as a dog?

These past few days have been nothing but hell for me. Something's been going around, a flu of some sort, and I happened to catch it with a slight but manageable cough on wednesday. I stayed home thursday since I was real tired and felt achey. I spent most my time on my couch, and before I went to work yesterday I took a shower. During and after I got out of the shower I felt soo like I was going to throw up. BLAAHHHHHH!!! right into the sink. Gross, I know, but I felt better! After that I ate some Saltines and Ginger Ale which helped.

Yesterday my cough was at the 'shaking your whole upper body' stage, but today it is much much worse! Not to mention the negative parental involvement.

My parents want my good friend and I to stop being friends because they don't think he's good enough and are 'looking out for me.' It pissed me the hell off, so bad. I can't even begin to describe how angry I was and how hurt I really am. My parents have it wrong; their views are entirely different from mine, and their judgements are false. They want me to be more 'mature' but how can I mature if you won't let me pick my own friendships and experience them for myself It's my friends, my life, I run it. I get to choose who is it in and who's not. IMO one should never take your friends away. EVER. I am doing everything in my power to fight this.

My parents, knowing I was sick, decided to give me that piece of news. Boy, what nerve. My birthday is five days away, soon to be the big 1-8. Gee, thanks a lot for the ****.

I had to go to school today because I didn't want to be counted absent. (I'm saving up my last day to take off on my birthday). Today at school I was merely existing.

Before I got to school I stopped at McDonald's and ordered a Bacon, Egg & Cheese bagel. I went out to my car to discover they gave me a Steak, Egg & Cheese bagel. I did NOT want steak at 7am so I went back and the Mexican lady fixed it up and got me my correct order.

I decided to call my mom when I got to school, letting her know I got there ok as I usually do. I hadn't spoken to her until the night before, so yeah I was pretty mad at my parents still. Not just mad, hurt.

So I get to school, and am walking to my class. I suddenly realize, as I'm walking outside, that my throat is bothered by the air I'm breathing. The pain is almost unbearable until I get inside the building. The pain in my throat lingers for a few minutes, then subsides. It hurt SO bad. It felt like someone was taking a blowtorch to my throat.

I got to economics and realized I forgot to write my critique, due today. ****!!

This continued each time I had to step outside to go to my classes. I needed a scarf to cover my mouth to not breathe the air outside. It hurt soo bad..

All damn day my nose was running and wasn't five minutes without a tissue at hand. It sucked so bad, cause you know how it is to blow your nose in a roomful of people. Sucks, doesn't it.

I could barely make it to my last class, which I had a test in, which I probably failed because I had too much **** on my mind TO study. I felt like I was dying. My eyes were heavy, my head hurt, my eyes hurt. I was a mess!

My way home I took a backroad to try to avoid one of the lights. Turns out the people sitting at the light went before me, AND I ran over some nasty pot holes and felt like I was offroading in a low-to-the-ground 2wd car. NOT good.

When I got home, I felt like absoulute youknowwhat. I was taken to the doctor's, waited forever to get in there and get my pills. Doc says I have pharyngitis and a bit of the flu.

Man, all this talk is making me want to be sleeping. I'm going to go to bed.


And I called in sick to work for today, and I won't be going in tomorrow. At least that's good.

Still feeling like built-up carbon in an engine,
FL

 

I hope it gets better for you...I am sorry that I don't have time to chat with you like I used to...I do worry about you and hope everything gets better...

 

Lots of OJ, and Aspirins. The rest is just small BS. Good luck you!,,,,98

 

Thanks for your replies guys. I just woke up from my intermittent sleep. I was having some weirdass dreams! Anyway, been having a horrible cough like I'm trying to cough up something way deep inside but it just doesn't come up, you know? I just slept 8 hours and am not really tired now. In about 3 hours I need to take some more medicine. My eyelids don't feel heavy anymore so I guess that means I slept well!

And now I'm hungry

PM, e-mail me sometime

98, good to see you here. Can't believe in only four days...

 

Hope you're feeling better soon.

Parents can be a pain sometimes...it's our job

But seriously, they are looking out for your well being. I realize that you are turning 18 soon and want to show your independence but remember, they have spent the last 18 years looking after you and trying to keep you safe, you can't turn it off just like that. They will become less bossy and get used to you making your own way with time, but it will take time. My youngest has been out of the house for almost 2 years and I still find myself being "Mom" I really don't do it intentionally and I do try hard to curb it, but you never totally stop being "Mom". One other thing...they wouldn't be trying to warn you about this friend if they didn't love you so take that to heart, you are loved, so do your best to ride out the storm, it will improve.

 

I have my 19 year old stepbrother living with me after he was thrown out of his house by his mother. I just turned 32, he's been at my house for about 4 months. He was drinking and drugging pretty bad for a while but I have him working full time now and off of the crap. He has some pretty bad friends and has put some distance between them and himself.

I am sure he wants to slug me a few times a week, but he never really gives me any crap. Basically, at this age, you don't know anything. This may not make sense to you but you have to learn to be independent, how to make choices, get your priorities straight. You seem like a good kid but knowledge is what takes you places. Independence and ignorance is a dangerous combo. Be glad you parents look out for you. Most of the really F'd up people of the world had parents that just truned them loose.

In ten years you will understand all of this, for now, just roll with it and do your best. Your parents have a lot more knowledge than you. Just wait until your 18 year old son tries to tell you how it is someday.

Good luck

 

That's funny...

My parents have always encouraged me to have friends, after all, friends are good for you. My friend is not a bad influence on me at all, we don't drink or do drugs or get wasted, etc,, Their reasons were very off-the-wall and not fully understood and biased. They were making conclusions on assumptions. I myself know their statements are wrong.. I don't have to be myself to figure that out. I really feel like this is complete b.s. and uncalled for! My parents were making up excuses, excuses they were accusing me of for not even happening...when, in fact, they were never even in-depth discussed of BY my parents (authority). Now my parents are making it like it's me and my friend's fault for "not doing this" and "not doing that" like I was supposed to read my parents' minds. This is so unbelieveable I cannot even .... let's just put it this way, the PAIN of this agony hurts so bad I can feel it in my chest. I'm seriously lost.

 

Hey FL..First off, I hope your feeling better. I was sick about 3 weeks ago and it lasted 2 weeks. Now every once in a while I get a little cough or runny nose like im on the edge of getting sick again. Lots of gingerale and chicken soup, thats the key, oh yeh..rest also.

Now about your parents.Trust me I know what your going thru. Although my parents never told me who to hang out with or not, they were pretty strick on some other things and that pissed me off to no end. When I was 16 and 17 I thought I knew it all and had life figured out. Man was I wrong. Now im not saying what your parents are doing is right or wrong, but I'll try to give you a little advice. I would talk (not yell) to your parents and ask them why they think hes a bad influence. Tell them you want to be real honest. If they have some good valid points then maybe there right. You need to tell them why hes not a bad influence. I had a friend that was just crazy all the time, always did dumb stuff, broke my front window, crashed my car, bla bla bla..weve been friends for 20 years now and my Mom loves him to death. At the time though, they though he was just a crazy kid and I didnt need friends like that, they actually hated when he came over the house. But it all worked out. I know you want to do your own thing and you'll be 18 in a few days and all but really listen to your parents. I think the best thing to do is like I said, talk to them. Maybe come to a comprimise. Prove to your parents hes not a bad influence on you. You sound like a good person and you care about your parents. It shows, by you calling them to let them know you made it school alright. Thats awesome. Although there were times I hated and I mean HATED my parent , I loved them that much more and know, I wouldnt be where I am today without them. This will work out and soon enough you will understand where your parents are coming from. Trust me , take a little crap from them now and it will help you in your future. Just dont ruin your relationship with them over anything. There not gonna be here forever. My dad died when he was only 56. That was only a 9 years after I got out of high school. I spent 7 of those years in the military or away in school. I only had 2 years of my adult life to really hang out with my dad. He was my BEST friend. It hurts even today to look at his picture on my wall and know that I cant just walk out to the shop and have a beer with him. FL...listen to your parents, im not saying give in to them, just listen to what they have to say, they truely do know whats best for you, you will have 2 of the best friends you could ever ask for in a few years once your out of school and on your own.. Good luck. If you need any help or just need to talk email me.

 

Hey FL, Take some Thera flu, it's at the drug store. My cousin is a Pharmasist (?). He recommends this kick butt stuff. Sorry you are having a hard time at school and with parents. Man, I was just like you. Maybe more nutts. I hated my Parents. They were control freaks. When I turned 18, I joined the Navy to see the world. Yeah, I showed them. I jumped out of the pan into the fire. Stupid, stupid, stupid. Well, I got through those 4 years. Life gets tougher, even when you get older. I started to think maybe my Parents knew more than I gave them credit for. Nobody's perfect raising kids. I now have an 18 yr old son. His head is as hard as a brick. If I say the sky is blue, he says it's green. I guess he takes after me. We lock horns on a regular basis. He cant wait till he moves out and goes off to college. Can you believe, I call my Dad every day now. I'm in SC, he's in LA.
My 16 yr old daughter had a boy friend I didnt like. He was lazy, had long stringy hair, and acted like a dope, even though he didnt do drugs. My daughter really liked this punk. This kid wasnt really bad, I just had a bad feeling about him. She finally broke up with him, because eventually he did her wrong. I'm not saying Parents are always right, but maybe most of the time. My two kids mean the world to me. They don't have a clue how much I worry about them. They actually think I like making them mad. I believe your Parents Love you more than you will ever know. They are just trying to do what they see best (right or wrong). It would be easier for them to just let you go do your own thing. Your Parents might be dead wrong but, you need to communicate with them and talk things out and believe your parents care for you. Another thing, friends come and go, but your parents will be with you to the end. You'll be the one taking care of them one day. I joke with my Dad sometimes, and say hey, you better be nice to me, one day I'll be picking out your nursing home, ha-ha. Yeah, he laughs too. Take it easy FL. You can do it.

 

I'm pretty much agreeing with everyone here. Have a talk with them. Let them know how you feel.

I have been in your shoes, just a few years ago matter of fact. We we disagreed I acted mature, laid out on the table why I was right, listened to what they had to say, and we compromised.

Honestly, when they're like "Because I said so" don't take that. Make them tell you "why" but always keep it civil. Show them you're an adult and the better days will follow.