Okay. I need to take a vote to settle a disagreement between two friends. Here's the scenario. Answer with whatever info you wish to include but make sure to say Okay or Not Okay in your answer.

Two male friends go to a bar. Friend A is semi-single and has just gotten out of a 4.5yr relationship. Field B has been dating a girl for a couple months. She is out of state for the summer but they are still together.

At the bar, Friend A talks about how hot this one girl is to Friend B. He dances with her one time. Later in the evening, Friend A walks by the girl three times in the course of a couple minutes at the start of a slow song. This is observed by Friend B. Next thing Friend A knows, Friend B is dancing with the girl on the dancefloor. This goes on for two songs. The question is as follows. Was it okay for Friend B to dance with the girl given the scenario above?

I've tried to keep this as neutral as possible but will answer questions if needed.

Responses from women will be taken into consideration but may or may not be weighed equally.

 

Friend b is kind cutting friend a's grass.

not O.K.




russell

 

not OK...

Friend B should be shot in the back of his head...small caliber round, sub sonic, no exit wound, execution style if possible. Disassemble weapon of choice and "lose" it piece by piece along the highway at 8-10 mile intervals. Go home. Have beer.

Seriously, not cool on the Friend B's part. He broke the code that men share...never horn in when your buddy has a chance with a woman.

The only excuse he has is that he was talking to her about Friend A...Friend A may be gun shy after being in said relationship for so long.

Hang tough...

 

That's messed up, unless as stated Friend B was talking up Friend A for an extended amount of time. If that condition was not the reason for Friend B's motivation, than Friend B's loyalty to Friend A, his woman and to his very character should now be under question.

Whatever the case, Friend A should never allow Friend B to break guy etiquette of horning in on a girl already picked out untill Friend A has either succeded in his mission or is shown no hope of any potential with the target.

If all else fails, tell him he's an a$$hole for ruining hundreds of years of men trying to get a girl in a bar. He would never be welcome amongst my friends who not only say there gonna help you with a girl, they follow through.

 

My opinion doesn't matter?? I think I'm offended Oh well you're going to get it anyhow.

First a question...Did friend B ask the girl to dance or did the girl ask friend B? This makes a huge difference in the outcome.

If friend B asked the girl then he is a schmuck, after friend A told him how he felt about the girl friend B should have backed off and found his own woman.

If, however, the girl initiated the dancing then I'd say friend A was too slow on the up-take and she got tired of waiting around for him to make a move and maybe decided to make him a bit jealous by asking friend B to dance. That or she had the hots for friend B all along and waited for a slow song to make her move.


That's my opinion, if you don't like it...I have others...

 

First - I think it sucks and was wrong, Friend B is a c*&(k blocker

1) Friend A is BSing around, he already danced with her once.

2) really important did she ask him? maybe she got tired of waiting.

One song she is being nice - two songs and she is somewhat into him. Again did she ask him.



On a personal note you should always over trump and be the bigger CB in that senario. It has been awhile but I always liked to close up the loose ends right away when dancing with someone first, I am sure the question came up if you were here alone - no I am taking my friend out his girlfriend is outta town. Now if he got to someone first never messed with it.

BUT IN THE END SNOOZE YOU LOOSE

 

I dont know of too many girls that ask guys to dance, so Im going to asume that the friend asked her to dance.

In which case, thats f'd up. Its not like life altering, friendship ending, he messed up though. Id let him know whats up and never take him to a club or bar again with me. And Id break his knees

31C

 

"Picking up women Etiquette"

lift with your legs not your back..... ....

seriuosly, that's not cool. friend B has a girl and friend A is kinda on the rebound. friend B should be encouraging and helping friend A to get over his last relationship not making him feel worse.

 

Questions:
A) Who did she go home with? or Who got the phone number?

B) Why didn't friend A take the opportunity to cut in a friend B during slow song?

Maybe I'm too arrogant, conceeded, over-confidant, or whatever to see why friend B is an a$$. I have the attitude that friend B can do whatever he wants, because it doesn't matter - she isn't going home with him anyway

 

Friend A was way too slow to make his move. As said above, you snooze you lose. If Friend A walks 3 times past a girl he has already danced with, the girl and Friend B will conclude Friend A is either not really interested or too much of a wimp.

Friend B has just as much right to ask the hot chick to dance as Friend A. No way he and the hot chick have to avoid each other and wait out a slow song that they want to dance together just because Friend A once asked the hot chick to dance.

Friend A does not get to claim the hottest chicks in the place and demand Friend B avoid those chicks. And if Friend A strikes out or passes on a chick (which seems to be the case in the example), he should not give Friend B attitude about it just because Friend B dances with her.

 

Hot damn. People understood my drunken post. I should have given Friend A and Friend B names to make it clearer. Anyway, that's for your responses. Keep it coming. I need to get a few dozen answers to make it fair. I'm also going to post on another couple boards for that reason. I'm not going to answer the questions asked so far because for the most part they've been answered in some way or another.

As far as I'm aware, the girl didn't show any clear signs to either friend. Of course who knows what friend B might claim after the fact.

 

Sounds like she is the type to dance with any guy. She is a gold digging bar fly looking to use guyes as long as they buy her drinks and dance with her. As soon as its time to close the bar she goes home with friend c the one you did not see. Friend c was the lesbian two tables away doing the same thing to two other suckers

Next time tell friend b if he is going to cut in on your action. You will be more than happy to dance with his out of town GF next time you see her.

 

Since when are men suppose to be etiquette in how they pick up a women?

Men are hunters, on the prowl, looking for the kill. Their genes are to seek after prey, pounce on it and then do with it as they see fit…

Not sure about any particular code of ethics when it comes to men prowling for a woman. It’s like a big hunt in the woods, remember the genes are to hunt, pounce on, and take down to survive, to look out for number one, so if your in the woods and see one deer and claim it to be yours but can not for the life of you shoot it does that mean to be etiquette your buddy has to starve to death? I think not my cave man friend…

It’s a tough world out there and only the strongest survive so get out there and hunt down yourself a doe, pounce on it and have your way…

 

Great example so let me slice that up to make sense with how our genes have not really evolved since the day of living in caves…

Your friend has already caught some prey but it’s his responsibility to keep that prey corralled. When that prey gets loose, out of the corral any other man, due to our genes, has a right to seek after, pounce on and re-corral her…

 

We are predators- when it comes to women.. I know I can snack on one for hours, but- that's a post for a different thread...

Anyhoo, Friend B needs his *** kicked, and Friend A needs a kick in the *** to get started. The ice was already broken- that's 90% of the battle. As predators there is ettiquette during the hunting phase- however, after 'the kill" has taken place, if it's not going to be our "main girl", then we don't mind sharing. We typically compare notes afterwards too...

___________________________
Friend A: "So, what did you think about her t!tties?"

Friend B: "I liked them, but they were a little too big for me."

Friend A: "I didn't know they made them too big."

Friend B: "Well, they can be- anything more than a mouthful is a waste."

Friend A: "Well, call me the garbage man. Did she ___ you?"

Friend B: "Did she?! Man, I thought my forehead was going to cave in."

Friend A: "She didn't do me- said she didn't do that kind of stuff."

Friend B: "You just didn't know how to bring the freak out in her."

Friend C: (Ah, hahahahahaha) Well, after I was done hitting it one night, next thing I know- she was tossing my salad- so my question is- which one of you kissed her?"

Friend A & B: Look at each other..

Friend A: "No man, not me..."
Friend B: "Me either."

Friends A, B & C: (Ah, hahahahaha)