Yeah, I was thinking the same thing. Who Dx'd SAD? There are specific criteria in the DSM-IV that must be met for a Dx.

 

By saying i wish i could be more like my self in school I meant that I mean that when I'm at home i'm basically, to use a slightly queer word, a goofball..lol.. I mean i say exactly what i think, and I dont even think about anything before i say it, i just say it or do it.. but when i'm in school its almost like my whole mindframe changes.. I just stop thinking the way i normally think at home, and i turn into a very quiet, reserved, passive, nonaggressive person... so yes, my inhibitions do definetly change i suppose.. sometimes when im in school i stop and think 'man.. why cant i just be the same here as i am at home'.. but i cant do anything to change it, no matter how hard i will myself to..

David

 

Runnerboy.. thats exactly what happens to me.. With people i know i'm fine, but if one of my friends brings along one person i dont know, i don't talk..
I just dont understand it..

Dave

 

In all honesty, that is perfectly normal.

I do the same thing, reason being your home is your castle and you rule over the kingdom of the confines of your home.

Outside of that kingdom there are other people to answer to and cosequences.

Things happen at work and I will boil inside, but smile and bend to the costomers desire as much as I'd like to tell them where to go and not give them what ever it is they are wanting just for spite.

Then I come home or even back at my own office and I will voice then what I'd like to do and how much I dislike the situation or a customer.

I'm going to say, not as a professional, but based off what you have said so far, it is looking less and less likey to be SAD, sounds more like a case of simple intimidation. Once you figure out exactly what you are intimidated by, and decide to concur that, then you will find it easy to overcome the secondary issues.

 

Thank you for all your input so far PSS. I'm not sure about it being SAD, thats just what my small town doctor says he thinks it is.. another thing i think he called it was generalized anxiety disorder.. but im not sure...

If it is intimidation.. its been right around 4 years.. and i still havent figured out what it is i'm intimidated of. but with you guys' and my friends' help, i'm gonna start trying as hard as i can to get better at talking in school and in other social situations where i'm normally quiet.
Well i'm goin to bed now.. but i'm going to keep you guys updated as i go along.. and with all your help i can get over this.... thank you guys for everything so far, and keep the thoughts and ideas coming..

Dave

 

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I think your best course of action is to get a second, and possibly third opinion from different doctors and possibly get a referral to a therapist. There are drugs doctors can prescribe but sessions with a therapist qualified in anxiety disorders would be a wise choice.

 

well i personally wouldnt recomend looking to alcohol as solution especially at such a young age. but might i recommend if you do wind up in the party situation, and everyone is getting drunk, try a few new social tactics (if you are sober) and chances are if you fail at some new outlook, noone will remember it in the morning.

I had a speech thing in early elementary, couldnt say jewelry for the life of me, i had to say it as jewel-ry instead of like jewlry. And now i kinda stumble over my words a bit, and it takes me like 4 tries to get it right, even tho its right in my head. idk doesnt happen that much so im not worried about it.
-Patrick

 

Thats an easy one.....

Just stop using the word jewelry, use synonyms.

example: That is a beautiful adornment you have on your wrist. Where did you get it?

 

That's the total truth. I don't need any body's approval on how I act, or what I do. You do your thing, and I'll do mine.

What I'm trying to say is, you don't have to have everyone's approval to be you. Be you... Do what you do. A lot of other people try to be cool by doing what their peers are doing. I call it following the herd. Other's call it "trying to fit in". They fear being seen as different. It's all in your mind son. Who cares anyway? 99.5% of the time, people put other people down to make themselves look better. Which means they're insecure with "themselves" to begin with. All that should matter to you is you, your family, your friends, and God, if you're a believer. Nothing else matters. Nothing!!!

I'm a quiet person who has been diagnosed with social anxiety. My Dad is a quiet person. I know a lot of quiet people. You're not alone. I know loud people, shy people, short people, tall people, skinny people, fat people, crazy people, sane people, etc,etc,etc. Get the point? We're all different, and we're all queer in the eyes of one another.