Put him up for adoption and make a new one.

It's a shame you just can send the defective ones back.

 

You offering?

 

BINGO!

My step daughter who is 12, always complains about dinner...wont throw a tantrum, put whines just enough to set me off...I will tell her, "you know what, stop eating, put your plate in the kitchen and go to your room. Nobody wants to hear you complain" she stops complaining for a few days after that, until she comes back from her dads, then it's retrain all over again...

 

I have a similar issue with my 12 year old. She's a GREAT kid, until she spends a weekend with her "dad".

Her dad is the most disrespectful human I ahve ever met. When Savannah comes home from staying with him, my wife and I both want to beat her with a 2X4 wrapped in barbed wire (not really, but you know what I mean). She acts just like her dad.

It's sad too, because she's a really good kid when she stays away from him.

 

I understand...my biggest beef with their dad and step mom is, the stepmom doesnt care about the kids....she told my 9 year old step son, who is having a hard time with math, that if he's too stupid to not figure out a problem on his own, then he can just get it wrong....WTF, wish I could take bucks advice and kick a bitch... ..and they are constantly blam,ing all their couple arguements on the kids...saying if they get a divorce it will be the kids fault...

they also trash talk my wife and I.... , they can trash talk me all they want, no skin off my back...but not my wife....she's the only thing stopping me from ramming a size 12 boot down that weasels throat. we make it a point to never bring up our dirty laundry about there dad in front of the kids..we encourage them to spend time with him any chance they want...if out of the blue they want to go spend the night...sure, call your dad and ask...cant get and dont expect, the same treatment at their dads house


sorry for the hijack RC

 

RC, I don't think I'd be "up" to your expectations.

But thanks for asking.

 

DAMN!

Almost the exact same situation.

 

My 3 year old will drop to the floor and cry like that. He never went as far as you described. But he still has a tantrum every now and then. Ignoring it is the best thing. That's what we do, and he usually catches on pretty quick. I think he's at the last stages of thinking this behavior will work... that or it still works at school, so he tries it at home every now and again.

The problem you have is compounded by the fact that the child is only 15 months. Sam's tantrums didn't begin until he was 2+ years old. There are tons of things you can try, but they all are geared for 2 to 13 year olds. About the only thing I can suggest is to work hard at ignoring it. The tantrum is an effort to get attention. It doesn't even matter what the attention is... you could be yelling at him and it would suit his purpose. This last time may have lasted an hour, but I'm betting that if you are consistant in ignoring the tantrum, the length will lessen each time it happens.

Have you asked the day care workers if he exihibited this behavior and if so what they did? It may be that he has done it and they ignored it or did something else and now he knows it won't work at school. If you can find out what, if at all, they did, apply the same thing at home and you will probably get similar results. The nice thing is it won't take long.

Good luck... I'll keep you in my prayers.

 

Thanks everyone for all of the advice. I do try my best to ignore it but at first I want to make sure it's not a "pain" tantrum or hunger or something like that. Once I rule out diaper rash or food, then I leave him be. As for the biting thing, I will bite back once it gets out of control. He bit his brother last night REAL good and I was pissed but I was too late to the scene to really punish him so I just gave him a stern yelling and finger wagging and he sat there and cried while I carried brother off to get a washcloth and ice.

UGH!

 

I have a feeling Brooklyn is going to be a biter.

She did good last night. She didn't act a clown at all. She was playing with a tube of Boudreaux's butt paste and would NOT let it go to save her own life. When she is focused on an object like that....we've learned to leave her alone. If you try and take the object (whatever it may be)...she'll FREAK out.

Why does she do that? I think it's cause she's a brat.

 

I have three boys and the youngest is five. At 15 months most of their frustration was caused by not being able to communicate what they want. Fussing usually works ... Luckily they usually outgrow it.

Our youngest is the one that whines every meal. We try to ignore it, but usually what really works is laughing at him. If they still want to go at it, they are sent to timeout. Although I have threatened the belt, we have not had to use it yet. But there have been a few pops with an open hand on the bottom, but they usually laugh.

 

TOO LATE!?!? He's not a dog. He understands what he did and he remembers too. Kids are so much smarter than many people give them credit for. Sounds like you handled it fine but it's never "too late".