I to had a mom who knew all and said all and drove us all nuts. But both my parents died in a 10 month span and man do i miss her bitching each and everyday since she's been gone...
cherish (if possible ) every 30 min. visit because when you visit them latter you will be the only one talking and its a real lonely visit then...

 

serrota, you are right, I posted in the wrong thread.
My bad!

 

Been off cigs for 24 hours and already losing your power of reasoning.

 

Yeah, I hear you.
and for some odd reason I will miss her when she goes. but I won't miss her for what she was, I will miss her for what she should have been.
My mom used to be abusive. Only to me though, not to my sister. If the laws were like they are now, I would have been taken away from her. The funny part was she took me to a psych when I was in grade school because I was withdrawn and wouldn't do my school work, and nobody could figure out why. My sister got straight A's. Maybe she was afraid she was next.
I got a job when I was 14, and moved out when I was 18 and didn't speak to her for a few years. Finally I told her off, told her I can forgive her, but I won't allow it to continue, and after years of either leaving, or hanging up when she started in, (once I had to get physical back) she has comprimised to being only selfish and critical. I'm not sure if I would bother having any type of relationship with her at all, if it wasn't for my kids who deserve some kind of grandmother.
My 9 year old likes her, (she does like my mom's husband and ignores her when she is being critical) but my 16 year old smarts off back.
Her: "Up north?! Where will you live?" (like they don't have houses up there.)
My son: "In a shack"
Her: "What will you do for a living?"
Him: "Chop wood"
When she leaves or we hang up, I am usually in a bad mood, then my kids tell me how much they love me, and make me feel better.

When we have gone to FL to visit her, she behaves better because we only go when my sister goes. My sister goes down there every year, and twice she has paid our airfare, and lets us stay with her and her family in the condo she rents for the week. We usually leave after 3 or 4 days so my sister can have some family time to themselves.
If we split up and I am alone with my mom, she starts giving me crap about something or other. This summer I was accused of not enlighting or broadening my daughters horizons. My sister had previously told her she was taking her daughter to some "brownie" thing in Chicago. and I was told "Life isn't just about Trucks" and that I should get more involved with my daughter. My son was sitting there, and he rolled his eyes. Maybe if she ever listened to me she would know that I take my kids to the Zoo, Museums, Concerts, Movies, The Detroit Science Center, The Pumpkin farm in the Fall, the Orchards, The Train Station, Parks, ect. and I don't need the excuse, or company of a brownie troop to do it. It's my work Truck that gets us all there, and my work Truck that pays for everything we have. and it is because I have the job I have, that I even have the time to spend with my kids. I only work 3 to 5 hours a day, and because I do it in my Truck, my kids can come with me. No life isn't about Trucks, but my life, and my kids enjoyment of life depends on my Truck.
Damn, that feels good to get off my chest.
Don't tell me to tell her that, I have tried. She interupts, gets defensive, picks out one thing to harp on, or just plain doesn't listen. and that is only if by some chance she answers her phone. Mostly I call, get her machine, leave a nice "Called to see how your doing" message and she doesn't even call me back. My house fire was in May, and she didn't even know about it until she got here because she was 'so busy' she couldn't return my call.
To anyone who has a decent mom, be sure to call her up or visit for no reason and be sure to tell her you love her. Oh, and don't forget your Dad too.