....sorry bud.......but if that is how it went down......then it is not gonna work...............she was obviously looking for an "out"............

...........the whole concept of marriage is to become "one" with someone......thus not needing "guy friends" or "girl friends"...............all you need is one another (with the occasional close mutual friends).............

..............I hate to break it to you...........but somewhere along the way she lost her attraction for you............but did not have the integrity to confront you about these feelings directly..............thus is using this ****-poor excuse of playing with your insecurities as a reason to break things off.................you had every right to be upset with her about her relationships with men other than you...........because when she accepted the ring (as well as your commitment to her to offer a ring) symbolized that you two were ready to move past that point of your lives and begin to meld a new one together...........but like I said...........she re-nig'ed on that deal..................

..........if you are really upset and feel that you need closure (which it appears you do)..........ask her about what I just wrote.........see what she "really" says (not just with words....but pay close attention to her non-verbals)............

nonetheless............good luck and just spend some time with people who you really care about and create some distance between you and the ex......it is no good to dwell on this anymore............

 

1969mach, I don't have enough posts to private message but my email is speedracerbubba@gmail.com I would appreciate it.

craz3d, it's not a matter of gutsy enough or having big enough *****, it's self control in being able to pummel the other guy or simply pull a trigger, but being a better person and not resorting to violence. Believe me, I wanted to go to both of the guys houses and start wailing on them for their lack of respect but in the end what would that accomplish? It's like drugs, makes you feel good for a little bit but can do so much more damage than good it's scary.
I am sorry to hear that happened to you, I have had a couple girls play those kinds of games with me and it sucks. Just remember and tell yourself you are so much better than those girls and do not deserve what they did. I don't know you from any other random person on the street but from what little I have seen you are a good person and you should not forget that.

 

wstahlm80, I'll talk to her and see what she says. I may go over to her house to give her some cd's she left here and get a couple things I have left there over time today.

Thanks again, guys

 

only if you are comfortable with it man..............90% of the time, relationships disassemble because there is a lack of honest and open communication...........if you cannot trust the one you choose to marry....who can you trust.........there should never be any doubt on any issue........trust will be all you have..........and should never be comprimised......because once it is..........it is nearly impossible to restore........


......just my $0.02...........

 

From the beginning we both believed in being open and honest and it took a little while before we both got there but we were at the point of open communication. Honestly, my insecurity was the big issue that drove her away from me. I just became a tightass who slowly stopped having fun cause I was so worried about every guy on this planet, but I knew/know she would never do anything to hurt me. I would just get so caught up in everyone else I would lose sight of her and us. She has proven herself to me time after time and has never given me a reason not to trust her.

 

People suck, plain and simple. Unfortunately, most of us only care about number one. It's very rare when you can find two people that are willing to give their all to eachother. However, it does not mean that he/she is not out there. I say, let her be. Don't be pushy. If you two were meant to be together, then it will happen. If not, there is someone else out there for you.

 

Damn Lum, when I first saw you on this board, I thought you were a total a$$, but since then (my first impression) you have turned out to be a pretty good dude. Good advice man, keep up the good work.....


by the way I X2 Lum's advice. That same advice is exactly what I did when I got divorced years ago, and life has turned out to be so much better than I could have ever hoped or dreamed. Good luck man.

 

Best way to get over a woman is to sleep with another one.....

 

im sorry about the breakup man

my only advice is take a break from things aside from work, become a country music fan if not already ( some songs can really ease the pain ), and get yourself a loyal dog if you dont already have one when people turn on you, a dog will always stick by your side


-JB

 

BAAAAD advise.....

I like country as well as other music, and true misery likes company, so country music would give the "illusion" of having company while in your misery. Then you look around and the delusion is gone and you realize it was a delusional illusion.

That could cause a man to kill himself.... literally, no kidding all jokes aside.

I can not stress enough how bad of an idea that is......

 

well i wouldnt say only country music could do that
some of the emo-teen punk rock music could cause much worse results.

but back on topic :P

my only other advice is if you're comfortable being friends with her, dont lose touch with her, people move on fast

 

n not all country is sappy lovey ,
listen to some rowdy country like hank jr and the more upbeat toby keith and trace adkins

 

I thought you said country.........

 

get over it..its the best thing that could ever happen to you...

if its not right...dont put yourself thru such misery...its not worth it...

now go have a beer

...zap!

 

how old are you and your ex? how long were you together?

why would you go to Greece to see family and not take your future wife?