I've got a wedding rehearsal tonight at 6. I get off work at 5... it's about an hour drive with traffic, so if I went straight there I could make it, but I don't want to go or even the wedding tomorrow...

A really good friend of mine is getting married tomorrow, and I'm a groomsman, but one of the bridesmaids is my ex-fiance. I haven't seen her in over 6 years, and it's been a pretty good 6 years, well at least the last 5 of them...

I'm feeling phisically ill worrying about having to see her again, and the thought of maybe having to talk to her...



Sorry, just felt like sharing... something I don't usually do...

 

Hell maybe you'll get lucky!

 

No doubt!!! Grudge *****!!!

 

She's gonna be just as fearful of you making a scene as you are of her. Be happy for her that she has moved on with her life and allow her to be happy for you. Don't let the demons in your head ruin this day for your buddy. Remember, it's HIS day to be the focus of attention. If you insist on participating in an argument with the ex, it will negatively affect many others besides yourself. Be the bigger man and just be pleasant and allow her to be pleasant as well. Allow yourself to have a good time and celebrate your friend's happiness.

 

I agree with the above... It will make you nervous. But play it cool, afterwards everyone will have a lot of respect for you because in the back of some their minds they may have thought that there may be a conflict.. but its your buddys day. Play it cool, everyone will be saying just how wonderful the wedding was and those in the "know" will say just how cool and mature you were. Then afterwards go have a cold stiff drink on me

 

^^ That's good advice right there! ^^

Did I just say that for RJS???



I hope your able to be colder than ice.

Let us now how it goes tonight!

 

Well, I made it.

Just to set the record I'm generally one to avoid conflict (however I may not start a fight, I will stick around till it's finished)

I wasn't planning on saying anything to her, and as luck would have it I never even looked her in the eye. Just avoided her the whole night. I found out later (MUCH to my surprise) that she didn't go to the batchelorette party, and was planning on skipping tonights cookout (after the rehearsal), because she felt intimidated by my GF, who decided to go out with some friends to night. The ex still avoided the cookout, at least until I left... BTW, the two have never met or even seen each other as far as I know...

It was rather uncomfortable, but I made it through. Just to fill in a few blanks the ex in question is my friend's (the groom) younger sister. He and I have spent the last 2 years becoming friends again... Somehow her little games made me out to be the bad guy... As if I somehow could be responsible for her cheating and lying... Well, apparently the family has come around to my way of thinking whether they openly admit it or not...

Just hope tomorrow goes as well... My GF will be there tomorrow, so I really don't think anything bad will happen... Just brings back a lot of memories seeing the family together again...

I only had two beers tonight, but now I'm sitting home alone wishing the fridge was full (it's empty, just food)... Don't have any clue when the GF will be home... So, I'll probably just screw around on here till I fall asleep...

 

Ugh!!!

 

Im drunk..but F her..I know the heartache the ex brings around..I had an issue with mine and my current girlfriend, soon to be my wife..she decided after 2 years, to talk to me as if nothing happened..and I blew her off..well this made her want me more, and I had to stay strong with my love for my current, and tell her "you had your chance and blew it, now leave me alone and let me be happy" she ran off crying..it was the best I felt.

 

Glad things went smoothly for you tonight closer and I hope tomorrow goes just as well!

 

Hope it goes well for you. Seeing an ex is tough, but if there are no feelings anymore, it shouldn't be too bad. Seems like you moved on, so don't worry and just have fun!

 

I would just go with a positive attitude that I was gonna have a great time,
and if things for some reason started too get out of order in a bad way, I would develop a quick case of mytruckneedstogoforarideitis and off I would
go. .....................................

 

been there done that a long time ago

i just ignored her and all her pals all nite

i did not discrimanate
i'm a equal opportunity ignorer

...zap!

 

I am gonna have to remember that one.

Good luck with the wedding, I am getting ready to have a wedding next year and my bride's ex wants to come. I am not to sure how happy I am about that but we will see what happens.

 

Well, things turned out pretty good. I did the ignore thing... However, she parked right beside the Stang (driver's side), and as we were leaving she was loading some things in her car. I went around to let open the door for my GF, and as she was getting in the car the ex yelled "It was nice to meet you" (apparently they met each other and discussed the video my GF shot of the wedding). They exchanged a few simple pleasantries, then as I walked around to my side I had to walk right past the ex. The closest I had been all day. I just kept my eyes low, and walked right by.

Later I felt a little bad. Maybe I should have at least said hi or something. To completely snub her after she had talked nicely to my GF was pretty rude, but I just don't have anything to say to her. From what everyone says she hasn't changed a bit. Which just makes me mad especially since she now has two boys, who usually get dumped at her brother's or parents for who knows how long...


But my buddy is now a happily married man. We spent the rest of the day with him, (the ex stayed away) his new wife and her mother and brothers. Got home last night around midnight...