Corporal Punishment and Allowance for kids
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I never got an allowance growing up. As a little kid, what kind of fiscal responsibility are you going to learn at 8 years old? I was afforded the opportunity to do extra chores for a small pay. Maybe when dad was working on a customers car in the driveway, I would help after to put away all the tools. Have a friend who ALWAYS had an allowance. He is 29 now, living at home, working part time for minimum wage driving in a new car he needed a co-signer for. The epitome of fiscal responsibility.
When I acted up, I got spanked. People assume the worst with spankings. It is NOT pants down, bent over your fathers knee and having your *** beat till it bled. It was a pop on the ***. The worse the crime, the harder the pop.
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I never got an allowance growing up. As a little kid, what kind of fiscal responsibility are you going to learn at 8 years old? I was afforded the opportunity to do extra chores for a small pay. Maybe when dad was working on a customers car in the driveway, I would help after to put away all the tools. Have a friend who ALWAYS had an allowance. He is 29 now, living at home, working part time for minimum wage driving in a new car he needed a co-signer for. The epitome of fiscal responsibility.
When I acted up, I got spanked. People assume the worst with spankings. It is NOT pants down, bent over your fathers knee and having your *** beat till it bled. It was a pop on the ***. The worse the crime, the harder the pop.
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Then when I get home it really IS my fault and I can take the *** eating easier and she looks back and sees she really didn't have anything to complain about before.
If that's not the pure blooded Midwestern conservative way to handle things I don't know what is.
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If the wife acts up too much I usually try to talk sense into her, when that doesn't work I finally break, and slam the door on my way out to a drunken binge that usually lasts a couple of days which includes strippers other general debauchery.
Then when I get home it really IS my fault and I can take the *** eating easier and she looks back and sees she really didn't have anything to complain about before.
If that's not the pure blooded Midwestern conservative way to handle things I don't know what is.
Then when I get home it really IS my fault and I can take the *** eating easier and she looks back and sees she really didn't have anything to complain about before.
If that's not the pure blooded Midwestern conservative way to handle things I don't know what is.
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If the wife acts up too much I usually try to talk sense into her, when that doesn't work I finally break, and slam the door on my way out to a drunken binge that usually lasts a couple of days which includes strippers other general debauchery.
Then when I get home it really IS my fault and I can take the *** eating easier and she looks back and sees she really didn't have anything to complain about before.
If that's not the pure blooded Midwestern conservative way to handle things I don't know what is.
Then when I get home it really IS my fault and I can take the *** eating easier and she looks back and sees she really didn't have anything to complain about before.
If that's not the pure blooded Midwestern conservative way to handle things I don't know what is.
How did you do that?
I have had women/girlfriends that asked for and enjoyed getting their hair combed back. They would say they knew I really cared when things got over the top.
Many had witnessed or experienced domestic violence...it was all they knew.
Then there were the freaky ones that just liked pain...
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I don't do much talking but you seemed to have stolen a page out of my play book.
How did you do that?
I have had women/girlfriends that asked for and enjoyed getting their hair combed back. They would say they knew I really cared when things got over the top.
Many had witnessed or experienced domestic violence...it was all they knew.
Then there were the freaky ones that just liked pain...
How did you do that?
I have had women/girlfriends that asked for and enjoyed getting their hair combed back. They would say they knew I really cared when things got over the top.
Many had witnessed or experienced domestic violence...it was all they knew.
Then there were the freaky ones that just liked pain...
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Ha ha. Not really Buck. I have a look similar to yours when I need it. When my kids were small, I could make them cry with my patented "Don't F with me" look. In fact, it still works pretty good and on some adults too. I don't what they think is going to happen because I'm not a violent man.
Why are your surprised Chris? There was and is plenty of discipline in my house. I just never had the need to hit either of my girls.
Like I said, when they were too young to understand danger, then they were not allowed to be in dangerous situations. Ever. If they did something like become inquisitive with electrical sockets (which had plastic blanks in them) then they were firmly told NO and taken away from them.
I am absolutely consistent with my yes and no and they soon learned. After all, they are smart and intelligent, just like me
As they got older, they were told why they shouldn't be doing what they were doing and what the consequences of their action would be.
Maybe that doesn't work for everybody but it worked for us.
Did they ever push the boundaries? Yes, of course. Did they ever make a wrong choice and get punished? Yes, of course too.
Punishments like being sent to their room (no tv or computer there), withdrawal of a special treat or something along those lines.
Most of all, I found the best punishment was the fact that they knew that I would be or was disappointed with their behavior.
In their eyes, I'm the greatest dad ever (as every kid should view their father) and the fact that they thought or knew that they would be letting me down was the best punishment of all.
So, did it work?
I have 2 great daughters now into adulthood. One is 20, at University, has held down part time jobs since she was 13 to pay for her needs and is one of the nicest young ladies you may ever meet.
The other is nearly 17, at college, but the same applies. Normal kids, well balanced, polite, helpful and very independent with a good sense of right and wrong.
The approach I took may not work for everyone but thats up you you. Go ahead, hit your kids all you want. They're your kids after all, it doesn't affect me in the slightest. I'm not saying you are right or wrong. What I am saying is that I personally don't need to hit a child to prove my point, win an argument or show that I love them.
Why are your surprised Chris? There was and is plenty of discipline in my house. I just never had the need to hit either of my girls.
Like I said, when they were too young to understand danger, then they were not allowed to be in dangerous situations. Ever. If they did something like become inquisitive with electrical sockets (which had plastic blanks in them) then they were firmly told NO and taken away from them.
I am absolutely consistent with my yes and no and they soon learned. After all, they are smart and intelligent, just like me
As they got older, they were told why they shouldn't be doing what they were doing and what the consequences of their action would be.
Maybe that doesn't work for everybody but it worked for us.
Did they ever push the boundaries? Yes, of course. Did they ever make a wrong choice and get punished? Yes, of course too.
Punishments like being sent to their room (no tv or computer there), withdrawal of a special treat or something along those lines.
Most of all, I found the best punishment was the fact that they knew that I would be or was disappointed with their behavior.
In their eyes, I'm the greatest dad ever (as every kid should view their father) and the fact that they thought or knew that they would be letting me down was the best punishment of all.
So, did it work?
I have 2 great daughters now into adulthood. One is 20, at University, has held down part time jobs since she was 13 to pay for her needs and is one of the nicest young ladies you may ever meet.
The other is nearly 17, at college, but the same applies. Normal kids, well balanced, polite, helpful and very independent with a good sense of right and wrong.
The approach I took may not work for everyone but thats up you you. Go ahead, hit your kids all you want. They're your kids after all, it doesn't affect me in the slightest. I'm not saying you are right or wrong. What I am saying is that I personally don't need to hit a child to prove my point, win an argument or show that I love them.
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1A. 4yo gets "spare change" when we're out and she's good for the bouncy ball machines. Other than that, no allowance.
1B. 4mo old gets the teet... isn't that enough for now?
2A. 4yo also gets a good quick crack now and then (always in pvt) due to her attitude/talking back... which she gets from her mom.
2B. 4mo gets the "why are you still effing crying" look... no corporal punishment.
As for 'combing the wifes hair back'... ah... she's #1, Italian and #2, a 3rd degree black belt.
1B. 4mo old gets the teet... isn't that enough for now?
2A. 4yo also gets a good quick crack now and then (always in pvt) due to her attitude/talking back... which she gets from her mom.
2B. 4mo gets the "why are you still effing crying" look... no corporal punishment.
As for 'combing the wifes hair back'... ah... she's #1, Italian and #2, a 3rd degree black belt.
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Because the words you said made it sound like it is wrong to spank a child EVER. Sounded like a blanket statement.. and I stand by it. So you didn't have to spank your girls. That is great. I never had to spank my youngest. My oldest deserved it a few times. Every child is different... and you were lucky that you didn't have to. Glad to see you revised your statement some..
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I have also heard a few say there is never a reason to hit a child and I think everything has a time and place. Some kids are compliant and some are rebellious. I never got a whippin I didn't deserve...matter of fact they missed a few I should have gotten. As I got older it didnt work as well since punishments lasted much longer.
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Mom's idea was a wooden spoon, upgraded to steel spatula after she broke the spoon and I
laughed.
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Pops had a strong arm but a soft heart.
Moms had a strong heart (to beat you to death) but weak arms.
Punishments were a week minimum.
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I don't think we understand the question.
As to giving the wife money, I actually give all of it to her. Seriously, I give her every damn penny. She is the strangest woman in the world when it comes to spending money. When she finds a penny, she burys it in the back yard and calls her family over to huddle around it. The woman is a tight ***. I have spending issues, she does not, so I leave all of the accounting and saving to her. I have not payed a bill in nine years. I make the money, and she allocates and hoards it.
I usually ATM a hundred bucks a month for walking around money and she rarely takes out anything. If I need/want anything, it goes on the debit card, and it is usually is a want. My hundred dollar allowance is used for eating out, but usually most of it is left over. (I get a 40 dollar per day per diem from my company and a semi unlimited expense account, so food/fun is never an issue or worry)
The daughter is two, so I don't see myself ever spanking her. If we have a son, it will be a different story.
As to giving the wife money, I actually give all of it to her. Seriously, I give her every damn penny. She is the strangest woman in the world when it comes to spending money. When she finds a penny, she burys it in the back yard and calls her family over to huddle around it. The woman is a tight ***. I have spending issues, she does not, so I leave all of the accounting and saving to her. I have not payed a bill in nine years. I make the money, and she allocates and hoards it.
I usually ATM a hundred bucks a month for walking around money and she rarely takes out anything. If I need/want anything, it goes on the debit card, and it is usually is a want. My hundred dollar allowance is used for eating out, but usually most of it is left over. (I get a 40 dollar per day per diem from my company and a semi unlimited expense account, so food/fun is never an issue or worry)
The daughter is two, so I don't see myself ever spanking her. If we have a son, it will be a different story.
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Just wait until she uses her walls as her own personal coloring book, you'll change your tune. My daughter did that, she got her butt busted.
The boy one day decided to do some custom upholstery work to the couch and then moved into the kitchen for a little home makeover on the drawer fronts with a pair of scissors. The boy got his butt busted too.
Neither had repeat performances after the butt busting and related lectures.
Do I spank my kids? Yes, when necessary.
Do they get an allowance? Yes.
Does my wife get an allowance? Hell no, we're married.
The boy one day decided to do some custom upholstery work to the couch and then moved into the kitchen for a little home makeover on the drawer fronts with a pair of scissors. The boy got his butt busted too.
Neither had repeat performances after the butt busting and related lectures.
Do I spank my kids? Yes, when necessary.
Do they get an allowance? Yes.
Does my wife get an allowance? Hell no, we're married.
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