Does anyone else think this is wrong?
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Like i said before, I'm not preventing him from dating this chick. Its his life, not mine. He's an adult an he can make the choices he wants. Our parents wouldent like it because IMO they still see him as a child, an she's a grown woman an has a daughter.
I personally just think she's a little too old and mature for him, he's still the drinking/partying/no job/college guy. An she already has a kid an has grown up...
I personally just think she's a little too old and mature for him, he's still the drinking/partying/no job/college guy. An she already has a kid an has grown up...
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Some parents are a little over protective, especially of the 'baby' in the family.
Such parents may freak out about perceived imperfections, so your brother and his girl just probably did not want to deal with that. If he loves her and she loves him and they stick together, eventually they will come clean on the age issue. By then, your parents may really like her and think its no big deal. Until then, if he and her are just having some fun, it's really not anyones business but theirs, IMO.
Did she bring her kid to the party, and do your parents know about the child? Some parents might have an issue with her already having a kid, and maybe being divorced at a young age. The assumption would go along the lines of "She's using sex to trick our young immature 20 year old boy into supporting her and her child!". IMO, more parents would freak out about the child than the age difference.
Basically, parents have invested a lot of time, love and money into their kids, so they tend to freak out when they think their kid is about to make a life changing bad decision.
Such parents may freak out about perceived imperfections, so your brother and his girl just probably did not want to deal with that. If he loves her and she loves him and they stick together, eventually they will come clean on the age issue. By then, your parents may really like her and think its no big deal. Until then, if he and her are just having some fun, it's really not anyones business but theirs, IMO.
Did she bring her kid to the party, and do your parents know about the child? Some parents might have an issue with her already having a kid, and maybe being divorced at a young age. The assumption would go along the lines of "She's using sex to trick our young immature 20 year old boy into supporting her and her child!". IMO, more parents would freak out about the child than the age difference.
Basically, parents have invested a lot of time, love and money into their kids, so they tend to freak out when they think their kid is about to make a life changing bad decision.
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So you are more concerned that he lied about her age to your parents than the fact that he is concealing that she has a kid? I'm thinking that they are going to be a lot more interested in knowing about the kid than her birthdate.
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- Yeh, you should never bang a hot 27 year old with a kid. 
Let him hit it for the first few months. If things get start getting too serious, then talk to him about it. Look out for your kid brother by all means, but never deny a man a hot piece of ****.
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Why is it morally wrong that your brother is dating someone 7 years his senior? Short of doing anything illegal as you mentioned, his girlfriend's age really isn't your or your parents concern. And if they would kick him out for something like that, then that says a LOT about your parents. I mean, if the girl is nice, good to your brother, and genuinely a good person, then why would age even matter?
Just my $0.02.
Just my $0.02.
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Just please tell me that someone who does not work and lies to the people paying his bills at least has enough money to buy a rubber.
As to ratting on him I would worry more about them taking you down too when/if it does come up to your parents. The last thing you need is a little brother trying to deflect criticism of himself and her by saying well "he knew the whole time" and dragging you into it. Just make sure he would not do that to you and let him make his own choices or mistakes.
By the way I'm really not judging, I had a 31 year old sugar momma at 18. I just did not bring her near my parents during our six months of fun.
Or you could just blackmail both of them into your personal slaves. If he can cook or clean I would consider taking advantage of this. Just a little though.
As to ratting on him I would worry more about them taking you down too when/if it does come up to your parents. The last thing you need is a little brother trying to deflect criticism of himself and her by saying well "he knew the whole time" and dragging you into it. Just make sure he would not do that to you and let him make his own choices or mistakes.
By the way I'm really not judging, I had a 31 year old sugar momma at 18. I just did not bring her near my parents during our six months of fun.
Or you could just blackmail both of them into your personal slaves. If he can cook or clean I would consider taking advantage of this. Just a little though.
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Dont rat him out.
I thinbk its weird that a 27 year old woman wants anything to do with a 21 year old guy. Usually its the other way around. I dated a girl that was 18 when I was 28 off and on for two years. She had some nice fake boobies too. When I was 25 I dated a girl that was 18 also. I have also dated a 28 year old with two kids. Right now I am 32 and I am dating a 25 year old. I like girls that are atleast 6-7 years younger than me. No way in hell am I dating a girl that is older!
I thinbk its weird that a 27 year old woman wants anything to do with a 21 year old guy. Usually its the other way around. I dated a girl that was 18 when I was 28 off and on for two years. She had some nice fake boobies too. When I was 25 I dated a girl that was 18 also. I have also dated a 28 year old with two kids. Right now I am 32 and I am dating a 25 year old. I like girls that are atleast 6-7 years younger than me. No way in hell am I dating a girl that is older!
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Sounds like you have a job, don't live at home and are mature enough to handle the situation. 
The OP's little brother, not so much.
IMO, bringing her to meet the parents is a big step. If you have to lie about the person's age and parental status, don't bring them to meet the parents!
If the relationship is not serious and just for sex, why would he even want her to meet his parents if he is still living at home and has no job? That seems like asking for trouble to me. For most chicks, this is a big turning point in a relationship.
BTW, I've got nothing against dating hot older women with kids (did it myself in my 20's). But I did not live at home, I had a decent job, and was capable of handling the situation. Basically, I was well past the stage where I was afraid of getting my allowance cut because I broke curfew, lol.
The OP's little brother, not so much.
IMO, bringing her to meet the parents is a big step. If you have to lie about the person's age and parental status, don't bring them to meet the parents!
If the relationship is not serious and just for sex, why would he even want her to meet his parents if he is still living at home and has no job? That seems like asking for trouble to me. For most chicks, this is a big turning point in a relationship.
BTW, I've got nothing against dating hot older women with kids (did it myself in my 20's). But I did not live at home, I had a decent job, and was capable of handling the situation. Basically, I was well past the stage where I was afraid of getting my allowance cut because I broke curfew, lol.