybe a walk in the park, just a casual setting that is somewhat private and NOT in her house or anywhere that will bring on the thoughts of stress.

Then sit down and actually discuss what has changed for her, what has changed for you. Then what you would like to do and how you can help her and how she can help you. Maybe she doesn't know that you really want to help her and rather not just bring your ex-wife/custody problems into her picture. Sounds like she has similar issues and is afraid that you'll dump yours onto her's and compound the stress. Rather offer that you want to help her with the stress and work through it together.

If it still doesn't work out after a conversation like that, then it's truely not meant to be. If that's the case, then just worry about coming to an agreement with your ex-wife which is in the best interests of all parties (your ex-wife, your child and most importantly yourself). Then focus on work, bettering yourself as an individual and the better you make yourself, the better a women you will attract next time around. When a truely good women sees that you have gotten yourself and your life in correct order, then she will attract you and make herself known to you. Until then a truely *perfect for you* women will not approach a man who is distraut with a child custody battle and other related "issues".

You sound like a level headed guy so far. I think you'll pull through just fine. Don't forget to smile at least once a day. That'll help more then you realize.

When I had to help my girlfriend and her family for six weeks take care of her dying brother (terminal brain cancer), I just tried to smile at least once a day, and make someone else smile too. It makes life and your situation that much more bearable and makes you stronger as a person.

I'm not much on the Yoda character, but found this quote which applies.

"Anger, fear, aggression; the dark side of the Force are they. Easily they flow, quick to join you in a fight. If once you start down the dark path, forever will it dominate your destiny, consume you it will"

 

Being a female myself, I can honestly say that we are all flooked up! We don't ever know what we want and the grass always looks greener. I swear it, we are jacked up creatures. We find "mr perfect" and he turns out to have a nose picking problem and then we find every little stupid thing irritating and it snowballs until the next mr perfect comes into the picture.

Talk to baby momma! Let her know you care about your daughter and don't want her in the middle of a "battle" between you two. I have seen so many flippen times where the kid is used as a pawn and it makes me ill. Take care of yourself and your baby. If Lindsey decides she wants to be in the picture then make it on YOUR terms, not hers. She's the one that broke it off in the first place. And the living together thing... I'm thinking not such a good idea. If she let baby-daddy back into the picture once, she's gonna do it a million times over. You move in, you move out, you move in, you move out. Don't let your daughter get close to Lindsey or any other hoopie patch either! She doesn't need 25 different "Aunties" coming to visit daddy.

I've been told that "no one" thinks like I do (about similar issues) so maybe I'm just an idiot but this is my $0.02.

Good luck!

 

It's my opinion and my opinion only, but it sounds like you need to make better decesions. I dont know how long you had been seeing Lindsey but you had only been living with her for a month and a half? Then she starts asking for commitment to prove yourself, telling you that you should sue your ex for custody... that should have been a red flag.

You say you were so into Lindsey and felt so strong about her yet you didn't have a clue that she might not be over her Ex? Regardless of others you really should be a little bit more careful about the ones you choose to get so close to. Your the only one you will really ever be able to count on in this small world. I really feel sorry for your daughter and hope things work out, for both your and her sake.

Sorry I can't get on here and say yea she was a B and that's just a woman for ya, but that's not how I think and I always try and shoot straight. Best of Luck.

 

its kinda scary b.c i got the same reply from the chick im talking to too, without all the kid drama, but whats even worse, her name is Linzi too. and yes thats how she spells it

 

WTH kind of "dzervit post" was that?

 

da da da duuuuummmmmmm


Do we have a love triangle?

Will linzie/lindsey's game get busted here tonight?

Stay tuned for the continuation because, these are the Days of our Trucks......

 

Also beware of people with tennis *****.

 

He was in the middle of getting it blown halfway (see post on Valentine's day card for trytokeepup).

NASSTY, you are one random guy.

PSS-Mag, true, true. (said in the budweiser voice.)

Whatcha doin'? Readin the thread, having bud.

 

Wow, you really ARE like Yoda! Except he was wrong, Annakin came back from the dark side...
Racerchick68, good points, I like the way you think...
CajunJosh, you are correct in most every word, I did know Lindsey and was with her for quite a while before staying with her, and that's what really makes me feel ill about it is that I never knew there was any issue at all, everything was fine until one minute it all went to hell...Usually, my bad choices cause these things, though...
Patman03SprCrw, sorry to hear that, mine is Lindsey, but to make it even more twilight zone-ish, my last name is Patrick...