My buddy came home from sea... his old lady was bumpin with the neighbor (his friend too) and this has been going on for months. They are seperating - and he says it is pretty much OVER... She is on "vacation" with her new man in NYC and he is destroyed. He thought everything was perfect and never saw it coming, and I have to admit, knowing both of them - Neither did I. She kept it a secret for months and then dropped the bomb when he came home.

I have known these folks for a long time - I too feel betrayed and devistated...

What are your thoughts? any advice to give him?

On the upshot we have been using the heck out of my new bedrug moving all of his stuff..

 

i'd say ditch the bitch, and go muddin'.

 

A guy I worked with had his old lady cheat with another co-worker...in the end, they just amicably called it quits. About six months later, he found another woman who's ten times better than his ex-wife (his ex was kinda whacked out anywho) and he's doing great today. Sucks that she had to rip out your buddy's heart and set it on fire, but there's always a silver lining somewhere. It'll take some time to realize that, but it's true.

 

Why? You weren't sleeping with her too, where you?

On the serious side, I agree with Quintin.

 

One shotgun.
Two bullets.
4 concrete blocks and some rope.
One large lake.

 

THATS SOOO MESSED UP!

What goes around comes around, is the best advice thing I can say.

 

Ugh... What's the second bullet for?

 

Well Scab dude, I'd be pretty PO'd as well if one of my buddy's beyatchs did that to him. Take him out, have some fun, and reassure him all is well and she's a pretty worthless human for what she did. You'll need to smack him around a bit to if he gets all sappy and wants to give her what she wants in the divorce. F her, and ensure she gets F'd hard in the courtroom. Build evidence, ensure she gets nothing. May god help the woman that screws around on me, especially a wife should I ever tie the knot. Sweet sweet revenge is excellent therapy IMHO. Leaving her broke, homeless & emotionally destroyed is the only way to go. Love is out of the window, it's GO TIME BABY!!! KILL KILL KILL!!!

Seriously, ensure he's the one that does the final screwing.

 

Yeah, keep him company, A LOT! Don't give him to time to be idle thinking about it. BE SURE he doesn't go back to the *****. Like said above, what goes around comes around. Best of luck to him. It sucks. -Mat-

 

Yea what they all said... What goes around bring it around, and all that stuff!

Just kidding!!!!

Seriously though do not leave him alone, make sure someone is with him 24/7. That's some serious emotional shock and then soon emotional trauma he has or will sustain when it sets in fully. I'm sure that unless we have been there then it's one of those things that we could never know or understand completely.
As a friend you need to plant the idea that she was just a biatch (which he now knows) but that he some how used her. Try to make him think he is the player even if it's in a small way. His self preservstion will allow him to be reseptive and belive it himself even if it's not true at all. Then he can start to get his confidence back and move on.

 

I'd kick the bitch!!!! twice...

 

Drag her panty liners through the sandspures!
Keep sending gay mags to her adress with his name on them.
Hide a sparkplug just inside his gas cap and run a wire from it to his starter wire.
hide crack in her house and tell the cops where it is.
Call her boss and tell him to let her know her aids test came back positive.
drop a condom by her door every now and then just so he finds them.
stick pantys just under the ridders seat in his car.
Call his boss and ask him to tell the guy, that all the guys are meeting at a well known gay bar in town for beers.
ect ect.

Just have fun!!

 

All were great except this... It is to obvious and he would be the first suspect for the next couple of years.

However a propane torch on the brake master cylinder will melt the ram seals with little noticeable forensic evidence as long as you heat the exterior evenly. Just looks like a master cylinder faliure due to exessive exposure to engine heat. End result is still no brakes.

 

Really sorry to hear about that and unfortunately, or fortunately I have “been there, done that”…

Happened to me about 8 years ago in 1997. Came home one day from work and lots of stuff missing, kids gone with a stupid message on the answering machine. I was devastated beyond devastated. Married for 10 years and had a daughter and for the most part never really had a clue anything was wrong.

She was very, and I mean very material so had I been wiser I should have seen it coming from a mile away. When money started to run low she found a new financial resource and started pumping the well, if you will.

I made the mistake of trying to work things out with her because I couldn’t stand the fact coming home to an empty house and my daughter not greeting me everyday to tell me how many minutes early I was or late I was from work.

You’ll have to take my word but in the 10 years we were married I had never been physically or mentally abusive to her at all. We had very few fights and those never really got into a shouting match. Also I rarely if ever drank maybe 6 beers in a year.

Long story short when she got my stupid missing my daughter @ss in divorce court you would have thought I was the most physically and mentally abusive alcoholic husband you ever seen.

In divorce court NOBODY, and I mean nobody, including the stupid moron judges that sit on the bench, give a crap about the truth. They including the moron judges that sit on the bench care about one thing and one thing only which is Oscar winning performances in their court room. They, including the moron judges, live for drama in their court room and hand out 2 awards. One for best actor/actress who gets their selection of anything they wish and the second one goes to worst performance and they foot the bill for the best actor/actress…

Divorce lawyers are NO different. They will drag out any divorce to suck the person as dry as possible. If they get the opportunity they will try to suck you so dry you would think the person looked like they were in the desert for 3 weeks with no water.

Needless to say I received the worst performance award but I did have fun firing my lawyer and telling him to *uck himself as far as the last $2,000 I owed him as well as telling the judge off in the last 2 proceedings. So, yes, I lost my *** worse then the worse day in Vegas, I got rolled by a dude wearing a long black gown and a guy driving a BMW and not one of them **** offered up some free Vaseline…

Stay with your buddy and try to keep him in good sprits and for the love of God and MANkind get his @ss in court as soon as possible because it is true that the first one to court “usually” wins.

Remind him daily, hourly, every got damn minute that divorce court has nothing to do with the truth. You can have an absolutely clean record and no one in divorce court cares to hear about it let alone look it up. His wife or ex simply only has to file first and she gets the privilege of writing the screen play that will be acted out in court, she will be the saint and he will be the evil MAN who should die a horrible death.

It took a few friends where I work to get me to finally realize that I was not devastated because my wife had left but because she took my daughter. I was actually much better off a few months after my @ss wounds healed up. I have my daughter now as well and the ex is in a living hell…

LMAO you stupid biatch…

Anyhow, if you friend fails to take your advice about getting to court first be a good friend and buy him the family size jar of Vaseline…

”Friends don’t let friends enter divorce court without plenty of proper lubrication…

 

Well, I agree with most of what everyone is saying. It is devastating when a relationship ends suddenly and without warning. Be there for him when and if he wants to talk about it. Let him cry in his beer if that's what he wants to do because grieving is part of the process. Try to cheer him up but don't push him into another woman's arms, not what he needs just yet. Lots people go through this exact thing every day almost everyone lives through it and many end up better off in the long run but it's going to be a rough road for a while.

I hope things turn out well for your friend.