First off it starts today I"m polishing the rims on my Ranger, I'm in a good mood jamming to Hatebreed. Dad rolls in the driveway for lunch from work. I say "hey" He says "hi" Walks in, goes to eat his lunch not one word more. About 10 mins later he walks out, slams the door shut and throws a list of things to do at me. Mom left this list for me to do things before she took off for work this morning. I had already done them but Dad not knowing that I alreay done them got pissed off at me and started to yell at me with the garage door open to the neighborhood. Dad yells at me at the top of his 46 yr old smoked infested lungs,,,,,,well this is our little conversation shall we call it. Keep in mind ppl I work part time, go to school, and I have learned to be young, mature, kid on my own and I have good friends.

Dad: GET OFF YOUR LAZY ***, GET INSIDE AND DO THE THINGS YOUR MOTHER TOLD YOU TO DO!!!!!!!

Me: I ALREADY DID THEM THIS MORNING, GO LOOK!!!!!!!!!!

Dad: I DON'T BELIEVE YOU, PROVE IT YOU LITTLE LIEING SACK A ****!!!!

Me: Come on will go look

Sure enough, I did them as I was told by mother as much as I hate her to.

Dad: Ok, you did them. Just make sure of something boy, when your mother tells you to do something, you god d*mn well better do it.

Me: ?!?!?!?!?!? I just did them

Dad: I gotta get going,

This is not an exageration of what we said to each other in complete rage. This is the truth. I"m 19 yrs old and going on 20 in April. Obviously my parents don't realize that I listen. This is not the first time my Dad and I have fought. We actually engaged in a fist fight before and well,,,,,,,,,,that's another story!

So if anyone out there has parents like me, just go out in your truck now, and ram yourself 70 mph head on with a semi or train. Obviously, my parents don't appreiciate there own son and how proud they are to have him in this world as a civlizied young man. That's all I gotta say,,,,,,,91

 

Well ramming your truck into a train or a semi is pretty short sighted. First you endanger innocent people that don't have anything do with your situation at all. Second you F-up a perfectly good truck. Third your parents will just make another kid just like you.


19 years old , eh? My suggestion is move out on your own . Then you don't have put with BS parents and their stupid rules and attitudes.

That's what I did at 17 years old.

 

Hello and welcome to the teenage years . At least your almost through them.

Hopefully things will better.

 

91 -
I, Being a hot headed 19 yr old male , know where youre coming from. Yes ive got a temper but ive learned to control it, as i feel you have too. Best advice I can give you is to be in the same friendly mood every time you see your parents. Situations like what happened to you will sink in on parents. I never used to do stuff my mom told me to do, but i learned to do them when my dad would nail me for it. Try and do things without them asking you to do them, this goes a looong way as far as their opinion of your responsability. I know i have no room to tell you how to act cause i have a ways to go myself. My girlfriend has also influenced me a lot. Back in high school, my buddies and I used to run around and get in uproars with the kids from neighboring towns, drink alot, and always have run-ins with the law, and i was right in the middle. Being around her, when i got aggrivated at something/someone, all i had to do was look at her, and it was like she stuck a needle in my balloon. My temper has calmed down sooo much its not even funny.
I watched a guy plow into the side of my truck wtiha trash can here outside the dorm one day. It scrated it a little but i was able to keep calm and tell him in a quiet but firm voice that i never want to see him around my truck ever again. 2-3 years ago, I would have been arrested for assault and probley sent him in for a few stiches. We all grow up, and ive come a long way, but ive got a long way to go.
Keep your head up and be responsible and pleasant, thats all i can say. Good luck man, now get back to polishing those rims!!!

 

F-150_91,

You sound like a rational young guy. Just for the record, I'm 56, maybe that will give me a little credibility based on age alone.
I'm not making excuses, but remember parents are human too! We all screw up once in a while, some more than others. He mighta had a bad morning at work. Boss mighta jumped on him about something that he didn't think was his problem.
Another thought, and I do this with my boys.....
He remembers what was out there growing up. He remembers all the stuff he got into, and thinks if he takes a hard line with you, it will scare you straight. He's probably scared stiff about your future, just won't admit it to you. I know it's hard to do, especially at 19, but try to walk a mile in his shoes. I wish I'd done it years ago, my dad's gone now, been dead 8 years. There's lots of things he taught me that I didn't really appreciate till he was gone.
You don't have to get a license to raise children, you just learn it by trial and error, he's going though the error mode now. Just resolve yourself to show him the error of his ways, not by fighting, but by being successful at whatever you do.

I know it sounds like I'm preaching, but what else can a 56 year old do?

 

I was going to chime in, well, I am chiming in, but serotta said everything I was going to say..

Like he said, sometimes people have bad days, and sometimes you have to suck it up, and give them a bit of slack. You don't have to, but I bet there's been times you've had bad days, and perhaps said or done something that you regretted.

Obviously I don't know you and your family, but I hazard to guess they love you very much, and only want the best for you, is this a fair assumption?

Now, take a deep breath, exhale, and calm down a bit, I know first hand how things can get riled up in the heat of the moment, and don't be talking foolishness about driving your truck into a wall or whatever. (I know those are only words because of the moment)

You're almost past the awkward age of being a teenager, so soon you will be out on your own, and making your own life.

My dad used to get on my case too, and sometimes he was wrong, and sometimes he was right.
What I wouldn't give to see him one more time, or get in another stupid argument with him.

Chill dude, it will be ok.

Habibi

 

Tks guys for the cheer up Like you Green, I can be a sensitive hot head myself, sometimes I realize I get to the point where I'm just making a fool out of myself. God what I would give to move out right now but $$$$$$$$$ is what I need first. Bills, rent, utlity, plus I'm making the majority of the payments on my Ranger which is taking up most of the income I make. I ask for 1 thing from my parents, just let me be me and let me be happy. I'm not saying let me do whatever the hell I please and get in trouble and all that crap!! I just want them to see who I am and know what makes me happy. That;s all I ask,,,,,91

 

Revenge is the best policy...trust me..true-er words were never spoken. A quick parent problem fix....hit 'em in the wallet. Break things that you or they cant fix. Bust a water pipe in the basement..(plumber..expensive), drill a hole in dads coolant resevoir..(mechanic + parts..MORE expensive), a cup or two of c o ckroaches let loose in your house, which you can get at any pet store as live food for many lizards..(exterminator..SUPER expensive)...wanna screw 'em both up? Have a female friend call home when mom is there & ask for your dad...then hang up when mom looses it. Leave cards from an anonymous woman on his windshield in the morning for your mom to find as she is leaving. Spritz your girlfriends perfume on his seats at night...the odor will be gone in the morning so he wont smell it...but it will rub off on his clothes..& your mom will smell it..for sure. (Make sure its not the same kind your mother uses) Does your mom do his laundry? A little lip stick/lip gloss on his shirts after he wears them but before she washes them works well. They wanna make your life suck? Return the favor ten-fold. People mock revenge tactics...but it has NEVER failed me. Make every day of theirs worse than the last...let 'em assume god hates them...and you can just sit back and giggle. Sure...they brought you into this world...but not to walk all over...hurt 'em back...& hurt 'em good Good luck dude.

 

Perspective changes with experience. That's growing up. Cool example:

My 3-yr old has been drinking little "juice drinks" with lots of addatives and dyes in them. They were making her act crazy, so we decided to make her drink real juice. Last night, my wife went to the store to get juice, and my 3-yr old daughter asked for one of her crazy drinks. I told her her mom was buying some new juice, and to wait. She said"My life is ruined! You won't let me get a drink".

 

ROTFLMAO

 

91,

Have you ever thought about enlisting? It sounds like a good solution for all involved.

 

Haha!! You remind me of someone. Just can't think of the name, oh yeah! "ME"

I am 19 and just graduated high school. High school is the biggest joke i have ever heard of. Oh yea your really gonna have a better chance getting a job with a diploma. BS

 

Dude i lost both my parents the same year; some day you too will lose yours. Only then will you really know the meaning of missing them and wishing them to just speak once more.

 

It's been my observation that when parents have trouble with each other, the children often get the short end of the stick. In my opinion, your mom is probably on your old mans case and telling him to make sure you do this and that. Cut your old man some slack, he's probably not doin so good husband dept. either!

 

Wow,
There seems to be alot of psyho-analysts on this thread.

I would be institutionalized if it bothered me that much when my dad yelled at me for BS reasons. I would consider myself lucky that he didn't kick my a$$ first and then ask questions.

I have raised my family and they have turned out quite well. Yeah I have yelled at them for what they thought were BS reasons but they comment on how glad they are now that I was such a harda$$. This enabled them to adapt to the reality of life and excel with confidence.

Sorry but it just sounds like a bunch of whining to me and I can't bring myself to wipe that runny nose.