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So it is decided then.
The definition of a good woman is anyone who will have her wedding reception in your yard without even asking you to mow the grass.
I guess it's true, a good woman is hard to find.
The definition of a good woman is anyone who will have her wedding reception in your yard without even asking you to mow the grass.
I guess it's true, a good woman is hard to find.
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Originally Posted by dirt bike dave
So it is decided then.
The definition of a good woman is anyone who will have her wedding reception in your yard without even asking you to mow the grass.
I guess it's true, a good woman is hard to find.
The definition of a good woman is anyone who will have her wedding reception in your yard without even asking you to mow the grass.
I guess it's true, a good woman is hard to find.
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Originally Posted by UrbanCowboy
I sense the sarcasm here; I guess you're woman is wearing the pants as well?
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Originally Posted by paulv107
I called her to ask her a question a few weeks ago and she ticked me off and of course never got an apology. Every time she is at the house, She asks my fiance why I look so mad and of course I am told to apologize to her for acting that way. I have absolutely no reason to apologize to her. I have tried to talk to my soon to be wife about her, but it is hard to tell her that I can't stand one of her best friends without hurting her.
First of all, if your marriage is going to work, you have to let each other know your feelings about everything. No one is a mind reader. How is she ever going to know how you feel about something if you never tell her your TRUE feelings on a subject (no matter how small)?
My wife and I have found that it makes life 100% easier to just talk about things. Think about it....this is just an example.
Let's say your lady doesn't make eggs the way you like them. If you don't like the way she makes her eggs and you never tell her.....she'll never make the necessary changes to meet your needs/wants. Then your gonna have to eat eggs you do not like for the rest of your days. Know what I mean?
A marriage is a two way street. Your both going to have differences, but you will soon have to learn to compromise. The eggs was just an example. If you apply that to EVERYTHING, you'll soon find out that you and her are a lot different, and the easiest way to "get along and work together" is to simply talk to each other.
My wife and I haven't had an argument/fight in years....wanna know why? We have learned to live with each other, and it started by talking to each other about simple things in bed at night before we go to sleep. Talk about your differences and do NOT be shy. Something's might be harder to work out then others, but you will both be smiling in the end.
...and that's MY2
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Originally Posted by UrbanCowboy
I sense the sarcasm here; I guess you're woman is wearing the pants as well?
Our roles are more like 1950's Leave it to Beaver than is common nowadays. I bring home all the bacon, maintain the yard, fix the cars and try to ride dirt bikes with my buddies or work on my '67 Mustang on weekends. Among my manly duties, I tell her who to vote for (which she asks me to do).
She is a stay at home mom, does all the housework, all the shopping and is sensational at being a mother to our two kids. Before we married she did cancer research for a major biotech company.
Been married almost 11 years and will be 'till death do us part.
BTW, like about 90% of all women, my wife wanted a nice wedding. It mattered to her and her parents, and she had the opporutnity to have one. I knew better than to try and stop that train over something like not liking the flowers or the cake. It was her day more so than mine; I did not see any reason the wedding had to be 50/50 since the event mattered about 50 times more to her than to me.
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From: the moral high ground
Stood in line at the Justice of Peace, Dillon SC.
The couple behind us had on a tux and gown.
The couple in front of us was barefoot.
Ceremony took all of 15 minutes.
Walked across the street to a restaurant and ordered a beer at 10am.
The waitress laughed and said, "Ya'll musta just got married."
29 years this August.
The wedding don't have nothing to do with the marriage.
The couple behind us had on a tux and gown.
The couple in front of us was barefoot.
Ceremony took all of 15 minutes.
Walked across the street to a restaurant and ordered a beer at 10am.
The waitress laughed and said, "Ya'll musta just got married."
29 years this August.
The wedding don't have nothing to do with the marriage.
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Stood in line at the Justice of Peace, Dillon SC.
The couple behind us had on a tux and gown.
The couple in front of us was barefoot.
Ceremony took all of 15 minutes.
Walked across the street to a restaurant and ordered a beer at 10am.
The waitress laughed and said, "Ya'll musta just got married."
29 years this August.
The wedding don't have nothing to do with the marriage.
The couple behind us had on a tux and gown.
The couple in front of us was barefoot.
Ceremony took all of 15 minutes.
Walked across the street to a restaurant and ordered a beer at 10am.
The waitress laughed and said, "Ya'll musta just got married."
29 years this August.
The wedding don't have nothing to do with the marriage.
KC-10 FE out...
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We were in Savanah about five years ago for our anniversary at a fancy restaurant and a couple at the next table were celebrating their anniversary too. It was the same date as ours and they too had got married in Dillon. We had stood in the same line. Small world.
I didn't ask them if they were barefoot that day.
I also made a conscious effort not to look at their feet.
I didn't ask them if they were barefoot that day.
I also made a conscious effort not to look at their feet.
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Originally Posted by 01 XLT Sport
Couple things come to mind, most importantly, one that has been brought up. Is your soon to be wife taken this girls side when it comes to putting you and/or your home down? If so you need to put a stop to that immediately or at least seriously rethink a marriage to her.
A marriage is about two people who RESPECT one another. They may not always, and most likely will never always agree with one another but once either losses respect for the other the marriage is dead. If your soon to be wife is siding with her friend when it comes to putting you and/or your home, or the work you have done down then your soon to be wife has little to no respect for you and thus this marriage will be short lived.
As far as the planning, where, when, who, what to eat, etc leave it to the ladies because they truly love that stuff. The wedding day while special is special in different ways to the man and the women. To the women it’s about all the little things, food, clothes, drinks, cute little hats and what ever other little thing they remember. To us men we really don’t care much about any of that other then is there something to eat and drink and when does the wild animal sex commence…
We men really don’t care about all the wedding gifts we receive unless its cold hard cash ”Her sweetheart you can have the pretty blender, microwave, crystal dish of some sort, but the cash is for modding…”
You need to have a talk with your soon to be wife and insure she understands that this is a 50/50 relationship. . .
A marriage is about two people who RESPECT one another. They may not always, and most likely will never always agree with one another but once either losses respect for the other the marriage is dead. If your soon to be wife is siding with her friend when it comes to putting you and/or your home, or the work you have done down then your soon to be wife has little to no respect for you and thus this marriage will be short lived.
As far as the planning, where, when, who, what to eat, etc leave it to the ladies because they truly love that stuff. The wedding day while special is special in different ways to the man and the women. To the women it’s about all the little things, food, clothes, drinks, cute little hats and what ever other little thing they remember. To us men we really don’t care much about any of that other then is there something to eat and drink and when does the wild animal sex commence…
We men really don’t care about all the wedding gifts we receive unless its cold hard cash ”Her sweetheart you can have the pretty blender, microwave, crystal dish of some sort, but the cash is for modding…”
You need to have a talk with your soon to be wife and insure she understands that this is a 50/50 relationship. . .
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One statement I will disagree with is saying a marriage is a 50/50 deal.
A marriage works better if it's a 100/100 deal. What I mean is that each person gives 100%, and is completely selfless in the relationship.
It doesn't always go that way, but when trouble arise and you apply that approach while swallowing your pride, things are resolved quickly and happily.
My opinion.
A marriage works better if it's a 100/100 deal. What I mean is that each person gives 100%, and is completely selfless in the relationship.
It doesn't always go that way, but when trouble arise and you apply that approach while swallowing your pride, things are resolved quickly and happily.
My opinion.
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The day of my wedding 14 years ago, I went to town and had new tires and brakes put on my bronco 2. At a firestone dealer, I smile everytime I drive buy the place..
The day of one of my best friends wedding, went garage sale shopping and drove through a auto matic car wash 6 or 7 times with a bottle of jack. That was one clean blazer!
another best friend wedding, we went boat shopping before wedding. AND HE BOUGHT ONE.!!!! Without her knowing...
Another best friend, he and I went to the dirt track races night before, stayed in a hotel that night and came home an hour or so before the wedding.
I guess All im trying to say is your only job in this whole thing is to show up ok enough to say I love you and I do...... You did your part when you asked her to marry you... that was your job and you did it... the rest is up to her. So let it be... This is only my opinion... but it has worked for many of my buddies
The day of one of my best friends wedding, went garage sale shopping and drove through a auto matic car wash 6 or 7 times with a bottle of jack. That was one clean blazer!
another best friend wedding, we went boat shopping before wedding. AND HE BOUGHT ONE.!!!! Without her knowing...
Another best friend, he and I went to the dirt track races night before, stayed in a hotel that night and came home an hour or so before the wedding.
I guess All im trying to say is your only job in this whole thing is to show up ok enough to say I love you and I do...... You did your part when you asked her to marry you... that was your job and you did it... the rest is up to her. So let it be... This is only my opinion... but it has worked for many of my buddies
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Originally Posted by 1969Mach
One statement I will disagree with is saying a marriage is a 50/50 deal.
A marriage works better if it's a 100/100 deal. What I mean is that each person gives 100%, and is completely selfless in the relationship.
It doesn't always go that way, but when trouble arise and you apply that approach while swallowing your pride, things are resolved quickly and happily.
My opinion.
A marriage works better if it's a 100/100 deal. What I mean is that each person gives 100%, and is completely selfless in the relationship.
It doesn't always go that way, but when trouble arise and you apply that approach while swallowing your pride, things are resolved quickly and happily.
My opinion.
ahhh...that sounds kind like PC crap to me....no offense meant.
The 50/50 obviously means you split the responsibilities evenly and each person gives a 100% for their fair share.
Now 50/50 should mean:
She Cooks - I Eat
She does the laundry - I wear the clothes
She Vacuums - I lift my feet.
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Originally Posted by vader716
ahhh...that sounds kind like PC crap to me....no offense meant.
The 50/50 obviously means you split the responsibilities evenly and each person gives a 100% for their fair share.
Now 50/50 should mean:
She Cooks - I Eat
She does the laundry - I wear the clothes
She Vacuums - I lift my feet.
The 50/50 obviously means you split the responsibilities evenly and each person gives a 100% for their fair share.
Now 50/50 should mean:
She Cooks - I Eat
She does the laundry - I wear the clothes
She Vacuums - I lift my feet.
lol....and I know you're sarcastic.
So wasn't this guy supposed to be married this past saturday? I'm really waiting to see how it turned out!!!! It's like a really good book minus half the posts from idiots in this thread.
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Originally Posted by F150 Duke
lol....and I know you're sarcastic.
So wasn't this guy supposed to be married this past saturday? I'm really waiting to see how it turned out!!!! It's like a really good book minus half the posts from idiots in this thread.
Duke
So wasn't this guy supposed to be married this past saturday? I'm really waiting to see how it turned out!!!! It's like a really good book minus half the posts from idiots in this thread.
Duke
It's this coming saturday. My soon to be wife knows I don't care for her and as long as I keep my distance from the girl, everything will be ok. I don't remember anywhere where I stated that we were having problems because of this girl. And I agree, a good successful marriage is where both people split the responsibilities and each give 100%. I won't be posting again for at least another week and a half.
Have a good week!!