First off please let me explain what I'm talking about. Last night I got back from the store to find three cop cars in my cul-da-sac. I got out of my truck and as I walked up my driveway I said (I Didn't do it) One officer that I know asked me to come over to him and wanted to ask me a question. He asked if I knew who drove the white F150 backed up into the yard next to my house. I said yes it's a friend of mine. They asked if I'd seen him today and I stated that I had, twice. They said someone called them and said they were worried about his health. I told them that I'd try and get into the house and check on him. I went to the front door and tried it, it was locked, I knocked a few times, called his neame and then remembered that he kept his garage unlocked. I tried the garage and got it open. I made my way to the inside door and tried it but it was locked. I knocked on it a few times and then tried to call his cell. Called it twice with no answer. A guy that was working on my roof said that they saw him go in and he didn't come out. I went back inside and asked the cops if I should kick the door in. They said that I could if I thought I was a good enough friend! I heard a friend say that he had just texted his girlfriend, I started to text him when it happened......POP.....after being in Iraq I knew what it was..... the cops said SHOT FIRED.... we all ducked down and they forced me out of the garage to the street. The drew their guns and all 4 of them tried to kick in the front door...that didn't happen... they moved into the garage and kicked it in... made their way in to the soon to be foreclosed house (no power/water ect...) a few sec later one cop came out went to his trunk and grabbed crime sceen tape.....my heart sank........A few officers went in and out...next thing I heard was the fire truck...... them minutes later the ambulance showed.....it's very hard coming back from Iraq and being trained to help in matters of someone being shot.... to have someone get shot 25 ft from you and not being able to do anything about it.. another friend showed up and asked how he was...I got a lil info and I knew he wasn't gone YET... He asked if the wife knew yet, I said no....he went to get her, she had just got home from school confrence with her three kids....11......6......3

after all was said and done at 3:30 am..... the shot went out at 7pm... we lft the hospital knowing that he was waiting to be pronounced brain dead.....a bullet from the top of the left ear, out the right temple.

What makes people think things are that bad that there is no one to talk to, no other way to handle emotions and or feelings.... he and the wife were split, he was with a former friend turned girlfriend, who I found out after ward told him he needed to leave..... but besides all that.....what about the kids....his boss stated to me that he'd been working the best he'd seen, spirits were high, a call at 6:51 to his wife he stated that he was looking forward to seeing the kids the next day....I call at 7 and nothing..then a POP.

I keep playing it over in my head... what would have happened if I would have just kicked the door in.......another friend told me this at the hospital.....one of three things would have happened.....
I would have got to him......
He would have just done it faster....
He would have tried to take us both....

Thinking about that helps a little....I was the frist on to the ER, and was with the wife through the whole thing, even left after see did.... now what do I tell my 8 yr old daughter....and what do her three kids get told....they just lost their aunt a yr ago...now father less....I don't get it!!

 

Life's events are very strange and have their own path. You can't go on thinking what if.....I did x, y or z? For example, what if you turned left instead of right while driving home one day, would this little delay create a major change on future events of one's life?, maybe, but most likely not. This is still fresh in your mind and time will allow you to heal. If it did not happen that day, it would most likely happened another day. We can not escape fate. Just remember everyday is the "present" and it is a present. Try to be there for his loved ones and not just the immediate future. The happiness you receive from being involved may help you heal and help the kids too. Don't try to make sense of it, it will only hurt you. Sometimes it makes no sense (now) but there is a reason for everything and time will reveal it to you.

 

Wow, I'm sorry about everything. Its hard to think that someone can feel so alone, or however they feel that they could take their own live because of it.

 

was he on any prescription medication?

 

You can never understand till you be there... Right there to that exact point. In your mind, as great as all the things in life to live for are, you cant see them. Some people ask for help, others dont.

 

Man I'm really sorry to hear about that. I had someone in my family almost do this at one time and I thank God every day that they didnt!!! Hope you get though this tough time. God Bless!

 

Always sad to hear things like this. My condolences, man.

 

no meds, social drinker.....dude was a horse...always working

 

Sorry to hear that! Knew a guy in high school that did the same thing. After seeing what it did to his family I realized it was something that I would never consider no matter how bad life got. Sometimes people just lose hope and perspective. It stinks, especially when it was someone close to you.

 

my question is, did the cops express any concern or urgency to you about getting in?

 

No... they were standing around talking that they wouldn't try to FORCE entry unless they KNEW that he was for sure going to do something, or someone saw the weapon. I don't know if I would have tried kicking in the door if I knew he had a gun...I still might have....but it wasn't till after the shot that THEY tried getting in...it was me that got them as far as they did. It's almost like he knew we were getting closer to him, and that rushed him....I hope not, but who knows....we have more questions now than answers.

 

that sucks man

 

That is unfortunate man... Condolences

 

Man, I'm sorry to hear that.

 

That is horrible, and selfish at the same time. I feel really bad for his kids and family.