Insecure control freak issues. Address them before the wedding or youre doomed for divorce.

 

It could be ligitimate concerns over how alcolhol affects her inhibitions and not trusting the "friends" she will be with.

 

Whatever!

 

No, I'm obviously a horrible person for being concerned...

 

Just because her friends want her to do body shots, or anything else, doesn't mean she has to. She's an adult and I'm sure she knows what is appropriate and what is not appropriate.

My wife goes out w/ her friends and on occasion they do go to a male strip club. From what I hear from my wife and her friends is that the guys usually gravitate towards the less attractive/over weight women. They say those women usually tip more because they dont get as much attention outside the club as the more attractive women. And yes I do believe what my wifes friends tell me because I am very good friends w/ them also.

 

No, you are not. But, you have to know that throwing anything out here of a personal nature is going to get some responses that you do not particularly want to hear. we come from too diverse of backgrounds to not cover the gammit of beliefs.

 

Sorry for the terse reply, but the deal is this...she's an adult. She will do what SHE feels like doing. If she is against what her friends are doing, she can simply choose to NOT do it. Her character and committment to you should be all the trust you need from her. If you dont have that, you have more serious problems.

 

and alcohol always brings out the best of intentions...

 

As long as she doesnt drink to excess, whats the problem? What does she do drunk that she wouldnt do sober?

 

Hey Closer, are you gonna be in Dallas also? I work not too far from the club your fiance will be going to. If you want to go out to a club I'll gladly take you out. Heck, there's a topless bar almost right across the street from where she's gonna be.

 

I don't know, and that's the problem. Generally she just acts stupid like most drunks, but when surrounded by a bunch of horny persuasive friends.... ?

and no I won't be in Dallas when she goes. She wanted me to go along, said her brother has offered to take me to a strip club, but as I mentioned before I don't care to go anymore out of respect for her, but obviously that means nothing, so maybe I should reconsider... something.

 

May I ask how old you/she is/are?

 

closer.

Dont beat yourself up over this. Look at it like this....

When she goes to the club, your going to feel better knowing you have 100% trust in her. She will see that you trust her. If you can trust her, and she can trust you, that's a huge step in the right direction for the marriage.

If you dont trust her 100%, you must have a reason, and that's YOUR business. BUT - if she hasn't done anything for you to NOT trust her, and there is lack of trust....ya might wanna step back and think about it for a little while.







*That's all I'm gonna say*

 

He is old enough, however, he stays confused. Afterall, he likes El Caminos and Belvederes.

Ruffit, how old are you?

 

Hey now....

Wait a dad-gum minute.....I like El Camino's too.