I'm reminded of a saying that stands true. "When two people don't get along, someone has to play the grownup." You're doing the right thing being there, regardless of how it seems. You always have to be better than the other person. Stay strong, dude. - Og

 

Well I got to talk to the Attorneys today actually just got off the phone with her. She helped settle the fact that I can't be responsible for any of his debt. She said even taking the power of attorney or exsecutor of estate would not make me liable for anything he owes on.

Only the fact that once im either of the two formentioned labels I have to pretty much handle all the hassleing and tassling of it. Like letting the state know hes going into probate, dealing with the phone calls and putting the house up for sale. From that stand point the only reason I declined that is because I have a 6 month old, and a wife who is on the hunt for a good job with her degree. Even me myself is looking into a different company who just got some bailout to start a new career. I just don't have the time for that his wife will have to be the one who takes care of all that.

I feel a little better knowing that hundreds of thousands are gonna be dropped on my head, now I can focus towards trying to make this transition easier on him. That is if he will let me...Thanks guys!

 

A parent and child relationship is a two-way street. It sounds to me as if your father did a lousy job holding up his end of the bargain -- I see no reason for you to waste too much of your time worrying about his current situation. As the old adage says, "We reap what we sow......"

 

Shewt, I know this has been going threw my head now so much I have a headache most of the days. I just dont know what to do.

 

Not everyone is a 'tit for tat' kinda guy, and I don't get the impression you are one of those fellas.
Just because you're old man didn't do right by you, doesn't mean you can't do right by him.

The high ground is always a good option, and considering there isn't much time left, you will always feel proud of what you did.

Good luck with whatever you decide.

 

Yes.... it is the estate that will be liable to the creditors. As an inheritor you will get any that might be left. Sounds like nothing. But your not responsible for any of the debt. They will and can go after their debts during probate of the estate. Any claim they have will be against the estate. All claims will be settled before any disbursements (if any).

 

You only go through this once, and the time is now. Every thing else in your life you'll get a chance to do again next year. You get one chance for this. Just do what you want to do now, what you need to do now. Stay the course because that is who you are, because it means something to you.