First, I think he is handling it. He's mainly just venting.

Secondly, is your advice for him to demand that his fiancee fire HER wedding co-ordinator/friend, less than 1 week before the wedding?

Sorry, that is some bad advice. The bride to be will be the one having 'second thoughts' if he plays that card.

Giving wedding altering ultimatums to the bride right before the event should be avoided. Unless you don't actually want to marry her.

Giving a woman a little lee-way with her wedding is not the same as having her 'wear the pants' the rest of your life.

 

If he's venting here, that means that he's not getting results with his sweety.

It's not giving an ultimatum to tell his sweety that he's not wanting the "WITCH with a capital B" to run the show. If he's not doing anything that he should be apologizing for, yet his sweety is making him apologize to her friend anyway, then he's already handing her the pants. If he's good with that, then great. If not, then he needs to quit venting here, and start using his ********* now BEFORE it ends with him financing her life with a divorce when he decides he can't take it anymore. He doesn't have to be a macho chauvenist<sp?>, but he needs to not be flooring either. If he is the most important person in her life, then she will at least agree that her friend needs to chill out, and let him participate in planning his own wedding.

 

Try pointing out to the witch that all consultants have a perimeter and basic guide lines that have are in place prior to the contract or agreement.
The outdoor wedding at the house is one. Make the best of it.

The second point is from personal experience. Many yeares ago the wife had a friend that tried to tell me what to do in my own house. I snaped at her and she started to cry, the wife wanterd me to appologize. My retort was not a friggen chance in hell would I. Several years later the wife dumped the witch as a friend as she was to bossy . After that first attempt to boss me that witch never tried it with me again...

The bossy non thinking witch with a B will sooner (hopefully sooner) than later will be dropped from the wifes Christmass Card list.



Good luck with the wedding .



BTW my first wedding went chopping and rough, we were seperated within 2 years.

 

I think if she had told me that my place wasn't good enough, I would have said one of two things.
1) Then I guess you better get the wedding planners/helpers over here to fix it up, pronto.
OR
2) Then I guess we'll have to use your place.

 

I definately say; cancel the weddin'
There is no other option.

 

That is definately NOT going to happen. So you say I should cancel the wedding just because I don't get along with one of her friends? You can, but I'm not.

Everything about the planning of this wedding has went smoothly so far. I guess I just took offense to some of the things this girl has said. It has nothing to do with me and my fiance. We have talked and she knows that I am not particularly fond of this girl. That is why I usually keep my distance when around her and try to keep calm when she is around.

This thread started out pretty good with some good replies, then after just 1 or 2 replies, it took a turn for the worst. Of course at least one of those replies was typical of the person who posted it. I was having a bad day and just needed to get it out, it doesn't mean that she is going to ruin our lives together.

Everyone is different and everyone handles the same situations differently.

 

One or two legitimate answers on this board is impressive.

Don't mind UC...he isn't married but likes to pretend....ask him about his couch

 

I'm just glad I'm not marrying Paul; he seems to get his feelings hurt pretty quickly.

We're not saying she is going to ruin your life; we're saying your relationship is doomed if you cannot handle this situation with your wife. Maybe she'll let you borrow the pants on the weekends....you know, to mow the yard.

 

^^^^^
Ya, what he said.


But seriously, if you're apologizing to that girl just because the future Mrs. Paul says to, then there is already a problem. I promise you, everything changes after "I do", and you'll both find out all of your "I don'ts".

 

Man I understand the frustration of the whole wedding process all too well. I just got married a month ago. When we first started on the planning I tried to help out and saw it only lead to a lot of arguments and frustration on my part. So I bailed and let her plan things as she and her parents wanted for the most part. Though I did have to step in a few times and argue things I was opposed to to get my way.

Anyhow... I think that you should talk to your fiance about her friend being so irritating and your dislike for the girl. Just make sure you point out that you are not telling her who she can or cannot be friends with, but the fact that this chicks attitude toward you is making things harder on you during and already stressful time.

Personally I never thought twice about telling my wife my opinion of any of her friends, positive or negative, no matter how close they were.

Good luck

 

The ONLY thing a guy should be involved with in the planning for a wedding is a cap on the price of the whole affair. If I didn't set a limit, I think my wedding would have gone over the $25000 mark. My limit was $12000 & we spent $12200. That's quite alot of money for an E4 living in the Dorms on an AF base.

KC-10 FE out...

 

YOOOOOOOOOO PAULY.....
















!!!!!KICK THE BITCH!!!!

 

In classic form tonight...

 

Oh come on Buck. You know you wouldn't do that.

 

First if that bitch told me my yard was not fit for a wedding, i'd have bent her over the ole picnic table for a good lesson on how to behave, then i'd toss her lame azz in the pond. Then i'd stuff her (most likely fat behind) in her car and point her to the nearest exit....

Yep kick the bitch, and do it now....