Of course you dont see it that way, you are blinded by infactuation combined with inexperince.
10 years from now is when you would come to realize what you had done, or technically what you didn't do.

 

Does anyone else around here suspect that the shining light 95'F-150 sees glimmering in the distance is actually the headlight of a locomotive that will eventually bear down on him........???

 

I'll also add:

If by chance you were or are together with her 10 years from now, then you would subconsiously blame her and your relationship would sour.

Of course it's not going to end....... Good things never end. No one can gurantee that it will always be good though. You can bet that there will be bad though, no relationship is all roses, how bad is unknown. When things go really bad then one or both parties want to cut all ties. If it's just her and she wants t cut all ties wirth you, and you want to try and work things out, then you are in a situation 1000 x's worse than you are now.

 

What bad could come out of today if I just tell her how I see us? I understand it is slim to none but even if its .01% there is still that little chance. I will never know if I try? Like they say if it isn't what she wants then there are millions of other fish in the sea. I know that isn't the way to look at it. I'll just have to see what she says but I'm going in there and lighten the mood a little have a good day with her and then pull her aside and talk.

 

Why rush?
If she is worth the effort, then spend the time to build that chance to atleast 80%.

But if your just wanting to bag her and move on to the other fish then go for it. That is likely how she will see it anyway. FYI

Making yourself to avaliable to early can kill any future chances.....

So you have to decide what role you want in her life.
If you want to be the player and just nail her, then play that role, she will respect the honesty. Don't promise tomarrow if you have no intentions of keeping it.
If you want a tomarrow with her, then build it. Which takes ALOT of time and ALOT of effort, sometimes "especially in your position" it may take years........

 

We all do/did that......

Everyone thinks thier situation is different

To be old and wise you must first be young and dumb.

Through mistakes comes experince, from experince grows wisdom.

 

Ha...got a date sort of thing with her tuesday. I got her number today too..score! I asked her today if she wanted to go riding and she said call me in a little bit and I'll tell you. So I call my friends to see if they are still riding and they aren't so I took a shower put on some nice cloths (some khaki pants with the fringe on the bottom and a nice tight Abercrombie shirt that makes my chest look ripped) and went back to work to tell her. So we were talking and asked if she wanted to go tuesday. She said yes just give her a call. So I'm like pumped right now. I feel invinsible. I am going to go into work tomarrow and let her know the plans. Do you think it'd be a good idea to ask another girl from work to go too or should I take the time to talk seriously with her? I mean after me going back today and she wanted me to follow her out I think it is obvious that I like her and I think she knows. I just hope she likes me. I mean she gave me her number and told me to call her up when we are ready to go. I'd like to do more than just ride four wheelers with her. She makes me laugh so much. I just have a great time when I am around her.

On the quick score thing. Thats not what I am looking for. I don't care if we dated a year or 2 before I got some I just want to be with her. There are some girls just by thier attitudes you think short-term relationship then others you think long term relationships this one would be a long term one. I'm just tired of being single. I'm tired on a friday or saturday night there is nothing to do. We haven't partied since the night our party spot got busted and our friend went to jail and several got minor consumpts. I just really hope this pans out.

Oh I forgot to mention her dad has a four wheeler so I would have to get a trailer and go pick her up so more brownie points. She also wanted me to walk her out today. I'm just errrrr I'm just so eager to spend time with her.

 

Just be yourself.....whatever's meant to happen will happen - good or bad.

 

Why the rush? Are you serious? I have liked this girl for about 4-5 months now! There is no rush! On tuesday when I pick her up do you think it is a good idea to ask her like where we stand at, if we could even have a relationship, tell her I like her or should I find a formal time and do it? Ah screw that I'll just ask her tuesday. I'm pumped! Now that I got the digits I want to call her and see if she wants to hang out tonight or go watch a movie. But I don't want to bother her. I still have an assignment of a prom date or I could go alone but that just doesn't seem as fun to me. A few of my friends just broke up with thier girls and they are going scag so it might not be as bad.

 

CHILL.

there are a few girls i like but im giving it a few months for them to get to know me

from my experience theres nothing girls find creepier or more loser-ish than someone who wants to go out with them right away.

 

You youngsters are at least going after actual women, some of the "advice givers" here just look at pictures of women on their monitors, that's their only game.

 

Congratulations!

Reverse psychology works every time!

I still advise against work relationships, but if you feel that you must then throw it all in the wind and see where it lands.

Now one last advise that is not reverse.....
Don't "ask" where you stand......
This is not a girl, this is almost a woman.
However confidence is the biggest attractant for either.
Maintain your cool, be cool, be yourself and have fun. Don't get caught up in the "politics" and social pressures of "dating", don't want labels placed here and there for this and that. Nothing says "I am clingy and needy" any more than, so are we boyfriend girlfriend or what?" . Just enjoy the moment.
If you must ask choose your wording carefully.

Maybe something like,
So, I was thinking about taking out Beth next week....... Nothing serious and I know you and I aren't a couple, but I want to make sure thats cool with you because, I would; like to see you again.

This tells her that 1: You care for her more than anyone else but your not going to wait around on her if she isn't interested. 2. Puts the pressure on her and makes you less available. (Which is a good thing.) All people want what they think they cant have!



BTW yes I look at internet **** (got to love it!!!) and I've been married to my high school sweet heart for 12 years next month.

Edited to add:
Also I knew I was going to marry my wife teh second I layed eyes on her my Jr year. Her cousin introduced us between classes in highschool. I think we had 5 mins to get our books and get to class inbetween classes. In that first 5 mins that I met her, I found out her name, what she drove, where she lived and got her phone number. HEHE

 

Now my parents know about her. I asked if dad would let me borrow a trailer so I could take shannon and her four wheeler. I assume that they think she is my age. I don't know if I should tell them or now or later? I am thinking later if we do get serious. I called up one of my friends and got the details of when we are going and all that stuff. So I'll go in tomarrow and talk to her and tell her the plans. I think I'll leave work around 4 tuesday so I can go load up and go pick her up so I can meet my friends to go ride. I told him that she went to V.U. (local college) so it won't be a suprise to him that she is older.

Oh and the statement you said about "Beth" is that a lie I am soppose to say or am I soppose to line up a date first.

 

Either way...... but lies are hard becasue if she is interested then she will be asking around about "beth", trying to find out who she is, where shes from, what she looks like, what your doing, other wise sizing up her competition. If there is no one and she is interested in you but doesn't say. (Which sounds like she might from what you've said.) then she will find out that "beth" is imaginary.

 

If you're that serious about this chick there a few things that I'd follow.
1. always be yourself, an older girl that will always be able to see thru any b.s. you throw her way.
2. just have fun and take what's given to you.
3. don't play games (i.e. making up another chick), again she'll see thru all that b.s..