its amazing how death works... and when and how peoples "time to go" is...

i was heading home tonight and witnessed the worst car wreck ever.. there was a black family and an arabian guy and they were doing around 85-90 and the arab hit the black family and the black family went into a barral roll and the husband and the daugter were slung out of the car's dozen barral rolls... i turned around to help and the husband died wile i was there and when they put the body bag over his body my heart dropped and i started just crying right there... i think the daugter is paralized becasue she was alive and responding but could not move.. the wife was fine becasue she had her seat belt on and i think there was a baby in the back seat that died also becasue the firemen were pulling her out of the crushed car and she was holding on for dear life screaming "MY BABY MY BABY OH LORD MY BABY" and the arabian guy was going into shock all by himself saying "OMG OMG there dead there all dead OMG" so i had to calm him down... i had to leave the scene becasue i couldnt stand to look at the blue body bag one more time... i just cant grasp the concept of death... i dont understand.... i hate it... for the man to be there one second with his family and the next to be struggling for life on the side of the road and to die a few minutes later... i did not know them but it tore my heart up to be there and see such a tragity... i just pray for the family and the arabian guy becsaue the police were being EXTREMLY rude the the arab just because of his "race"... sorry... i just had to vent... its been eating me up all night

 

Vehicular mansluaghter, the Arabian deserved everything he got IMO. Very sorry to hear about you going though this, you did what you could. Grab a stiff drink and try to get a good nights rest

 

Man, I am sorry for you. That is a tough thing to deal with, as is the death, but you can't beat yourself up. You did the right thing by helping people in their time of need. I will pray for you and the people involved. God bless.

 

it was just as much the black familys falt of the wreck as it was the arabs falt... but now that man's life is ruined becasue of both of the drivers stupid actions... in this case i would much rather been the man who died then the acused arab that is going to go behind bars for a freak accadent... i mean what if that was you.... you had no control and someones life was taken becasue of you... you have to live with that gilt every moment of your life... and judged becasue your a differnet race...

 

I was not there, so I am only supplied with the information given. I dont see why the police could not have been treating him poorly because, as you said, he caused the accident. If he was to blame, accident or not, he should be held accountable.

 

ya... i guess if i was in the situation i would have blamed him too... but when i was with him alone when it first happened just the look in his eyes and he was so young and how worried he was for the other family... i guess i just always try to see it from all the point of views... but i'm headin off to bed... i'll catch you guys tomorrow!

 

wow. sorry to hear about your night.

I hope the daughter is okay and the baby!!

 

Sorry you had to go through that. Death is not pretty under the best of circumstances and a horrific car crash is definitely not the best of circumstances

 

Ahh dude, I know your pain.
I dont know how EMT, Police, and fire handel it everyday.
The guy would upset me, but I could handel it, the baby on the other hand.... I would literally be sick and weeping on the scene.

 

Things like this are a tragedy to everyone involved. My sympathy goes out to all.

Take a lesson though, an accident involving excessive speed is deadly ........ accident involving excessive speed and no seat belt is double or triple deadly. Baby car seats are incorrectly installed 75% of the time, that's a crime! Maybe or maybe not in this case, who knows. This is a little human depending on adults to protect them. Never did I drive 85-90 with MY children in the car!

Gross negligence, gross stupidity ......... tragic highway carnage!

Did you ask the cop if he was rude to the Arab because he was an Arab??? Could have been because he was the main contributing factor to the accident .... hmmmm !!

It happens every day....
http://www.wcnc.com/news/topstories/....617c7294.html

Sorry you had to witness this unnecessary tragedy. Gives you a whole new respect for those that HAVE to see it everyday!

 

This is why i wish people would respect police officers and the EMT more. everyone is out to hate the police, to avoid them, some even to hurt them and be looked at as a positive thing. It is one of the hardest jobs, between car accidents and trying to keep the streets violence free and peacful. I know several officers, some are retired and are so troubled by the horrific accidents and crimes they have seen done to people. You have to be so mentally strong to endure stuff like that everyday and not go berzerk.

 

In my 20 years of Law Enforcement, & investigating fatal traffic accidents, I usually can get over the death of adults, but children however are a whole different story altogether. I still bothers me, about a young boy on his last day of school, being run over by a F-250, & dragged approx. 20' under the truck, bike & body, because the driver had no idea the boy rode in front of him as he had negotiated a left turn. Long story short, I was the last one who spoke with this poor boy, at the scene, as he died on the way to the hospital, of massive internal injuries, at least I had comforted him before his passing, yes, it bothers me to this day, because it was a child........time will heal you eventually...........however you will never forget.....good luck......

 

i'm thinking about going into law enforcement but i dotn know how i could handle if i pulled up and children were dead... i guess it kinda gets me becasue i Race motocross and i've had 3 CLOSE calls where there was only one reason i survived... The Lord was watching over me... my brother races too and i sometimes cant even watch him race becasue if i saw him have a fatal accident i dont know how i would go on... i onow...

 

Where in Mississippi did this happen?

Deaths are hard to deal with, and it sounds cliche to say it, but when I work an accident like that, I have to detach myself from the human element, my training takes over and I leave it at that...otherwise, I'd go insane.

Most of the time, I don't really think about it until after the rush is over, or I'm lying in bed trying to go to sleep. It's crazy what brings up memories of crashes like that. Just today, I was in the grocery store and I saw a teenager who reminded me of a suicide we ran about 2 years ago. I haven't thought about him in a while. Weird.

Try to forget about it if you can. If it bothers you too much, find someone to talk to.

 

If you find you have a hard time expressing yout thoughts to friends, sometimes they dont understand if they havent been there. There are 100K guys and gals here, we may joke and razz each other but when it's something serious like this, then notice how professiional this thread has been. You can always vent here. If it still bothers you, then you might have to see a phsychiatrist to help seperate your thoughts and seperate your thoughts from you. I tragic scene like you described, can cause serious ripples in many aspects of your life. I likely would have to too. I get to entangled, to involved, to easy.

You did everything you could, sometimes there is nothing that we as humans can do.