Hey! Just checkin' in on ya - you've been in my thoughts.

Things don't get much better, even a year later. My ex happened to be here when I was outside doing something. I walk back inside and he says, "The phone rang for you - some guy, must have been your boyfriend or something." I asked him who it was - he said he didn't know, it must have been my boyfriend. I DON'T HAVE A BOYFRIEND?!?!? I have been racking my brain for over an HOUR trying to figure out which man may have called me and for what!!!

for pity's sake, you think that at thirty-five years old the man could have asked to take a message?!?!?

Anyhow... you've been in my thoughts. I know it's rough, and you'll get through it.

 

Thanks guys and gals,
I appreciate knowing I'm in your thoughts. It does get a little easier everyday, still hurts like he!! though. So many questions I have that will never be answered, partly because there are no answers and because I don't think I will ever hear the truth from her.
I still haven't been served with the petition. Our negotiations are still on-going. Right now she gets the house and only takes 25% of my retirement. I think she's going to ask for more, probably 30%.
She applied for the mortgage loan the other day and that's the big hold up right now. Once that's worked out we can finish the little details.
No lawyer on my part yet, I feel like it's a waste until I find out if she can buy the house or not. She also told her lawyer to hold off on the decree until the house is resolved.
I will definitely let you you all know the outcome. Everyone has been so supportive, I appreciate it very much.

 

Hang in there 2k! I may be concidering the big D myself. Us guys allways get the shaft! Check in on ya later!

 

Man! ya'll shoulda been married to ME!

I just bought my ex a "new to him" pickup truck! He's being forgiven child support for a year to finish school and there's no alimony even being CONSIDERED....

Guys don't always get the shaft.... sometimes we women get to take it too... just depends on which spouse prefers to be the most merciful...

 

2000Lariat - you have mail! Also - GET A LAWYER! A GOOD ONE! My sister is going thru a divorce & she's getting nailed to the wall because her idiot husband's lawyer is a fighter & her's wasn't. Even if she weren't my sister I'd feel bad for her! My brother in law left her & 3 kids for his g/f & she is supporting the kids & house. I strongly advise you not to wait & make sure your lawyer is going to protect you! I'm not saying to get someone who wants to bleed her dry but they HAVE to watch out for you!
Good luck - you're in my prayers. God Bless.

 

AND don't you make a mean lasagna?!

 

2000, stop messing around and get a lawyer. I spent the entire year getting divorced. I made it as miserable as I could for her. I stopped paying for things, I told her that I had to replace my lifestyle so I could no longer afford hers. If you think for a minute that things can be settled, you're wrong. I tried it. I even offered her $100K cash to just divorce me, she wanted more. I made her life miserable until she was broke. then I only had to give her $68,500. Then after the divorce she was broke again, so I got her real estate from her cheap, I am reselling it to make back my $70K.

Now she is broke again, and she says she hates me for what I did to her. I treated her like a queen but she is bipolar and noone can be married to her. She likes to give me weekly updates on who she is screwing and blowing, even still, six months after the divorce. I finally got sick of it and sent her a pic of a naked 19 year old with her hands wrapped around my head board rails. She has now run off with some guy and I haven't heard from her in a while but I live in peace.

I hated to be so mean but it was the only thing that worked.

The perfect cure for the divorce blues, a new Mustang Mach 1 and about 5 girlfriends.

It's gonna be rough, the sooner you change your attitude and get tough, the better. Remember, marriage is a contract of sorts and she did not live up to her end. That person is the one that should suffer not the one that lives up to the contract.

 

OH, one more thing, one of the girlfriends should be between 18 and 24, they have "healing" qualities. Good luck.

 

yeah, i spent three years perfecting my recipe - then had it taste tested by a friend who owned his own italian restaurant...

However, as the "healing properties" of 19-24 year old girls are pointed out... I'm finding little marketable about a 30-something single mom with a boy... Being a good cook and owning a cool truck doesn't seem to be enough.... Maybe instead of paying off my house I should opt for massive plastic surgery so I can compete?

I'm just joking on that one - there's more to life than having someone there for me - and if they're going to be there for me, they'll like me regardless of whether or not I get a boob job and some botox!

 

do you use ground beef, italian sausage or both in that recipe? I like to use only spicy italian sausage, it adds a lot more flavor.

 

Well, since you make a mean lasagna I'd be willing to overlook the botox...

 

get all dressed up, go out and find yourself some big dumb pretty 20 something guy, tell him you just want to **** off your ex and he's just what you need, take a picture and send it to your ex and tell him that you didn't know women could have orgasms too. If thats not healing I don't know what is.

 

ROFLMAO!!!

I use both italian sausage and ground beef in my lasagna - straight italian sausage makes it too greasy...

five cheeses

and on the 20-something guy... though the imagery was classic....

I couldn't use another human being that way. I'm a relationship-only kinda girl... but the "I didn't know women could have orgasms too..!!!" rofl (gasp) roflmao (gasp)

 

2000Lariat, how are things? If they haven't improved, I guess I'm in the same boat with you. I never imagined it could happen to me. Your thread here helped me survive the worst part when she was trying to convince me it was over, after 14 years of marriage. A 3 month separation for the military was all it took, for her to find out she didn't need me. The day after Christmas, she asked me for a divorce again. I think I believe her now. I keep telling myself things can't get worse...then they get worse!!!

Thanks for sharing, and starting this thread. I was really wondering about you over the holidays.

 

Hey 2000Lariat. I couldn't offer any comments but felt it was time for some classics....

"Ah, yes, divorce... from the Latin word meaning to rip out a man's genitals through his wallet."
Robin Williams.

"Do you know what it means to come home at night to a woman who'll give you a little love, a little affection, a little tenderness? It means you're in the wrong house, that's what it means."
George Burns.

"We sleep in separate rooms, we have dinner apart, we take separate vacations. We're doing everything we can to keep our marriage together."
Rodney Dangerfield

"The only time my wife and I had a simultaneous orgasm was when the judge signed the divorce papers."
Woody Allen

"The difference between divorce and legal separation is that legal separation gives a husband time to hide his money."
Johnny Carson