46 year old smoke infested lungs sounds like you don't have too much time left to make peace with him...theres no make up on this kind of 'home work'...trust me ..I know

 

I dunno, guess wut I've done and them have done works. I think the worse thing is when they are dissapointed in you for doing something bad or wrong. After getting in a bit of trouble arond 5th-6th grade I grew up a lot, made it to Jr. High and started working, then through HS had no problems with them at all. Now in college I respect them dearly. If you go on or beyond wut they expect from you, they will respect and be proud of you. Through out the years my dad became my best friend, and leaving him and ma for college was the hardest thing i've ever done. Just be happy with the time you have with them.


my .02 cents

 

When I was younger, I hated my parents, too, not all of the time, but occasionally I would get mad and while venting I would say things that I really didn't mean. When I was 20 years old, my mother passed away unexpectedly, and there is not a day that has gone by that I don't wish to see her for just one more minute, even if she was yelling at me. My mother rarely got ill with me, but she would tell my Dad and he would get RAW with a belt on my hiney, but don't take it for granted, if they were not here, you have no idea how much you would miss them. Also, suicide is not something funny or something to be taken lightly. If you are seriously considering that, please go to a counselor, just talk to them.

 

 

I wasn't going to post, but here goes...

Look at the situation through your Dad's eyes for a minute. He's 46, a little bald, a little gray, a little fat; he works 50 weeks a year at a job that isn't what he wanted to do (I doubt he plays for the Yankees), spends his weekends doing chores and running errands, and his vacation is spent doing family things. This man sees his son (who he feeds, clothes, houses, and supports in nearly every aspect) POLISHING HIS TRUCK ON A WEDNESDAY AFTERNOON.

Do you think that would pi$$ you off if you were him? Think carefully before you answer, because 25 years from now you will be him.

If you can't get over it feel free to move out while you still know everything.

My .02

 

If I were in your shoes , 1 st Leave home and 2nd I would join the Army and go shoot Ragheads... That will teach them a lesson for sure.....Oldgray

 

I suppose that when you live in someones house, they get to make the rules.

You could always live in the Ranger

 

I see alot of people with valid points on psychological states of stress & discomfort and they make sense...BUT, parent or not..you GET respect by giving it. How else will a child learn what it is if he/she never sees it. If someone were to stand in my face & direct a statement like "you lieing sack of sh*t" toward me, a judge would be deciding my fate...family or not. I just don't believe that the argument "they are your parents..they work hard and are stressed out...try harder to be better to them" works on all situations. On that plane, you could easily say that your father gets railed by his boss everyday, therefore is justified for coming home and beating the snot out of you and your mother. Sure..its more painful if they assault you with their fists...but can be worse if they belittle you with their mouths. You be the judge dude..is your father stressed out...or is he a an ill tempered, respectless cuss deserving of a little corporal punishment at the hands of the one he has seen so fit to crucify for so many years. It really all depends on your specific situation, and only you can be the judge...

 

 

I can feel you pain but you said you had no money to move out on your own. Be thankful that they have not thrown your a** out knowing that you dont have the funds to live by yourself yet. It will work itself out in time.
Good Luck

 

Exactly.

I've been in your shoes dude, and let me tell you that works.

Even if you wake up, stumble downstairs in the morning half asleep, ask for your list of host duties and then go back to bed it works.


I used to be a very hot headed, hot temper, quick to explode knuckle head. Now I'm very very layed back because being like that is to draining both emotionally and phsyically. I got more important things to use my energy towards.

Plus now when I get pissed people now I'm serious and not just blowing up for nothing.

 

"...19 going on 20..." Maybe your pops just wants you out of the house...

on a serious note, it's been mentioned before, just move out...

 

I don't know about you, but moving out isn't a very hopeful option for a 19 year old. A high school diploma ain't worth squat and no one is gonna pay you more than about 250 dollars a week doing manual labor. Trust me i am there. It can't be done. Heck my insurance alone is 2000 dollars every six months. I just don't see how people can handle that, power, food, cloths, and etc. Moving out is the worse thing you can do. Personally I am staying home till i am 40. I am gonna buy a house with cash.

 

Thing is though, I only talk to my parents when they ask me to do something or ask me a question. Bottom line, I only talk to them when I have to. Today they were alittle better, LMFAO NOT FOR LONG!!! God how would just love to screw up my parents!!!!! As far as drilling holes in his raidator, I don't think so ( 2002 Black F-250 4x4, na ah) My Dad goes to work, comes home, sits down on his smokin a$$, deaf a$$, turns the T.V up about what else, (the War in Iraq which I personally don't give 2 $h!ts in a ***** about) to the point where I have to literally yell to get the whoremonger just to look at me!!!!!!! I dunno what I'm gonna do,,,,,,,,,91

 

You really should pirnt out that last post you made and look at it in a couple of years so you can realize what a piece of immature ***** you really are.