So I got the wheels and tires for a stock 4x4 or Fx4, but it still does not have the stance of one. What small lift could achieve this?

This is how it sits now:

 

Browse through the suspension forums, I'm sure it's been covered. But a 2.5" level with some blocks in the rear would be the cheapest thing to get ya close

 

what about a 3" body lift? I never tow anything so the bumper doesnt matter. Just the more i looked into leveling kits and stuff, the worse they are on suspension.

 

A 3" body would do the trick, just a very involved install. It can get pricey if you don't do it yourself. They also have their own potential issues, but I'm not a pro on body lifts so you'd have to look into that. Most people run PA (I believe performance accessories) body lifts. And most guys on here will vouch that the levels only wear the ball joints a little prematurely. My 2" level has been fine so far!

 

Your options for small lifts basically are:
3" Performance Accessories body lift cheap if you can do install, if not figure 500+ for install
3-3.5" spindle up front, block/aal/shackle in the rear
coil spring spacer or lift coil up front, block/aal/shackle in the rear

For the coil spring spacers/lift coils if you wanna do it cheap your limited to 2" up front. If you have some more cash to spend you can get the aftermarket control arms and go up to 3". Lift coils ride better than the spacers but cost more. But chances are once you go up a little your gonna wanna go higher after that.

Check the link in my sig for some more info.

 

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